Change

I was walking around The Gathering Place in Tulsa this weekend with my love and was thinking that the park was a great illustration of my path leading  to her and my life.

Years ago, I used to run Riverside walking and running path in Tulsa and took pics of the pedestrian bridge and thought it was all great.  Then, they changed it, and I was like... why did it need to change, it was great as it was.  However, now, it's amazing.

I mean... it's not a perfect illustration.  In my past relationships, it wasn't great.  There were good things that could be found, here and there.  But, there were more problems than solutions, more fights or disharmony  than resonance.  And, I would make excuses or try to find beauty where it didn't always exist.  It's like that pedestrian bridge.  I said it was wonderful, but I do remember it having big spiderwebs and spiders and was scary at night.  I just ignored that.

Now, it's fantastic, and I love my walks along it with my love.  It's become one place among many in  our story.  Just like the change of the park, I'm discovering piece by piece what was not present, before.

I saw a video on social media this morning where John Clease was quoting someone that said the skills to know something is good is the same skills as being able to do it. If you don't have the skills, you don't know you're not good at it.  Similarly, I think the experiences of a truly loving relationship can only really be appreciated by someone that has it.  If you have not, you can't fully understand that you lack it.

Well, I am very happy after changes in my life that at the time I felt were unnecessary, and I'm so happy to be discovering the adventure of love in which I find myself and the amazingness of a love I never knew existed.  I hope as life presents you change, you will also look forward to what can be and not the excuses you made for the past or what could not be.  There is much ahead to discover.