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Wednesday, August 16, 2017

If Trump Really Was... Racist, Russian, Mobster, etc.. What Would He Be Doing Different?

I think the press and general society keep giving Trump a pass on many things, because they assume that he couldn't POSSIBLY be as bad as he is portrayed, and that is his excuse to be even worse.  The country needs to wake up and start asking a question, if he WAS ...any of those things..what would he be doing any differently?

For example, we are talking this week about Trump's words defending the White Nationalist violence against the public.  You know... running a car over groups of people they didn't like...the VERY same act that he declared as "terrorism" when it was done by a Muslim in UK but is justifiable in the US, because I guess..they are Christian and they victims deserved it?

So, the news of the day is that Trumps OWN business advisory councils made up of CEO's of businesses had resigned from his councils, after his words, citing BOTH racism and their lack of expectation that Trump will accomplish ANY positive change in business.  Get that?  We elected Trump to be President, because he was good at business, but his own BUSINESS leaders on his councils resigned saying he is a failure at getting anything accomplished.  So, why is he President, again?

But, to get back on point....the public seems to think that Trump couldn't possibly be a ...racist... fascist....Russian implant....sexually harrassing...gangster, even when he is defending acts of violence against blacks (who his justice department authorized police to abuse without repercussion), when he defends NAZI violence, when he gives Putin EVERYTHING he wants of America, when he says sexually harrassing statements of wives of heads of state, and when he encourages his followers to beat up his enemies and takes them out of office, himself.  Indeed, when he is under investigation, he fired THREE FBI directors that were investigating him and said the next one better not.  What exactly DOES it take for the public to GET IT?

So, just ask youself.  If Trump REALLY was not guilty of all of these things, why would he be acting against himself, and why are YOU more apt to believe the words of a liar than acts of one?  That just makes you an accomplice, and you will stand guilty of all that follows.

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Labor Pains

It has been a busy and stressful couple of weeks, but I expected that it would be this way.  Women understand a concept, as relates to the birth of a child that I don't think tough guy men think about....labor pains.  This is directly applicable to where my family is in this moment.

Basically, labor pains happen after a period of expectation and before the new reality to come.  The woman has spent 9 months of preparation and expectation of waiting for things to change, and it has been accompanied by periods of difficulty or being uncomfortable.  Then, those periods increase to the point that something NEEDS to change, and the change happening takes over all attention and demands primary focus.

Thus begins the period of labor pains.  The woman, drawn into full focus on the coming reality, experiences intense waves of pain, until there is great joy at seeing the reality of their hope in their arms.

Similarly, I believe, the reality of my wife and I's lifestyle pregnancy started upon our marriage to each other and even before it.  As each month passed, we faced one element of the prior life falling away after another.  Things that USED to be important to us (just like a pregnant woman's previous party lifestyle) were not as important as the reality that is NOW before us, namely each other and the love that was standing in front of us on every date and event. 

Then, we got to this summer, and my career focus change provided us with the perfect focus change....step away from the past and into the future, and it has been a liberating experience.

Yes, we have DEFINITELY experienced difficulties in the last few months, from criminal behavior on the part of the apts we left to ex's to finding a new place to live and the expenses related to all that.  However, as these labor pains of change happened, we have found ourselves pulling closer to each other and more liberated to be longer required to be as people of the past wanted us to be but, now, ON OUR OWN away from controlling relatives and situations that defined us from our past, so we could define our future.

However, it is definitely good that those labor pains from the change are passing, and it is nice that we are FINALLY feeling the beginnings of the foundation of the new, ahead.  I am definitely looking forward to the days ahead, as we step out into the new realm of our own potential.  Full spead ahead.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Modern Racism

As evidenced by the white nationalist rally and the violence that has followed, there has been a revival of racism and hatred that has risen up in the last decade.  Last decade you ask?  It has been around for centuries in these regions, you would say.  And, while I would agree with you that every place that we are seeing this pro-white, Republican racism in this day, it used to be legal to OWN black people (and in fact this protest was about the removal of the tribute to that slave owning culture)... I do have to say that it didn't used to be this way in the last half century.

I grew up in a midwestern southern state, and while I did a post about their moral failures (to counter their superior morals claims) in a recent post, I do have to testify in the other direction on their behalf with regards to racism.

