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Tuesday, June 19, 2018

What to do with your Kids FREETIME

If you are like most parents, you are happy to have your kids at home, but you find they have a LOT more energy than you do in the summer months.  However, you would like to know they are getting a good sample of things to see.

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Friday, June 15, 2018

Do Not Eat the Eye Candy




Today, there is the story out there of a cosplay woman giving her #metoo moment, online, about being abused ... EVEN AT the Fan CONVENTION.

It shouldn't have to be said.  We are adults...so... WHY do we keep having to have the conversation that a woman being in the proximity of a man is not permission for him to control and use her, simply because of what she is wearing or how she acts.  However, the first time that any woman speaks up about abuse, the male republican response is...well, just look at how she was dressed.  She was ASKING for it.

NO.  She wasn't.

And, for fcks sake, this is something I recall being discussed when I was still in school...DECADES ago.  Why is it that it is not something that we have learned by now, that a woman deserves the right to pick and choose who she does or doesn't want to sleep with or how she should be treated.

But, no...from the President of the United States to like... God..what...like half the Republican men in office, we have to hear a new scandal each week where one of them or another are being sued for sexual harrassment and abuse and GOP party leaders paying the women to be silent, after.  When it is brought out to attention, what do they or their Fox News abusive male reporters say?  Well..did you SEE them?

But, welcome to the POLITICALLY CORRECT ... MALE society, where MEN demand that women wear sexy outfits for them and NFL CHEERLEADERS wear less than underwear in freezing cold temps, all for the satisfaction of male LUST, under the endorsement of the Evangelical Religious Right.

I don't care if they were wearing a clear body suit.  I don't care if they DID come on to you or to their mental detriment go OUT with you or heaven forbid MARRY you.  That doesn't mean you can abuse them or dominate over their will, even if Trump's buddy Putin's country promotes the view that a man's wife "cannot be abused"... as the lower Russian legislature bill said.

No means no..and, if you can't get that, get ready for a country of lesbians, because who would want to be with you.


Friday, June 8, 2018

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Sunday, June 3, 2018

When You Can't Leave pt 2 - SHINE ANYWAY

This will be part 2 to my last post on...what do you do when you can't escape?  As I said, there, the best way to deal with narcissists and users is to NOT deal with them.  Get away.  However, sometimes, you find yourself unable to get away, either from your inability to fund your escape or...as is the case with my wife and her kids vs her ex..they won't LET YOU GO out of their control.  

So, my first solution is to call them out on it and be public and make yourself a very bad taste in their mouth.  However, it can't just be about rebellion or bitterness.  It needs to be about YOU and happiness.

Today, as I sat on my bed reading the Tulsa World newspaper with my wife, I noted publically on my Instagram and Twitter that not EVERYONE in Tulsa is a racist, homophobic ahole, when I highlighted the LGBTQ  pride parade that was held in Tulsa.

Now, the parade was very small, the newspaper mentioned how those in it were scared to speak up in this town, and I had to loudly sigh from reading the names of the "king" and "queen."  So, even those that support the movement don't really ...GET IT...that there doesn't need to BE a man and a woman.  Having a King and Queen at an LGBTQ parade kinda undercuts the entire POINT of the parade.

But, I applaud them for shining, and that is the point of this second post.  Sometimes, you can't help WHERE you have to be, but only YOU have the power to decide WHO you are.  They may not like that you are that way, but you shouldn't have to hide indoors out of fear of violence or rejection.  ONLY by getting out there will you be able to identify others in the culture's minority to start building a REAL communion with others that respect you for being yourself.

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Living the Retired Life

A lot of perspectives have changed as I have gotten older, and things I used to think was important is now just noise and bluster.  The things I used to think was irresponsible and fleeting have rightfully taken center stage.

Recently, my wife and I watched Mamma Mia, and I fell in love with the culture.  It isn't the first time I have seen it, but it made an impact on me, this time.  I used to not only believe but propagate the capitalist money and things lifestyle.  Like my father did to me, I hammered on my oldest daughter that she needed an EMPLOYABLE degree and PAYING career, even though I was much more supportive of her interest exploration than my father was to mine.  To some degree, this is true.  You need to make enough money to pay your bills, so you will need a plan to do that.  However, it is up to YOU how high those bills should be.  My daughter would have failed at that, as well, with her high spending.  However, when you start to get older, you start to realize that spending is what you choose to have around you, when you live your life.  It is not LIVING.

