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Thursday, September 28, 2017

STOP Making LIFE Decisions about MONEY

Life is life.  Money is money.  They are not the same.  In fact, the engagement in ONE will limit the other.  It's not about the dollar figure of your GROSS salary (gross is a good word for that), when you are in the quiet moments and think about whether your life is happy or not.  It's about how much LIFE you had in the day you just lived.

Two years ago, I made 60 thousand dollars a year as an oil and gas accountant.  Today, I am an Uber Driver (by choice..walked away from a higher paying job for it), making well under 20 thousand dollars a year..  So, by this reasoning, you would say I am failing and unhappy, correct?  Actually, the reverse is very much true.  Let me walk you through how those years went.

Why COLLEGE is a SCAM...

Before I get to my first accounting jobs, I have to start by saying that college is a F'kn SCAM, and I would recommend that NO ONE go to college or pursue a "professional" job, unless that is just what you like to do, in which case it is ok.  However, if you are doing it for MONEY, you need to know a few facts.

  1. College separates the gap between poor and rich, instead of correcting it.  You will be working next to kids that just came of of college that DADDY paid for and have zero debt, so they will get to take ALL of that professional income and just blow it like toilet paper.  Meanwhile, you will be taking out student loans that will take the REST OF YOUR LIFE to pay off the principal and interest, ending up paying maybe double the original amount you took out. So, "professional" jobs make the RICH RICHER and the POOR POORER.
  2. If you are going to college to get RESPECT in your new job, forget it.  When you complete a college degree, you will go looking for a job with tight competition, and you will be meeting with people that will piss on your degree and expect work history, which you could have had...had you not been in COLLEGE.  Then, you will start a job at the bottom, where the upper management have NO IDEA how to do your job (true for every professional job I held) but criticize you for not working hard enough.  So, you will be working like a frustrated secretary for over -demanding bosses who treat you like children, despite your college training that they dismiss.  So...why did you go to college again?


So, when I got hired at IBM I was so proud of myself.  OMG.  I was working at a Fortune 20 company, doing contract accounting for Marathon oil.  Now, I wasn't happy to be working for a company that was profiting off of destroying the environment but I said that it would work to build my career.  What they don't tell you is that when you work for oil and gas, you are only qualified for ...OIL AND GAS, so even though a few years later I had my MBA and 3 years experience in Federal and Indian oil and gas royalty reporting, the recruiters I turned to found that no one outside of oil and gas was interested, since I didn't have THEIR system or position, I was back being made to feel like an inexperience child, despite 3 years of career success...even though that success meant nothing to the companies.

Which is the next point to be made, here.  During my time there, I started at a 2 person position and ended up being given the entire job to myself, because I was so good at the job.  Indeed, my actions saved the client 2 million dollars in one month's reporting, catching a system error.  The client said before my boss that they wish they could give me a gift but couldn't.  So, of course, that gave me clout and respect, right?

Well, actually, within a year, all of my bosses had left the industry, and the new ones didn't care what I did, and they didn't care that it used to be a 2 person job, so, it was now EXPECTED I do twice the work, or I could (and did) quit to be replaced by others they could pay less....Chewed up and ...ptu...spat out.  Welcome to a Fortune 20 company.


After this I had left accounting for a few months but came back, thinking that surely it was unique to IBM how bad they were.  I started working for Sutherland Global and learned that IBM (for as bad as it was) was on the upper end of greed and manipulating, as this company was hiring people to be given positions without training by ignorant managers (didn't know what their employees did), who shifted all questions and blame of failures to the very new employees they didn't train, while asking them to work 14 hour days and acting like they were working hard WITH us, when they were just working US hard.


Then, I started doing Uber part time and would, eventually, take it on full time.  When I did it, I had been fed up with corporate life, and the recruiters were finding I was over-qualified (meaning...cost too much) for companies that wanted to hire cheap ( the end fk you for GETTING experience).  So, I started driving for MUCH less money than I used to make, and guess what...I LOVE it.  A few benefits...

  • I get up when I want to get up.
  • I don't drive an hour to get to work or home, after.
  • I can take a break in my work day, whenever I want without feeling guilty or having to get it approved like a child.
  • I can listen to my music in my car.
  • I can where WHATEVER I want.
  • I can take time off in the middle of the day for..personal time...with my wife.  Ha.
  • I can see my customers face to face and feel good making money for making people happy.

You see...I was reminded of something that I had forgotten, and it is what I want to leave with you as food for thought.  MONEY is not HAPPINESS.  There are benefits to every job, if that is something that you truly value.  Money, in fact, began as a replacement for bartering.  Bartering was...I want this, so if I do this for you, you will give me this that I want.  Then, it became you will pay me dollars I can use to buy what I want.  However, if you are spending all of your hours working to earn dollars but do not feel free to take time off to SPEND it at home and for what you like, you have SURRENDERED your happiness to make others happy in exchange for dollars that whatever label you feel appropriate.

So, stop working for others, who will never appreciate you and do not CARE what you want out of work in their quest to be rich.  You are responsible by nature for your own life.  How are you doing in making that life happy?