I grew up in the 80s in Oklahoma, and above are a collection of just a few of the black artists and shows that we watched as kids.  I learned how to moon walk with Michael Jackson and do all kinds of break dancing.  I knew every word of several of Prince's tunes.  I watched every episode of Different Strokes, the Cosby show, and didn't just watch Coming to America but ALL Eddie Murphy movie.

Indeed, it wasn't just limited to black culture, but I raised my kids on the popular movies about an Arab called Alladin, as well as all color of Disney character diversity.  Robin Hood Prince of Thieves was a HUGE hit at the box office with a Muslim called azheem, played by the man that Christians would call "God" in several movies, Morgan Freeman.

But, ten years passed and suddenly they are all supposed to be greedy and angry races intent on our destruction?  Or, we were so easily swayed that we let a small faction of rich white guys tell us who we were supposed to hate to be truly American or Godly.

Well, I don't know about you, but I don't like anyone telling me who to hate, and I definitely don't like my OWN history and culture of inclusivity suddenly called into question by narrow minded a-holes.

We are better than this, and we should DEFINITELY be more evolved than slave owners were 200 years ago, or have we given up convictions and love in pursuit of war and power?  It's a question that everyone needs to consider.  As for me, I believe we are better off with a wider culture than any one of us can provide with our narrow perspectives, and adding to that diversity is the key to real strength.

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Midwestern "values" from Experience

We hear a lot about "midwestern values," especially with the most recent election, but I think it needs to be explained what, exactly, that means, and who better to describe that than myself that grew up in the midwest and have spent most of my life over the decades, here.  So, here is a little about my own experience growing up in the midwest.

I moved to the state of Oklahoma in the 80s in 4th grade.  Most people don't like their experience growing up in schools, but I had a LOT to experience in my life in Oklahoma in that time that would set the foundation for what it means to be an Okie.  Of course, it began with my dad that had grown up, himself, in Oklahoma...and we had moved back to his home town, there.  Well, my dad's "midwest" values included whipping me with a belt at times, constantly scowling angrily in his chair at home...yelling at us if we even changed the channel before he was done with it.  He would NEVER say he loved me or congratulate me on my many accomplishments but, instead, would guilt me into going HUNTING with him or working on his construction site, neither of which I liked to do, telling me it was to toughen me up.  Then, there was my grandma that I recall standing on my front lawn and telling my mother that I was going to hell, because I was attending a Methodist church rather than her Church of Christ church.

School was definitely not a break from this kind of abuse, as I was picked on a LOT growing up, being called "4 eyes" or "thunder thighs" or being de-pantsed on the front lawn of the school.  Indeed, I remember riding to a baseball game, one time, and was woken up to find a starting player of the time holding his penis in front of me in the presence of the other players and asking me to suck it.  I didn't, and they just laughed, but that was the "values" that I lived, growing up. Don't think that boy was a crude nobody, either.  He was son of a public school teacher of a respected family in town.  As I entered high school, I hung out with my cousin a lot, who I think is a great guy.  I ended up spending more time at his house than my own.  He was starting pitcher on the baseball team, and he was classy and fun.  I learned a lot of my dressing style to impress the lady's from him, and I learned to appreciate rock music and horror movies at that house.  However, I did, also, experience my first pages of porn at his house among the other popular baseball playing guys.

But, don't think that was out of character for the midwest.  Indeed, as seen in the pic at the top of this post, I recall that the most popular shows was Dukes of Hazard (popular show about people running from cops), Porky's about people spying on naked ladies, the Best Little Whore House in Texas (played annually on the Oklahoma station), and of course....even to today watching the Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders.  Football's crushing of one another continues to be a leading "value" of Oklahoman's as well, as people side up with being a "Sooner" or "Cowboy" of state schools.  A sooner, by the way, is someone that broke the law of settlement.

From my own experience, I can tell you that midwestern values include drama at school bondfires, teenage pregnancy, judgement and condemnation of anyone that is different, bullying, fights, off-roading (illegal use of vehicles) on other people's property, killing animals in hunting that is not for food, drugs and alcohol use, pornography, and....then, proclaiming themselves morally superior to the rest of the nation that DIDN'T do these things in other parts of the country.

So, the next time that someone is preaching about midwestern values, I wanted you to know what that REALLY means and how they REALLY grew up.  It wasn't only in the recent as last year, my daughter was called a "baby killer" and attacked, just for supporting a democrat.  My experience is not moral superiority on the part of the midwest, but self imposed ignorance and abuse.  God help us from that kind of "morals."

