Friday, January 1, 2021

Male Development

 This is the first post of my focus on MALE development, even though I will keep the posts for "self" development from prior.

I decided to explore and focus on male development, because I think that it is an area that is neither explored or presented as being good in popular culture, leading many to make many errors over their life, as it has in mine.

What do I mean?  We have a society that values women, and that is good.  However, for all the talk about equality, not all of us are equal in expectations or roles, and what is considered good and success for one is considered failure for the other.

I have a personality that is generally more sacrificial and giving.  Now, that has gone too far, and I am pulling back for more self respect and building that is long overdue.  However, that giving nature that is always asking what I can do for others and asking for their input in making decisions (to not be dominating and to be respectful)... while being something that is VALUED in a WOMAN.. is seen as lack of initiative and indecision when done by MEN.

Many men, like myself, have listened to the words of liberalism and feminism and took heed and stepped up to help women to achieve their goals.  However, that HELP, while being out of a heart of value and respect for equality, is seen as condescension by the woman and instead of being accepted with gratitude is met with anger and resentment.

MEANWHILE, the man does these things thinking that women will find them more attractive for doing them for women.  However, my experience with not only my ex wife but others has proved the opposite.  The more of "feminine" characteristics that a man shows, the less attractive he is to the woman.  She may accept him more as a person and even be a great friend, but the actions are the way a romantic mate becomes trapped and excluded in the friend zone by a woman that wants a strong, providing mate.  

I faced these challenges early in my growth into adulthood of being friend-zoned.  However, I have seen that it is very much applicable in marriage, as well.  Women want to feel safe and protected.  However, to accomplish this the man must be STRONG and dominating... if he is strong enough to challenge her, he is strong enough to challenge others.. or the reverse, as well.  They also want someone that is able to provide romantic gifts and trips to them.  So, if you slow your work to care for their needs, for example, ending in less money, you will work yourself right out of attraction.

So, my first tip for men is this... LISTEN to what women say and respect that FOR THEM but know that even THEY do not expect or desire the same from you.  Men must live by their own set of rules and expectations.

Thursday, December 31, 2020

Zombie Love


 Zombie Love  (Short Story, $0.99 Kindle download or read in your browser)

The window was open just enough to let in the cool night air.  Veronica wondered how long it had been that she had been in this car.  She watched the snow falling gently upon the hood of the vehicle out of one of the peep holes she made in the frozen windshield and wrapped her coat tightly around her, gun at her waist.  The snow had left a clue to the zombies who walked the streets at random times.  If she walked around to leave too many tracks to her car, they would notice the change and be on her, and she was down to her last round.

A glance at her fuel gauge only furthered the dread, as she realize that soon she would need to refuel, and that meant finding a place to get fuel and then the risk of getting out of the car to pay and fill it up…and she didn’t even know if the pay at the pump still worked, anymore.  But, if she didn’t fill up, she would have to face the cold without the heater, which was one of the last comforts she felt she had in the world.

She glanced at the serene scene around her and laughed at the irony of being in such a beautiful surrounding, hiding from the undead.  The undead … just thinking it was so surreal.  It’s like she woke up from a nightmare to find it wasn’t just a nightmare, and all of reality was turned on its head.  How could this have happened?  A month ago, her concerns were so different and seemed so important.  Now, what was real?  Was the world she remembered still real, or just the chaos that filled her days and nights.

A light blinked in the distance from a cigarette shop, and a movie theater’s marquis sign shined the name of its most recent movie.  She had never seen that one, but she wanted it.  She planned to go on her date to it, the night that all hell had broken lose.  It had all happened so suddenly, she recalled...


The Year the World Stopped Spinning


 The Year the World Stopped Spinning (short story, $0.99 Kindle download or read it in your browser)

“Dad, why did everything change,” Matthew asked his father, as he slowly drifted off to sleep.
“Fear, son… power and fear,” whispered his father, as he walked to the door, shaking his head..


Michael remembered it like it was, yesterday, even though it had been a decade. In an instant of time, things had changed…reality’s very framework had changed…and everything was different. It was like someone had changed the channel on the tv of society, and the characters on the screen were acting out a different story, entirely.

Before the change, Michael had goals of making money, getting up a savings, and making a career for himself. He thought about the things he could buy and the trips and vacations he could do. He worked hard for his money, but he made sure to take time for running, shopping, entertainment, and more. His last relationship was ending, and he began to think about starting again with new dating profiles and thinking about future dates and romance with various women.

Then….the change.

From a young age, Michael had always been able to read situations and recognize patterns and adjust, faster than those around him. As it unfolded, he knew within days how the dominoes would fall, and he began to make preparations, but even he could not have anticipated how things would change….would not have assumed that society would surrender to much and follow the paths that were taken.

Coronavirus was the name given to the instrument of change…..the scalpel that would slice civilization right off the corpse of humanity’s populace, leaving in its wake the dystopian survivalist free for all that within one year eliminated the concept of freedom and choice and replaced it with promises of safety and control.

Where the year before a satire of a religious society that dominated its people was nominated for multiple awards, that same society was actively at work establishing which form the next government dominance would take and deciding what freedoms would be returned…. Freedoms that would NEVER be returned, as it would seem. After that, those prior goals became pipe dreams, and it soon became clear those days would never be repeated, again.

Michael remembered when it all happened, though he didn't know the depths it would take him …

This is a satirical look at our present situation and the coronavirus with references to real life changes taking place. My hope is that this STAYS satirical and that humanity would be wise and courageous enough to never let it happen, even though we live in a society ripe for the picking and have young generations unfamiliar with the warnings the world has experienced in in the past and which are STILL happening in places we don't talk about.


The Godwitch Christian Devotional


 The Godwitch Christian Devotional ($0.99 Kindle download or read it in your browser)

You may be saying, "This is a WITCH Christian Devotional?...I thought Christians hate witches." That is part of the problem. Christianity is being defined by institutions of men, rather than the Biblical message of Jesus.Next, you may be saying, "Who are you to speak on the Bible?" Well, as much as a Bible degree gives THEM credibility to speak, I have the same, B.S. in Religion (Bible Studies Concentration) from the Evangelicals own favorite university, Liberty University, founded by "moral majority" Jerry Falwell, Himself. Even though, few of the loudest voices among Evangelicals even have a degree from any university.However, I do NOT expect you to believe MY words but the WORD they call infallible...the Bible.

This book is a collection of Scripture from the Bible on the fruit of the Spirit, as well as topical collections for use in prayer/spelling sessions. It is not intended for attack on Evangelicals, even though the verses provide an excellent way to shut down their condemnation of you.My goal in my first book, Godwitch, was to illustrate the connections between Christianity and Witchcraft, and this book is meant to provide a means of spiritual connection for witches, lesbians, gays, transgender, the divorced, and more. Jesus doesn't hate you.

In fact, as this book illustrates, he died for you and his message is an open door of love and a message of condemnation of those that would shut that door.May you find it useful in quiet reflection, meditations/spelling/prayer sessions and deepening your connection to the power of the universe, which is waiting to act on your behalf.