Truths from Flowers

Sometimes, a song will come out that I feel has some truth to it but isn’t accurate for me then or takes some time to process, so I put a pin in it.  One of those songs recently for me is Miley Cyrus’s Flowers.  I’ve followed her for a long time, was a fan of her dad before she ever came on the scene.  She also pushes the limits, which I can definitely understand.

Anyway, this song has her saying that ..

 “ I can buy myself flowers
Write my name in the sand
Talk to myself for hours
Say things you don't understand
I can take myself dancing
And I can hold my own hand
Yeah, I can love me better than you can”

I’ve wrestled with that over time, but I have come to accept it more and more.  Ultimately, it would be nice to have someone right to fill that role, but I’ve lived the mistake of just picking anyone to fill that role.  If they don’t work with you at the start, that’s never going to change, and it’s only a matter of time till it self destructs.

But, it’s also needed to learn to love yourself.  The second Frozen movie has Elsa saying she is the one she was waiting for, and there’s a lot of truth to that.  I am a lot of what I seek for myself in myself.  

This week, I remembered that I need to take time for myself and keep myself balanced and fill myself, even as I am making new connections to others.  I have learned to satisfy myself and be on my own, and I need to keep filling myself, or I’ll have little to give others.

So, while I remain open and keep at efforts to find my person, I remember that the first person to love is myself, which is actually what Jesus said, as well… “love your neighbor as you love yourself.  It begins there.