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Watch Actions, Not Words, to find Happiness

Three is a scene in We Bought a Zoo, where the zoo owner's son was talking to the lady zoo manager, and she asking him how things are going with the girl that liked him.  He said he doesn't know how to talk to girls, and the manager said...

"...talking to girls is easy. They'll tell you everything. The secret to talking is listening"

Now, what she MEANT was not listening to words, as Lily had said nothing.  She meant....ACTION.

Over the course of the last few years, I have made a change in my life to stop spending time and energy upon those that did not do the same to the mother and sister who had not visited my home in 3 years, despite living nearby or emailed to ask how I was doing... or even expressed any concern or assistance in my visits to them. Or, there is the older daughter that crashed at my house for 2 years, without ever contributing in chores or finances, even as I was spending two hours a day taking her to college for her classes....yet she never once texted me to ask how I was doing or inquired about my job or made any concessions for my schedule.

So, when both of these groups got upset because I no longer were there for them (having pulled back to give myself time), it was time to break the contact, rather than let them emotionally abuse me to their own ends.

Family is not about blood, and friendship is not a social media contact. Both are defined in actions, not words. Always remember this. Someone can say that they care about you, or they can show that they care about you.  If they show it, they don't need to say it; but, if they say it without showing it, it is twice as bad. However, the truth is found in what you can see. 

Now, there are people of faith that are telling you at times that faith is believing without seeing. However, that is not true and not biblical.  Faith must be based in what is real, and what is real can be seen.  Like God, I may be able to see love, but I can see the effects of it. And even in scripture, it cautions us faith that without works is dead... which is an old language way of saying if you can't see it or the effects of it, it isn't real. Also, Jesus told us that we are to judge people by their fruit, which is actions.  Many that call themselves Christians should consider that. If they hate instead of love.

So, if you're in a situation where you're just not sure how to think about someone, plug your ears and watch their actions.  If the actions do not justify your response, stop giving it. You deserve that. Respect yourself, even if they do not give you that respect.  That is a human right, and THAT is a truth you need to apply, if you would make your life happy.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Imaginary "Gender" and Being "Natural"

I have a hobby of searching out family tree history, sometimes.  It is kinda pointless, because after all the months of searching out this family tree line, you conclude...yup, I was born and had parents who had parents and so on.  It doesn't change who YOU are at all.

However, I remember one thing from it that is applicable, here.  In one of my family tree lines, I saw that this generation of one family tree line was from "Tennessee" and the prior generation was from "Georgia."  I remember thinking ah..what caused them to move from this state to that state in those years, until I realized that it was the SAME TOWN, and my ancestors had not moved...the state line had moved.

This is a great examples of "gender" to me.  We, in this country in this time period, have the arrogance to say that THIS is what defines "men" and THAT is what defines "women" for all people of all times.  However, is that really true?

First, let's consider other cultures.  Over in Scotland, it is appropriate for men to wear skirts called kilts.  In Europe, it is appropriate for men to like the arts and be passionate about love, culture, cooking, and fashion.  Indeed, as we walk through department stores in America, you will find MEN names at the head of many women's purses, shoes, clothes, jewelry, and perfume....meaning that those men had CREATED the designs that women love...which would be hard to do if the men of those names didn't share the interests and designs.  I, recently, walked through the Dallas Museum of Art with my wife, and I was noticing what I already knew to be the case...we were looking at paintings of who not only liked the arts but DEFINED it to generations.

But, that is another time, and that is another point.  We arrogantly defined what it means to have specific genders upon our time period, when history betrays us.  Shakespeare is perhaps one of the greatest love and romance writers of all time, and he was a MAN.  All of his performers were MEN.  Indeed, for thousands of years, almost all theater performers were men, but we determine that those who do the arts, today, must be "feminine"...upon our current day definition of that word.  Also, if you are talking about the "feminine" characteristic of wearing jewelry, having hair done, and wearing makeup, I hate to disappoint you but, before the recent centuries, that was done by not only MEN but MEN of POWER.  Have you SEEN the gold that the Egyptian Pharaoh would wear or the robes....not calling them dresses..of the ROMAN Caesars and such?

Indeed, if you look at nature, you will see that this is actually common.  It is usually the MALE animal that is the most colorful or decorated, and the male lion has the mane, while the female lions were rather plane...and in fact the female would do the hunting.  Notice I said ANIMALS, also, because most plants are BOTH male and female in one plant.  So, when people are condemned by conservatives for not being "natural" by not being a male extreme or female extreme in our current definition of those words, they are actually being more true with NATURE than the conservative.