Russia and GOP Southern America

I thought it important to draw a comparison between Russia and the GOP Southern America that voted for Trump, because it is humorous and enlightening...

  • Loves displaying and using their guns
  • Likes to objectify women
  • Racist (WHITE leadership)
  • Sexist (MALE leadership)
  • First solution to an international conflict is to attack
  • Touts their nuclear power
  • Likes the cold war
  • Hates the UN
  • Used to attack Muslims in Afghanistan
  • Has a NATIONAL Christian church

GOP Southern America...

  • Loves displaying and using their guns
  • Likes to objectify women
  • Racist (WHITE leadership)
  • Sexist (MALE leadership in party, company, and church)
  • First solution to an international conflict is to attack
  • Touts their nuclear power
  • Likes the cold war
  • Hates the UN
  • CURRENTLY attacks Muslims in Afghanistan
  • WANTS a NATIONAL Christian church

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Racism in Russia (no wonder they like Trump)

Sailors with the Russian Navy at a March celebration of Russia's annexation of Crimea.

About a week ago, I asked my wife something that had not occurred to either of us, until that moment, and it has fascinated me how it has fallen through the cracks of news media.

When was the last time you saw a BLACK Russian in any news media, tv show, movie, fashion, etc?

How it it that we focused on the White Nationalism of Hitler in the 1940s but have almost completely missed the PRESENT White Nationalism by Russians, today.  Consider these other cited photos that come up when I just put in "russia people pictures" in Google...
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But, what's more, I think it's not that the American and Western media does not KNOW about the stark WHITE ness, they present it in their own depiction OF them.  Consider this picture of "russian brides" presented in a Russia language site...
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And a news media story of Russian gang members attacking people in England..
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I mean...WTF... how more WHITE can you get?  It's like Charlotteville in that picture, and no one notes that they are

So, while we are debating if Trump is a reflection of a German racist government from a half century ago, he is very NOTABLY financially backed, hacked supported, and politically aligned with a racist fascist power in the world, today, and no one is saying a word about it.

Shame on you.

Monday, September 25, 2017

The Ever Increasing Group of the Un-Patriotic (McCarthyism)

Since the school system doesn't view history as important enough to teach students (if they had we may not have Trump), I feel the need to start giving historical foundations that my readers may miss.  Indeed, as we go forward in the Trump Presidency, I feel that I am witnessing the rise (almost scripted) of Hitler, only this one is spoken in English...right down to the basis, process, and procedure of the rise.  Like Hitler, Trump lamented the drop in the GREATNESS of his country in the world, blaming certain groups for that drop and promised to make it great in the world, again.  Like Hitler, Trump was an angry man that shouted out attacks on opposition groups and countries in the world.  Like Hitler, he blamed the ills of the country on specific genetic and cultural groups outside the country, rather than acts of individuals within it.  Like Hitler, he is dictating what private companies SHOULD do (like ESPN, NFL, car companies, etc) and making Presidential dictates that companies MUST use national resources to make their goods.  Like Hitler, he opposes free speech.

However, today, I want to focus on a Nazi processes that was, also, seen in our country's past, as well, and it is raising it's ugly head, again.  It is a common process when a dictator or a dictatorial power that so blames groups does, throughout the world and throughout history.  Once they have identified enemies OUTSIDE The country, they start identifying groups INSIDE The country that are "enemies" as well.

It has a term that USED to be used int he media but is not being used, today...through my news media readers should consider reviving.  It is MCCARTHYISM.  I will explain.

In the 1950s, a REPUBLICAN congressman (...notice that it's ALWAYS the GOP backing the KKK, fascists, racists, etc) by the name of Joseph Mccarthy starting holding hearings about people suspected of being COMMUNISTS.  Get that?  Their CRIME was that they had another OPINION on how to run the economy (for the poor rather than the rich).  And, the RICH Republicans promoted fear throughout the nation, asking people to LOOK OUT for the communist SPIES on your corner and to turn them into the government.  Sound familiar?  Like....maybe the GOP that was warning us about terrorists from without are gonna start naming those to distrust and jail for their difference of belief that live IN this country?

And, of course, we are already seeing it.  Just in the last week, the President went from saying that one Black sports reporter should be fired for being critical of Trump  to attacking black ATHLETES for not being patriotic for failing to go along with Trump to saying the entire NFL was un american, as well as any fans that failed to pressure them to salute the flag.  However, that is not the ONLY group in American PRIVATE company society that Trump has declared should be fired or has restricted.  From the start of his Presidency, he has limited the PRESS from reporting at the White House, unless that press willinly reported STATE FED news without critique, and when they did dare to question his proclamations, they were declared unpatriotic, as well.  Other groups from those in the arts to education to healthcare to others....and I mean BIG and NATIONAL groups for entire industries.... have been demeaned and attacked by the President of the USA for NO OTHER REASON than that they DISAGREE with the Supreme Leader speech is dead.

