For today's blog article, I want to share with you an idea that I am developing from a period of reflection and research and am going to start to apply it to my life.
Reflect, Establish, GO!
This was inspired in part by what I have been doing in my own life with regards to relationships and determining my future goals in that area, and it is inspired in part by a FREE virtual conference that I came upon at one of my favorite work at home opportunities blog that I follow (Real Ways to Earn Money Online). They posted a link to the Work Your Way 2020 virtual conference, and I would recommend the conference to anyone considering working at home. It is a collection of free videos with people out there doing it, and they have great life lessons, too.
However, this and my personal reflection has led me to think that everyone should do the following 3 things with their lives....not just work but their lives.
The other day, I broke down to tears in watching an episode of Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist. The series deals with a woman that by freak of nature starts to see the inner feelings of others in musical numbers acted out by them and others. In this episode, Zoey has a "glitch" after hearing that her father only has weeks to live. Instead of just seeing the feelings of others, she starts to ACT OUT her own feelings in visible form to everyone around her, leading to some embarrassing and funny displays.
What hit home for me was when she realized that the reason it was happening was that she was not dealing with her emotional reactions from the news but was keeping herself busy to avoid it. I began to reflect on the fact that this was what I WAS DOING, too. A little over 6 months ago, I learned that my relationship was over, and it was sorta a last straw of optimism in my life, leading to a period of anger, resentment, bitterness, and work....not at anyone or anything in particular. It was just my own self destruction being shown to the world in very ugly ways, as I concluded that there was nothing positive left.....and importantly wasn't trying to FIND a positive outcome but was just doing what I needed to do or felt I had to do to just get by.
What I needed to do was, instead, spend some time mourning what had ended and remember that I WAS STILL GOOD and to identify what talents or dreams that I still valued in myself and would like to achieve.
Next, we come to the part that I am doing, right now. You need to establish a plan to GET from where you are to where you want to be. That means...first...deciding where you want to go or what you want to be. It takes two points to form a straight line, so you need a destination.
I am researching options for my next business, but I am ALSO doing it to understand what sexual, romantic, hobby, tv, clothing, and other personal desires I would have, also.
Finally, once you have established your plan, you need to just GO TOWARDS it, daily. Don't be like...ugh...I have to work to pay these bills. Ugh...I don't like where I am. Ugh...I wish I was happy. Instead, be driven to ACT, DAILY, to move towards the goals, ESPECIALLY when setbacks occur.
Personally, I don't feel that I need to achieve a goal or success to be happy. If I can establish what that destination looks like, all I need is to know I am getting there to be satisfied and inspired to conquer each new day.
So, I hope these ideas are as useful to you as they have been to me, today.