Equally Yoked

After much thought, I have concluded that I must retract something that I have said in the past, which I think almost everyone disagreed with me on when I said it at the time.  I have repeatedly tried to make the case that couples could be of different political philosophies or interests, so long as they had interest in each other.  I said this over and over, saying that people should be able to accept the different positions of each other without changing their DESIRE for each other or appreciation for each other.  But, I think that was a statement of idealism, not practicality.

The REALITY is that our society is very critical of differences.  The more important that someone feels something is... the more they will setup walls against those that disagree with those opinions.  I have seen it from both sides, when I was an independent.  I ended up being the most rejected, as I was excluded by both sides because of disagreement over one issue or another.  Those in the middle will find themselves the most alone.

I'm now coming to recognize the importance of picking a side or a group with which to associate.  I also think this has a LOT to do with dating and part of why I have had problems.  The closest I came to an actual relationship since my divorce was with a religious conservative that liked baseball.  When I was with her I felt safe (until she said God wanted her to dump me) and was able to drop my walls and be myself and feel valued without feeling like the person I was with saw me as their political opponent.

In Scripture, it is said, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Cor 6:14.  Consider what I recently said in a post about God knowing what would be easier for us and trying to guide us.  CAN we be with someone that is not like us?  Yes.  But, imagine sharing your soul with someone that LIKED you for what you believe and liked.

So, I won't be dating liberals, because even through I share some views of theirs I no longer believe they can approve and desire ME as much as someone with whom I share more opinions and interests, and I will take more seriously dating app filters in my future selection.