This spiral historically only goes outward, so expect there to be many more groups to follow, as Trump adds one group after another to his list of un-patriotic and even TERRORISTIC groups for one reason and one reason, alone....they DARED to think for themselves, and the GOP will say that anyone that refuses to condemn who they SAY for us to condemn is a "sympathizer" just as they said under Mccarthy, and I predict less than a month before we start hearing what they REALLY believe (since their charade of empathy has faded) and we start hearing the President, himself, declaring that any group that accepts or supports Muslims (or even IS Muslim like Malcom X's Nation of Islam) IS a terrorist, and any group that files lawsuits or speaks out, against him, is to be condemned as un-american.  Even as I type this, the President, today, took to the NATIONAL Twitter account to condemn John McCain...a man of his OWN PARTY for the EVIL of refusing to cut healthcare for the poor.

So, in the last week, Trump has attacked his own party's congressmen, sports news media, and the entire sports industry for failing to agree with long till YOU are un-American, as well?

Saturday, September 23, 2017

TV Shows and Movies for the Age of Trump, vol 1

Over the course of the last half year that feels like a decade of Trump, there have been many tv shows that have helped to soften the blow by either highlighting the move to fascism that we are seeing in the country or, even better, making fun of it, because the fact remains (regardless of what you feel about sucking up to abusers in a futile assumption of changing them) the ONLY thing that  serves to BOTH bring yourself comfort AND make yourself an undesirable target of abuse is the PUBLICALLY expose and laugh at your attackers.  They desire to feel GOOD by making you fear or cower, and, if you can make them feel tiny and useless, they will move on to a better target of abuse.  Again, regardless of how you feel about it, that IS an effective means of defense of them.

Ok.  on to the media guide.

PAST things from the last year that I would recommend (in no order other than the first thought in my wine relaxed brain (ha))...

Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix) - a woman gets freed from having lived in the bunker of a "reverend" who kidnapped 4 women and told them the world ended and so they had to live with him.  Once freed, her adventures in modern society are the FUNNIEST show I have watched on tv to date.

Saturday Night Live (SNL on NBC and HULU) - they were already funny, but they took it all to a whole new level, after the election.  So, I would recommend going back to watch the whole last season on Hulu, and the new season starts Saturday, September 30th on Saturday Nights on NBC.  WAY funny.

The Man in High Castle (Amazon Prime Video) - The show based on the bestselling book takes place in the alternative world view, if Hitler and Japan had won the second World War and America was a fascist state.  The similarities with our own world and the direction our world is going is great drama and EXACTLY what needs to be seen to avoid.   Season 3 is set to debut late 2017,

The Handmaid's Tale (Hulu) - Another best selling book made into a series, this story tells of a society where the ultra conservative control society and in an infertile society have kidnapped women that could get pregnant to make them have sex with the cult leader's males to bear them children, all while the LITERALLY quote a bible passage where Jacob did the SAME THING with his wives' servents in the birthing of the tribes of Israel.  The next season is due on Hulu in 2018.

Colony (USA Network) the past season is on Sling's archive for the channel, and I think it is on Netflix, but if nothing else it is on Amazon Video for pay.  It is a series where the show opens with a society living behind a wall and watched by drones of aliens and human guards.  It is great for showing the effects of a society living in fear and of the rise of a resistance.  Season 3 begins in 2018.

American Horror Story (FX) - the current season of AHS is set in our current society, post election, where people are living in fear of what the GOP will do next (and many tweets the first episode night said "this is way too real"), but what the REAL story of the season is is NOT the election but it is the POWER we give to whatever we fear to control us.  The more we fear it, the more it can dictate our actions to it.

True Blood (Amazon) - I just started watching this with my wife, as it is free on Amazon Prime, now.  The storyline of the blatant racism against vampires is VERY relative to our current society racism being not only supported by the President but PREACHED from his Podium against muslims, gays, women, and more.

Movies from the past that are very relevant:

Demolition Man - a movie where Stallone wakes up after decades to find society under the control of a fascist moral police.  It is hilarious, and I love the speech made by actor Denis Leary..

"See, according to Cocteau's plan, I'm the enemy. Cause I like to think, I like to read. I'm into freedom of speech and freedom of choice. I'm the kind if guy who wants to sit in a greasy spoon and think, "Gee, should I have the T-bone steak or the jumbo rack of barbecued ribs with the side order of gravy fries?" I want high cholesterol. I want to eat bacon, butter and buckets of cheese, okay? I want to smoke a Cuban cigar the size of Cincinnati in a non-smoking section. I wanna run through the streets naked with green Jello all over my body reading Playboy magazine. Why? Because I suddenly might feel the need to. Okay, pal?"

Captain America and sequels - These movies about a shadow world government that plants people in positions in world governments to gain fascist control over the world.  As we see a dictatorial Trump aligned with Putin and other strong dictators in the world, while pulling back from democratic allies, one can only wonder how soon we will be saying, "Hail Hydra"..

