How many of you are parents? How often has your children done things against your will and possibly even against you? However, no matter what it is, you are still there, ready to care for them, tomorrow. At no point do you say… “that’s it. I no longer care you.” Why? Because, that’s not the nature of love.
I reflected on this today with regards to past ex’s and how as soon as I did not serve some purpose for them, their “love” disappeared. Why? Think about it. Why would their care disappear, just because we were not together? I was still a human. Indeed, I’ve done actions to help them both, after we parted… because I still would want them to be well… even if apart from me. But, I did not get the same from them.
As the Scripture above says, love .. real love.. is not self serving. It is not rushed. It hopes without giving up, and it is kind. If you are not getting that, it isn’t love but their use of you, till that use is over.
John Wesley once said that a counterfeit of faith is mental assent. It is there when it is convenient, but if someone doesn’t agree with it, it disappears. Love has the same counterfeit… one of the head and not the heart. I think that’s why so many break vows when they want it to end and why so many get angry instead of compassionate.
I’ve made that error a lot in not seeing things for how they are, but I think a big part of that was that I was relying on my own understanding and trying to order a relationship like you order a pizza. As they say, you can’t hurry love, and when it comes it won’t easily go away.