"If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid" Epictitus quote in Serendipity
There is a belief out there that doesn't make any sense that we all adopt in personal decisions, very often. It starts with us wondering, "I wonder how I should do this," or "what is the right thing do do.. wear.. say... be." So, what do we do? Well, what do we do with any question we have, lastely. We Google it. It may not actually be Google, but we consult the society at large for the solution, and we might even ask it as a question in our social media. What should I do about X, and they are often very interested in filling in the answer.
However, this presumes that what works for YOU would work for ME or vice versa. So, that's where the "doesn't make sense" part of it comes into play. Our society, more than ever before, is focused on pointing out are own exceptionalism. WE are different from other BECAUSE of these differences. Then, we go to the groupthink to decide what is best for us... why?
Women will point out that a man doesn't understand what it's like to be a woman, and the reverse is true, as well. But, aside from gender or race or whatever, we are all different INDIVIDUALLY within our groups (which kinda makes groups irrevelant). We want others to see our differences, but we obsess over our failures to fit the molds. Why?
What is your happiness? It won't necessarily be like mine. One man's trash is another man's treasure, as they used to say. Many want to be classy and have high status and being a nobody is their failure. However, I dislike being judged by whether I fit in and would rather have the freedom and peace of just being happy in a small group... like myself and a woman that has similar feelings of not needing anyone else to know about our lives.
Regardless, my point I want you to take away is this. You ARE unique. Others won't pay attention to where you agree with them, but they will notice how you are different. To sacrifice that to fit in is to sacrifice that which makes you.. you.. and lose a large part of what makes you happy. So, determine what DOES make you happy and do it. The right people to be in your life will like that you are happy, and it might even attract the right people to join your journey.