Money Monster - This movie is about a guy that lost everything in a financial crash taking a financial news network hostage.  He challenges them to ask the companies that lost their money to tell them WHERE their money went?  It is a valid question that even this accounting trained blogger cannot answer, fully.  However, what we DO know is that many people got RICH off the financial crash, while others lost their whole lives (as evidenced in this film).  These rich people that profited off that crash funded Trump getting elected and...guess what?  He has already removed investor protections from that crash in his administration, so they can do it all over again.

That's enough for this month.  Check back next month, and I will have a new list with upcoming movies and shows in that time to make sure not to miss..there are several coming end of the year.

Fascist Alert - Trump Dictates Sports Player Roster

Remember when Obama said, as President, who should and shouldn't be ALLOWED to be a sports player?  Or, a reporter?  No?  Yeah, you're right.  That kind of overstep by a PRESIDENT to tell a PRIVATE and NON GOVERNMENT industry how they should operate would be FASCIST..right?

And, yet, today, the fascist GOP news of the day is that our Benevolent Dictator declared this about a player in NFL..

“Wouldn’t you love to see one of these NFL owners, when somebody disrespects our flag, to say, ‘Get that son of a bitch off the field right now. Out! He’s fired. He’s fired!’” - Guardian the span of one week, the Trump White House has said a BLACK reporter that criticized him should be fired and a black NFL player should be fired (doing wonders for that criticism that he is a white supremacist), both from NON GOVERNMENT and non TRUMP organization companies, because...well, why DOES he think he has that authority?

And, I will stop right there and let you TRY to find me ONE reason that justifies this response, short of him being a FASCIST dictator that feels dictatorial power over ALL industries in the country.

Thursday, September 21, 2017

To Thine Own Self Be True

"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
-Shakespeare, Hamlet

 I hereby give all my readers and followers permission to go on my social media and remind me of this, should I ever go after a "professional job" again, instead of doing what I like.  But, at least I reminded myself of it the last week and quit my job, today, to resume doing Uber driving, tomorrow.

I, actually, blogged against this months ago and should have listened to myself, back then.  I did have the decency of leaving those posts on my blog, because I still believed in them, even as I betrayed the principles by taking this VA Voucher Examiner job in July.  But, least it got me out of Oklahoma and in a bigger market and better city.

I am not saying that the VA is bad (though it has serious flaws structurally) or that voucher examiner jobs are bad.  Some may think they are the cat's meow (probably not to someone that would SAY "cat's meow" I bet).  What I am saying is that it is not ME, as was the case with accounting.

It all began with my father, a long time ago, that told me that I needed to go to college and get a professional job.  He warned me not to stop, either...saying that if I ever stopped I would not return to finish a degree and a degree was a path to a "better life."  I don't blame him, specifically, for that lie, as it is one that generations believed.  College doesn't mean a better life, or even more money, as anyone with a college student loan debt can tell you, when they figure out how much they are REALLY making per hour accounting for the student loan debt they are paying off.  All it means is that you are sufficiently trained to be OWNED by leaders  (who themselves are owned) and blamed by them for anything that goes wrong.

But, THEY are not the ones living your life...YOU are.  They won't be considering (or even caring) what makes you happy or your family time or your family economics.  They only care about one doing for them what they want at the cheapest method possible, so that they get more money to themselves.  That's what rich people do to be rich.  However, is it worth sacrificing yourself to please them?

This is one of many principles that echo in many of my blog posts.  You have to think about yourself.  While that is SELF-ish by definition, it is not greedy.  Instead, it is allowing you to GIVE the world your true self in a way that you were designed (by evolution or creation, your pick) and how you would best enjoy giving yourself to the world.  Those that truly care for you will be happy in that you are happy.  Those that dictate what you should do don't care for you but what they expect you to give to them, true greed.  I am blessed with a wife and kids that want me to be happy and greeted my news of changing jobs with joy in the fact that it will make me happier, and THAT is what real family is like.

So, don't listen to those that are using you or judging you or couldn't care less ABOUT you.  To thine own self be true, whether it be what job you will have, what clothes you will wear, who you will love, how you will love, what convictions you hold, what you would say, or anything else.  The reason it is called self respect is that you don't have to check with anyone else to have it.  BE YOU, and THAT will be a true MIRACLE of nature to a world in need of originality and heart.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Don't Miss This Trump Tweet ... Huge Fascism Alert

That was my reaction, in the screenshot, to Trump's tweet, last night.  I included it in the screenshot so you can see it.

I know in the Trump Presidency that every day feels like a month, as we try to keep up with all the foundational changes he is making to the whole government, and we can't possibly keep up with or focus on all of them... It's emotionally exhausting.  There are always 5 things he and the GOP are doing at once.   Indeed, at this moment, they are hard at work trying to remove poor people's health insurance as we speak.

However, this text by Trump sets off HUGE alarm bells, and I can't emphasize enough how important it is to read.  It reminds me of a quote from an episode of Handmaid's Tale (just won big at the Emmy's) that I saw, last week, where the main character lamented how they got to their situation by doing nothing as the government blamed terrorism and suspended the Constitution.

