When I was teaching for those months, I was always busy. When I did get free time, I was out trying to retain my sanity by making my life more than teaching or recovering at home. I knew I wanted romance and connections, but I had no time to make it happen or even fully explore my need. So, I satisfied myself. It’s not just teaching. I think many people as they have more single years find ways out of necessity to satisfy themselves and meet their own needs.
Thomas Edison said, “Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” If you don’t have a need, you won’t seek to fill it. Further, if you don’t have a need, there won’t be a place for someone else to be or a way they can romance you. Someone that “has a good life” already and is complete in themselves won’t be able to be completed by or complete any one else.
My time driving has given me a lot of time to reflect, and I don’t want to be very good at replacing romance and satisfying what I desire another to fill. So, I’m going to make a bigger effort to make something happen, instead of gradually becoming irrelevant.