I think if anyone has been watching my life over the years, they would have to understand how little I either use or appreciate excuses by myself or anyone else. Yes, there are obstacles, and I have faced more than my fair share of those over the years. Sometimes.. often actually.. I did not get to do or have what I wanted to have, and I have had to work extra hard or change directions or even sell things, along the way.
It is what it is, but it is also NOT what you don't attempt. Or, as the saying goes, you miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. My children can attest to how frustrated I get when one of them BEGINS with a complaint without an attempt or when they give up too easily. Why? I wouldn't tolerate it in MYSELF, and that attitude will set them up for failure in life.
And, that is how I live my life. That is why everyone can attest to the fact that when something negative hit my finances or health or whatever, I IMMEDIATELY set to finding alternatives and doing them. I look for solutions to problems, because I feel it is a waste of time to sit complaining about them without adding ACTIONS to the feelings of discontent. If you are not acting, you are just ensuring that the condition will get worse and consume MORE of our life. A SETBACK is understandable. A CONTINUED SETBACK... well, that is on you.
My current week and for that matter my current summer and fall is a testimony to how I practice what I preach. A year ago, I would NEVER have guessed that at this point in my life I would be working WAY overtime and struggling to not only pay my bills but RE-ESTABLISH my whole social structure, identity, residence, and future plans. None of it was my choice, and yes... having my sense of security and identity pulled out from under me did anger me, but that didn't change the fact... I had to start moving FASTER to fix my situation, not slower.
Indeed, the last few weeks has been a microcosm of that truth. I had to fix my windshield and other auto maintenance in order to start using my new car as a means of income, which was going to be necessary. However, those expenses was not included in the budget, and I knew I was going to have to work harder to make up for them... and work harder I have. The last 8 days has been working all day, from before daylight to nearly dark to not run out of money for RENT, before I could get to my next monthly Appen payment on the 14th. I have worked my normal 20 hours of Appen work, but I have ALSO worked 4-5 hours a day of Ubereats deliveries for 7 days in a row. At an ave 4.5 hours, that is 31.5 hours. Add to that about 1.5 hours a day of Mturk/Prolific/Usertesting, or about 10.5 hours more. Together, it has been a 62 hour work week, and I have three more similar days, ahead of me.
I don't say all of this to brag. I wish I wasn't doing it, either. However, what was the alternative? That is the difference, though. When I face a difficult situation, I look for how I can adjust or overcome it, compared with many that ignore it coming or just surrender and sing woe is me.
Life isn't fair, but the more that you don't act.. the worse it is going to be. I don't believe in excuses as to why you do not act. I believe in adjusting and finding a new path to achieve a new happiness, instead.