And so, we come to the above text that Trump not only tweeted but RETWEETED, showing he really means it, where he says that the internet is a recruitment tool of the terrorists and as such, must be "cut off" ... I am serious, and you can see the words yourself, even though it is straight out of what you would hear (and have heard historically) from fascist dictators, as they banned free speech to protect their rule and eliminate criticism.

I predicted this in December, last year, when I blogged that if Trump was going to "make America great" he would have to have dictatorial power to do it, over all freedoms, and if he was going to eliminate freedoms, he would, like all dictators, have to eliminate free speech... Which is why the framers of the government put that guarentee as the FIRST to protect.

I don't know what form that "cut off" of the internet will take place, but it makes sense why he eliminated Net Neutrality, now, as that would have prevented that control over what you can see.

Regardless, we need to wake up, before we wake up in the GOP's new Nazi fatherland with no freedoms left to speak out.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Classism in America

As I get older, I keep seeing things in new ways, now that ... as with pretty much everyone that hits the 40s.. I started thinking for myself.  Things that I grew up just feeling was normal, I look at with new eyes and did I think that was ok, simply because someone told me it was "good" and "american" (often NOT historically American, in fact).  Classism is one of those things.

I don't fully blame those with money.  They were raised in the system, and "that's just the way it is" as they would say.  Yes, but SHOULD it be that way?  They don't question the system, because it FAVORS them.  So, it is easy for White Supremacists to say things should favor the whites that grew up with society advantages such as where they live, what schools they could go to, who they know, etc.  It is easy for America First fascists to say jobs and industry should go to them, since they ARE them.  And, it is easy for the rich to say that one should be allowed to heap up wealth, BECAUSE THEY ARE THE ONE WITH THE HEAP.

Let me ask you, isn't there something morally wrong with someone that heaps up wealth they can never use, while everyone around them is literally DYING in poverty and disease?  I mean...seriously...even though the Religious Right Evangelical preachers say the same thing to protect THEIR wealth from being taxed to help the poor...can anyone justify that as a VIRTUE?

Let's consider some real life analogies of this concept.  Let's say that they are having a pizza party in my kid's school classroom.  The rule is...take one piece of pizza, so there is enough for everyone.  Then, a selfish bully comes in and take 5, which means some will not have any at all.  Is that fair?  What should he do...give some back to the others of course.

Or, as my wife pointed out  to me, what if there is a child that is disabled and maybe can't get to the table as fast as the others.  Should he/she go without, or should someone ensure they get a piece, even if they can't...WORK for it...for example.

My whole life I was brought up being told from even my CHURCH that socialism was bad and capitalism is good and Godly, but looking at the FACTS of the rich keeping money from the poor that starve and die, I am starring to think otherwise.  EVERYONE has a RIGHT to LIFE, even if the Republicans want to deny that to all but the wealthy, and I think it is time we did something about that.

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Don't Give Conservatives Fruit of Trees They Condemn

One of many things that wells up in me from time to time is anger at seeing Conservatives condemning a race or a region and then expected them to still provide to them.  To be very blatant, it is like how that masculine party demeans women but then wants those women to put out for their own pleasure.  Well, on both situations, it is time we tell them to go f*** themselves.

I mean, seriously.... Trump married a foreign woman but wants to block immigration.  Indeed, as it turns out, it looks like Melania was in violation of her visa WHEN SHE MET Donald Trump.  But,'s not like Trump ever turned his back on international money that HE makes off foreign companies IN the cultures he condemns.

But, it's not just trump and it's not just immigrants.  That is the tiny tip of a HUGE iceburg.  Conservatives LOVE to blame and attack liberal states, like California and New York.  They love to attack the arts and media.  They love to condemn homosexuals.  The list goes on and on.

Well, it is time we started saying enough is enough.  Like the woman that gets fed up and stops putting out till she gets respect, it is time that we liberals follow suit.  If conservatives don't like California, let them do without wine.  If they don't like Hollywood, stop sending them movies to watch.  If they don't like the arts, then they better not follow Pence's example and turn up at BROADWAY to see a show, or we should show them the door.  If they don't like homosexuals, let them cut their own hair or do their own design and not listen to musicians that may not swing their way.  Further, how dare they condemn immigrants, right before they settle into MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL or watch BASEBALL with barely a non immigrant or non minority on the WHOLE TEAM.

It is time we stopped letting those A-holes condemn the tree but then eat the fruit.  Let them enjoy ONLY what is made in their states for a while, and I bet they will change their tunes, pretty dang fast.

Friday, September 15, 2017

The Frog Pot of Fascism

I forget who told me about the secret to cooking a frog, a long time ago.  However, it went like this.  You don't raise the temperature of the water fast to boil, because the frog would just jump out.  You raise it slowly, and the frog will just sit in it till it has cooked to death.

I recalled that story, when I was considering ...not the stories of this week...the REACTION of the public to the stories of this week.

