Saturday, April 22, 2023

Friends and Fun

I wanted to bring together more thoughts that developed over the week into a blog post, again.  You can see a theme developing from my posts and playlists, lately.  I feel I am actually figuring things out, for once.

Over the last few weeks, I have been moving further towards just doing things with friends and fun and not thinking as much about a relationship.  The God's honest truth is that my odds at my age of having one is low, as I have noted.  However, I am beginning to question if that is what I want, myself.  A lot of people near my age are against ever getting married.  I am not against it, but I am beginning to understand that it isn't necessary.  Yes, it would be nice to have someone close and committed... but honestly, I would hope my friends are close and committed and I to them, also.  And, as I have been discovering.. in this age with Meetup app and other apps.. and honestly those are just training wheels to get you getting out there at events you can do on your own.. you can develop friendships with just the little bit of push of opening your mouth and saying hey to the person at events you like to do, too.  

There's also something to be said for having random chats with people that you will never see, again.  I am the kind of person that likes to meet interesting people and see life from their eyes.  It's like reading a book but you are reading a person.  And, since they don't know you, you can just have fun with it.  I had wings and beer at an event this last week.  I left with none of their phone numbers, but it was fun.  It was a meetup group, and many of them knew each other from doing other events... personal and fun.  It's an interesting age we live in to be able to do that.  I'm doing a potluck with the group, next week.

I also wanted to note that "single" doesn't mean "alone."  I thought about that this last week.  The times in my life that I was most ALONE was when I was married to an ex that wasn't showing interest but felt like I could not have female friends, either.  Everywhere I went, I was alone in a crowd.  The last few weeks, I have been doing things with a close friend, other than the meetup thing, and having a BLAST doing it.  I am doing things with other friends and her going forward.  And, I am feeling happy, balanced, and at peace.  Will I get serious with someone at some point?  I hope so, but even then I want to have friends and want to have a life with them that is focused on fun and not finding fault with each other.

So, I thought it was worthy to do a blog post about this new perspective.

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