Bound Together or Falling Apart

 An old, popular Christian artist, Rebecca St James, said in the lyrics to Alive..

"I always wanted to be free
'Til I was bound and then
I always wanted my own way
'Til I saw that I find my life when
I lose it."

Being free and running your own life how you want to live it sounds great, until you are actually DOING it.  I have been doing it a LOT over the last few years.  For much of my life, I have been connected to SOMEONE.  Even when my first ex was completely neglecting me, I had my children to show me affection or attention.  However, after this last divorce, I was most of the time on my own.  It gets old REAL fast.  You don't have anyone to share your successes or to be there when you have need.  

Last night, my car broke down, and I called around to friends to try to get someone to help me get home out of the cold.  No one was readily available or near to do that.  However, it's not really their PLACE to be there in my time of need.  That's why God's plan from the beginning was for man to have a "help" that was fitting for him... and he for her, because God concluded, "It is not good for the man to be alone." (Genesis 2:18)  It's not the only time he would echo the need for us to have someone else in our life.  He also said in Ecc 4:10... 

"If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."

Pity him... sounds... thrilling to be single.  A few verses later, it says, "though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."  The 3rd would be God with them.

It's why the purpose of religion is to care for widows and orphans, according to James 1:27.  They have no one in their lives... pity them.

Being alone is not wise.  It leaves you vulnerable and without the strength of someone's care.  It is foolish.  It is not a sign of strength, as it is your weakest state.  Sometimes, I have questioned my desire to have someone in my life, romantically, again.  I questioned it, because it has been so hard to find.  But, God told me that He has someone for me, and HE is the one that said it is not good to be alone.  So, I will maintain my patience in that dream, and when it comes about, it will be worth it.