1 - First off, we will lead off with the story that was all over the twitter-sphere a few days ago.  It was the White House media representative saying that the administration believes that an ESPN reporter should be fired, because she called Trump a racist.  While the nation was busy discussing whether Trump was a racist and the damning fact that a black reporter was facing threats by white rich guys (kinda confirming the charge), I was more interested in a fact that seemed completely missed by the press and social media....since when was it the PRESIDENT'S role and authority to tell a private business how to operate...and, further, to tell them to fire someone for FREE SPEECH.

2 - Next up, let's talk about Trump's supposed defection to the DEMOCRATS for a few bills.  Yup, the news was all ablaze with pundits that were declaring that Trump was REALLY a DEMOCRAT all along.  That's right.  I heard the news declaring this, as I took a work break.

I figured it was just the GOP wanting to distance themselves from a radioactive President, as Mueller closed his wagons around Trump (and I still believe that would happen).  However, it wasn't till I got home that I heard WHY the GOP was saying that about Trump.

So the story goes (don't believe it as it is just a ploy by Trump), Trump got tired of the GOP not getting things done, so he called up Chuck and Nancy and called them to the White House, where he told them that he was willing to give up a PHYSICAL wall border, was willing to keep dreamers in the country, and he was even willing to increase the taxes on the rich for his programs' cost.

Now...while that is so bizare that it would distract you, don't lose sight of what happened NEXT and reported much quieter.  Behind the scenes, conservatives turned on Trump in a blink of an eye and was vocally attacking him, even former GOP President candidate Mike Huckabee (whose daughter is that White House media representative and who has a Christian tv network show coming on in less than a month from now) was engaging in a mocking series of Tweets of Trump.

Now, it would be tempting to say....WELCOME TO THE the GOP that suddenly hates Trump and thanks for GIVING him to us.  However, pay attention to WHY they are attacking him.  Huckabee and others were attacking him for not doing ENOUGH to eliminate health care coverage, block the borders, and etc.

Get it?  So, as I have been saying...this was NEVER the party willingly following the man that happened to get elected.  They weren't uncomfortable allies that backed trump despite his attacks on the poor, needy, and neglected and blatant sins.  If that were the case, they would have welcomed his change of heart.  No.  This sudden turn on him illustrates that it has NEVER been Trump leading the GOP to fascism but a FASCIST GOP that supported him as long as he was giving them fascist control over the lives of everyone else in the country borders.  The moment that he backed off his extremist stance to moderate, he was the ENEMY, showing very clearly the FATWAH of the Christian extremist cultists that are growing, with or without Donald Trump.

So, keep an eye out, as this movement grows.  It seems unfathomable that we could be seeing a conspiracy to take over power of the government.  Those are things that we have only read about in history books and on tv shows like The Man in High Castle (can't wait for the next season this fall).

We might be faced with the uncomfortable choice that Germany made after WWII of making their Nazi groups illegal in the future.  One would hope it doesn't come to that, but this frog pot of just the last year should illustrate VERY CLEARLY how easy it is for a country to go from disgruntled to a HITLER.  May God help us avoid such a fate.

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

It Isn't That It Isn't

There's a phrase that I heard of been to New England a lot that I used to hate to hear, but later came to fully accept. It is that it is... Which is to say that some things just can't be changed.

Now when I was a young hothead ready to set the world on fire, I didn't believe that anything was beyond my power to change.  Indeed, throughout the world there are many motivational speakers, preachers, and inspirational memes that convey the message that your only limitation is yourself.

While that's catchy, it's dangerously deceptive, as there are many things that are beyond our control. Some things just are that they are... Or more importantly, they are not that they are not.

And, I think that's where the most dangerous deception comes into play.  There are many people who will play upon your hopes and desires to have things and situations and tell you that you can have it if you just believe. And while I fully agree with pursuing your dreams and reaching the furthest that you can go, it is not wise to deny reality. There are real limitations upon all of us, whether that be physical monetary or otherwise.  Only when you recognize your limitations, can you find alternative means to reach your goals.

For example, a man .. no matter how maternal...will never have a baby through their body.  However, they can adopt and reach that goal.  Someone with a back injury should not try running to get into shape.  However, there are other means of fitness they are able to use.

As I look back over the events, jobs, and people that have been the biggest disappointments in my life, it wasn't the lack of "faith" or determination that caused the ultimate depression.  It was my lack of REALITY, particularly on the part of what I expected from others.

In the movie Bruce Almighty, there is a scene where Jim Carrey is frustrated and talking to Morgan Freeman, after he had been given the power of God by God as a lesson.  He asked God, "How do you make people love you, if you can't affect free will?"  Of course, God didn't have an answer to that either, because you can't...and more important, you shouldn't be trying.

I accept my part in the failures of the past, and the biggest failure I see in all of them is exactly what I am trying to help you to learn, accept failure.  Even a toddler learns that a square peg won't go through a round hole, but we get to be an adult and we say....BY GOD IT WILL IF I FORCE IT.  However, how do you think the peg feels about would you feel about it?

