I have been busy with training for my new job that will be a piece of my personal resurrection plan, so I have not posted this week. But, I wanted to bring together several social media points that I made with a conclusion for the benefit of others. I will do this in two directions...one for each of the blogs I manage. Here, I will focus on the personal self care aspect of it, while on bootyfinancial.com I will talk about the financial advice.
For a long time, I believed that God would take care of all my needs, and in that time I faced financial struggle, spousal mental break, personal attacks, and other family and financial ruin. God did not prevent any of that from happening, and the church abandoned me in that time of need.
Then, I believed in the goodness of others for the next decade... in the last 10 years I have lived in Tulsa. In that time, I have seen the same kind of attack on my own health and of the family, financial collapses due to auto problems, legally mandated moves, and more...yet in all of that time, NOT ONE of my friends or family came to my aid. Now, I am preparing from departing the marriage of the last hope I had for humanity caring for me, because she has moved on from me, invalidating my actions for the last several years and deepening my doubt in goodness.
The lesson I have learned in MY life experience testimony is this: you need to take care of yourself, instead of expecting or looking for it to happen from others. In reality, every success that I can look back and see in my own life, I can only see my own actions as the source of those outcomes, and I can credit only myself for every good thing that still remains.
That is not a bitter statement of condemnation. It is a statement of reality, so others do not follow my path and waste the good years of their lives waiting to be saved or helped by others, when you would have accomplished much more to have just continued to build upon the works of your own hands (which you should keep and not sell for anyone else).