I think the problem is that our current age...and conservatives specifically...have a problem spectrums or the color gray.  They LOVE to speak in black and white and put people and things in boxes; however, they define those boxes by their prejudices and the center of the bell curve for that thing.  For those that don't know, a bell curve is a graphic tool that shows how, given the statistical sampling of how things are, they often fall into a curve that begins at the bottom, rises to a peak, and drops to a bottom, in a smooth line.  Then, conservatives take that center point and define EVERYTHING by the center point, even if that is not actually true.

So, like my geography lesson at the start of this, GENDER (just like race and party and religion) have had their definitions changed over time, and people that have lived in the same way and location without moving have found themselves defined DIFFERENTLY in a world of shifting perspectives.

If you are out there and you are feeling that you just don't fit into the bubbles that they have set for you, and you feel you must be strange or unnatural, just dismiss the critics.  The fact is that by being yourself you ARE NATURE, as nature created you.  Be yourself, like who you want, and follow your bliss.  Just FORGET gender definitions that always seem to change and are only created by those wishing to control and, instead, just fall in love with being yourself.  THAT is a path to happiness.

Living in a Careless Culture

Over the course of the last week, I have had more personal examples (as well as seeing news examples) of something that I have said in the past in my blogs and feel it needs to be said, again.  A lot of people see what is happening on the national stage or see others short changing, mischarging, or just being unfair to them and take a defensive response to it, suggesting that they are being "attacked" by someone or something.  In rare cases, this is true....when someone truly wishes you harm and wants to maliciously make that happen to you.  However, most of the time it isn't their desire to do you harm that is the cause, it is JUST NOT CARING what happens to you.

In the course of my most recent move, I have had a couple examples of that, where someone double charged/ overcharged me or under paid me.  When pressed on it, they finally admitted that they had made a "error" but blamed others or defended themselves by saying it wasn't intentional.  That sounds very familiar.  When I used to deal with my ex (before I finally cut off communication), I used to hear that a LOT..."I didn't MEAN to do you wrong, I just didn't think about it" would be her defense...again and again and again over the same things.  That is the defense all of these type of people give...that it wasn't malicious only careless, as if that makes it all the better.

As I used to say to my daughter, if I carelessly hit someone with my car, they are still dead.  If I carelessly fail to pay a utility bill, they still shut off my power.  The fact that it is careless doesn't make it better, and I have suggested that it makes it worse, because they have failed to acknowledge you as a person, at all.  When someone intentionally does you wrong, they KNOW you deserve more and wish to deprive you of it.  However, when someone carelessly does you wrong, it means that each time it was done, they didn't CARE how it impacts you.

But, that is the culture we live in, and I think that how it gets political is when people intentionally put others in that state of mind, by keeping them in the fight or flight mentality of having an enemy.  Abraham Maslow created a Pyramid of Human Need in 1943 that has been a cornerstone of human psychology.  It states that if people do not have their physiological needs and safety needs met, they will not progress unto love or self actualization.

I believe that is what is happening with the segment that is currently supporting Trump, but it does not originate with him.  They are already prepped for him by way of conditioning in the church, which I will blog about in a few minutes and post to my magic blog for a spiritual / religious focus of this.  I believe that the Republican Party has realized this way of motivating others above their sense of ethics and empathy by keeping them in a constant state of FEAR ..with loud alerts by Fox News and speeches talking about the threat of Islamic terror on our country, when since 911 the rate of deaths by Islamic terrorism in the USA is one person per year (see a previous blog on this).  So, the sheep are being led by the shepherd out of fear of the imaginary wolf, much like the movie The Village, which I would recommend to anyone to see.

By keeping them in a state of fear about their safety (needing a WALL to shelter them is a great clue), they keep them from even THINKING about the loss of others.  So, when they tell them that we must cut the social aid programs or healthcare of the poor in order to fund PROTECTION from this threat, they have used Maslow to create the careless culture of which I speak.  It isn't that they WANT the poor to die or suffer, they have just been conditioned to JUST NOT CARE.

Obviously, we can't fix this by pointing it out to them or telling them to care.  Their minds are fixed in fear and stuck in the stage that prevents them from even USING logic or empathy.  All we can do is spead the message of love and questioning the imagined demons around the bend and reminding them that life can and is being lived in happiness by some.  Maybe, then, they will choose to step past fear into freedom.

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