The solution to a happy life is not having a life free of failures.  Every one fails.  Even Thomas Edison failed hundreds of times in making a lightbulb.  The secret of success and happiness is learning what fails QUICKLY so as to find another person, job, or method that WILL lead you to a truly happy life, before you get to the end of a life of misery and find no one handing out awards for their suffering.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Follow Trump Example .. Declare Bankruptcy

This week, I declared bankruptcy, and it took many years of fighting a downward salary drop before I surrendered to the fact that I just didn't make enough money for the amount of expenses that I had accumulated.  A few years ago, I was making nearly 60 thousand per year, and I am, now, making barely more than half of that, due to the drop in employment.  They can scream that unemployment is down all they want, but as someone with 4 years of accounting experience, 2 years of management experience and an MBA, I couldn't get a job in the industry and had to settle for using veterans preference (as much as I don't like that concept) to get a job at the VA...which after benefits is paying me less than I could make on UBER (food for thought).

However, I am not here to talk about my "failure" leading to bankruptcy but my SUCCESS in filing for it and to promote that OTHERS do it, as well.

Why?  Life happens.  You get saddled with unexpected bills or have a reduction in pay from work or whatever.  Things happen that make it less likely to pay off your bills.  Now, you CAN do debt consolidation, but I have learned from experience that many of those companies offering that service screw you over, too.  I had debt consolidation on my bills for a few years.  Then, one day, one of my bills from Dell called me up and asked how I was going to pay off my 4000 dollar bill.  I said this is under the consolidation and should be much much less (the computer in the beginning cost just about a thousand...a long time before the consolidation).  When it entered consolidation, it was at 2000 dollars from interest.  However, after 2 years of payments in consolidation, the debt had doubled, since the consolidation company missed EVERY payment date, causing late fees for each payment.  When I brought it up to the consolidation company, they said...well, it's not our problem.  It's yours.

Companies don't care about you.  They don't care what is happening in your life.  They only want to find a way to charge you the most they can charge you for the longest they can charge you.  It's called business.  So, if you are straining your reduced budget to try to please the rich, know that the rich do not even notice you are struggling or even care.

Indeed, the biggest rich are well versed in bankruptcy, our illustrious President Trump that declared bankruptcy FOUR TIMES, while keeping their mansions in the process.  Indeed, RIGHT NOW, Trump is passing rules to allow him to borrow without limit on the treasury, while at the very same time reducing the income coming in from taxes...all so our children can pay for his shopping habit.  Are you really going to fall on your budget sword for the rich values displayed by THEM?

It's about time that all of us started thinking about ourselves and not pleasing the riches of others that do not care for us.  If you are underwater, financially, wipe it away with bankruptcy and start fresh.  FREEDOM may not be politically correct with the current administration, but it is still LAW, and the bankruptcy court EXISTS to stand between you and those that in the Merchant of Venice..demand their pound of flesh from your heart.

Be Free.

Saturday, September 9, 2017

Forward From Narcissists

The other day I saw something online that I had not heard, before  Did you know that Narcissists get their name from a mythological character?  It is named after a figure called Narcissus, who was the son of a Greek god.  He saw his reflection in a pool and fell in love with himself.  He couldn't bear to leave himself, and so he stayed there and died.

It seems that we have an epidemic of narcissists in the world, today.  I think that there have always been a large number of them in the world, but I have noticed it more and more over the last decade... but, then, it was in the last decade that I learned to respect myself enough to not be used, so it could be that I am NOTICING it more and more.

Since the beginning of this blog, I have been trying to promote that self esteem and awareness in others, as it IS the key to happiness to KNOW what makes you happy and to FOLLOW it.  I have spent way too many years toiling away my life for those that do not respect me or even notice that I exist apart from them, whether that be relationship-wise or work-wise.

And, that is what sets a narcissist apart from someone that wants to harm you.  They don't even NOTICE you, because they are too busy looking at their own reflection or fixed on what others think of them.  When you find yourself having to have many, many conversations of telling the other person your needs or wants, only to have them completely forget by the next morning...or hear "I didn't MEAN to do that to you" a lot, you might be with a narcissist.

Indeed, narcissists DON'T mean to harm you.  It just never occurs to them to be GOOD to you.  There is a song in my most recent running playlist for my fitness profile... @runlifekwc on instagram or twitter...that both my wife and I both liked when we started dating each other and applied to our romance.  It is Good for You by Selena Gomez.  In part of it, she sings,

"I just wanna look good for you, good for you
Let me show you how proud I am to be yours"

But, that is something that a narcissist would not do...take time to make themselves look good or do other actions or give other gifts to make the other person feel happy, because a narcissist is too busy thinking about themselves and what they want to be happy.

If you are in a relationship with someone like this, or you work for one, don't feel you are doing them any favor to stick around...your sacrifice is only hurting yourself.  They don't notice you when you are present, and they will ONLY notice themselves getting less when you are gone.  However, it is your life.  So, think about what you need to be happy and follow it, because those that really care for you will want you to have that and the rest just don't matter.

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

"Christian" GREED vs Christ Taught Care

I am trying to direct my critical posts of the Christian right to my page, because I want to illustrate there how much more caring and natural witches are than those that condemn them.  However, I think recent themes make this appropriate to both websites, so I will put it on both.

Christian GREED vs Christ Taught Care

I have made it known on my blogs that my criticism of the Religious Right is not without exposure to them or education about the faith.  I was an active member in the various "christian" cults for many years, "evangelized" online for years, wrote several "christian" devotionals, and finished not only a BS in Religion from one of their cornerstone universities (Liberty University) but most of a seminary education there, as well.  My departure from that system was not out of leaving was from FINDING Him.

There are SO many things that the "church" is taught, today, that they just take for granted as being the Jesus way of viewing things, I did when I first entered those buildings.. I felt that I was new to the faith, and who was I to question things I saw as being....UN-Christian.

This last week, we had a "Christian" mega-star Joel Osteen give Christ a bad name, not once but twice.  First, despite having a big church right in the middle of the newly homeless Hurricane Harvey, he didn't open his doors to them and only did so when literally the whole world was condemning him for doing it.  Then, after he brought them into his church, he took up a collection FROM THE HOMELESS to help pay for his building and the food.  When I saw that, I had to walk away from my phone for a while because of the righteous anger that had arisen in my spirit.  The church has become so commercial that it is now taking up money FROM THE SICK and POOR to pay for the RICH, which sounds very much at odds with the following ...

"Just then a man came up to Jesus and asked, 'Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life?'...Jesus answered, 'If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.' When the young man heard this, he went away sad, because he had great wealth.  Then Jesus said to his disciples, "Truly I tell you, it is hard for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of heaven."  Matthew 19:16,21-23

But, mean Jesus wants us to give OUR money to the POOR?  That would be the response of most of the religious right, today, who voted in elections to reduce state poverty taxes and elected a President that vowed to cut government poverty programs and give tax cuts to the rich....a very "christian" thing to support?  No.  However, our church no longer bears a resemblance to the church of Jesus, which was described as this...

"All the believers were together and had everything in common.  They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need." - Acts 2:44-45

Does that sound a BIT like the church we have, today, where the pastors take up collections (which Jesus did) to pay for a building (that Jesus never had) so they can tell you what laws you broke (when Jesus came to end the law)?  We hear from these "christians" how this is socialism (never rebuked by Christ) and how GREED is somehow good.  We have re-erected temples to sell out of God's house for a profit, and what was Jesus' response to that....

"So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.  To those who sold doves he said, 'Get these out of here! Stop turning my Father's house into a market!'" - John 2:15-16

Maybe it is time to take away the tax exempt status of these MEGA mart churches and use the money that results from that to pay for the people that they forgot in their vanity of self.

Monday, September 4, 2017

You Are MORE Than What You Do

On this day of honoring labor, my blog of the day is to unveil the futility and illusion of that mantle.  You are NOT what you do for an income but the personality you carry with every day.

It is something that I think more men than women understand (speaking biologically...I'll get back to that).  As someone that has fit that stereotype, I can tell you that it is one of the FIRST questions that a man has to answer about himself.  He meets someone...anyone....and one of the first questions that comes is, "So, what do you do?" 

How functional.... and how demeaning.  No one goes up to a woman and defines her by the income source that she provides.  No.  They judge her by how she looks (superficially), how she acts, and the things she says.  But, for a MAN those things are minimal.  A man can look like whatever he wants to look like, and he can do or say whatever he wants, so long as he has a "good job" and makes a lot of money, and that is not just the definition of that men by other men but by women, as well.

You all know the story line...a woman wants to grow up and marry a.... prince, doctor, lawyer, etc.  Is it because they think he will be able to lead them, heal them, or defend them, well?  Not even close.  They want it because he can PAY for them.  Many women are as shallow for dollars as men are for flesh, and both sell their soul every day for a little more.

However, the end of that story is the same for both women and men in those positions.  Both picked someone for what they can give them, but many of them failed to even NOTICE the person behind those dollars or flesh.  Then, they wake up with the stark reality that they are married to someone that does not notice their interests or beauty, even though they failed to make that a requirement from the start.  The woman is over there thinking...I am more than a pair of breasts,and the man is thinking... I am more than a paycheck, and both resent not being noticed a PERSON.

Now, this is all presented in biological stereotype for purpose of concept, but the same is true whether it be the stereotype, the reverse stereotype of woman provider, or homosexual.  Ideally, both would be providing and both would be noticed...or at least that is MY IDEAL, and my wife does a pretty great job of supporting that gender freedom.  However, regardless of how it works out in YOUR relationship, my point of the day is this.

Choose not who appreciates you for what you give but who you are, and make that a STATED desire to the other person, so they don't just give you what they think you want.  Otherwise, you will end up living in a "functional" relationship that is efficient as a business but absent of a heart, which is a family depiction of what we are seeing in society cutting social aid for the poor...but doesn't our businesses look lovely?

You are more than what you do, and the sooner we all realize that, the sooner we can learn to appreciate each other and all find happiness in our days.

Dress Lily

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