My back is having a lot of issues, lately.  It is just one of several ways that my body is telling me that it is time to slow down.  It only makes sense, as I have dealt with more stress in my life to date than most people do in a lifetime.  In the last year, I have lifted many boxes in two separate moves (one to a higher paying job and the other coming back when the wife's ex sued to bring us back 3 hours).  I have driven maybe a 50 thousand miles in the last year from Uber and Lift or more.  I sat at a tense accounting desk at a few jobs.....all within a year's time.

But, going back, you have the stress of my 6 years in the National Guard and 2 years Army; 8 years homeschooling an unmedicated ADHD child that overlapped with 2 years raising an infant, finishing my B.S. and MBA degree, and doing all the house work; 2 years as the furniture manager at Dillards (moving the furniture); 4 years accounting at both the IRS and a fortune 20 company.  By this age and will this number of years invested, Armed Forces, Teachers, Police, and more would be able to retire.  Indeed, my brother is military retired on much LESS stress than what I had to endure from not only the above but a controlling ex that always broke our budget, a daughter that treated me like her personal valet, legal issues from a divorce, and more.

So, I am retiring.  That doesn't mean I am done writing...in fact plan to do it weekly.  What it means is that I am done fulfilling corporate managers dreams for their happiness to spend the years that I have left thinking about my own.

In AMERICA, that is called "retirement," even if in the rest of the world, it is called ... normal life.  I remember someone scolding Europe as lazy, because they took 2 hour lunches and mandated companies give their workers 2 months off paid a year.  Lazy?  Sound like choosing LIVING over working, to me...and that is what I plan to do the rest of my life.  Live.

Friday, May 25, 2018

How to Move FORWARD When You Can't Escape

This is a blog article that I should have written a while ago, but I have been putting the finishing pieces on it by living it and experiencing it for the last year.  It is about...what do you do, when you can't escape a situation or person in order to move forward.

I read an article one time about how to deal with a narcissist by some psychology magazine, and the first solution is...don't...don't deal with them.  Get away, because the narcissist will never see themselves wrong and will always see themselves the victim, no matter what you say or do.  In general, I have always agreed with and blogged about this as the solution...just get away from them.

Then, last year, I "got away" from some bad companies in a self obsessed religious cult city and my wife's controlling ex, when luck had me get a job offer for a higher income area a few hours away, and life was sweet for those months.  THEN, however, my wife's ex filed a lawsuit to demand we move back to Tulsa, even though he had failed to object in the allotted time.  Yet, because Oklahoma custody law is based on what the MAN wants over what the woman does...even if she follows the law...we found ourselves dragged back to live here, again.  So, I found myself in this location, again, and I had to deal with it.

Yet, isn't this what ALL of the normal people of America have been feeling for a year and a half?  The majority of Americans voted for the first female President in the nation's history, but...instead...we have had the losing ahole MAN in power, because...like Oklahoma...what HE wanted overruled the vote count or will of the people.

So, what do you do, when you have to be where you don't want to be and still be able to stay sane?

The answer is...fight.  For a while, I tried to flee...I cut down on my posts and started trying to focus on other things, but I kept feeling stress from my prison and depression of feeling powerless.  Then, I started to speak out...post about it.  It allowed me to find RELEASE and each post helped me feel power to change things, even just a little.  At the VERY least, it made me such a stink in the nostrils of conservatives that they RUN from wanting to spend time with me, giving me exactly the space I want from them.

So, if you can't flee your job, location, or a person, make yourself the biggest stink in your prison and give yourself the satisfaction of bringing light to a dark situation.

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Nevertheless She Persisted

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Monday, May 21, 2018

New Career ... Returning to Writing






Right after I left the military in 2001, I started homeschooling my oldest daughter, who had ADHD to the degree that the school she was in didn't know how to deal with her and were isolating her.  During that time, I began following a career interest of mine that I had since I won the county essay competition in high school and was in the school newspaper class, there....writing.  I began submitting freelance writing articles for publication and reading Writer's Digest, Writer's Market, and all the books about following the writing career.  I began small, as you would need to do, and I got published in several small publications for fillers, poems, and etc.  That is where I got the "writing" part of my Yahoo username writingken in that time.  However, writing takes dedication and more importantly...TIME.  I was in the middle of both being the stay at home dad, homeschooling dad, and finishing up my degree...so I couldn't really dedicate the time to make it a full time income...considering that the NORMAL rejection rate for submissions is 10 percent.

Well, now, I find myself unable to do a full time job, due to health issues and the desire and need to do grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, and more with my wife's back issues restricting her, as well.  The Uber option was straining but possible IF it paid well enough for me to do it a few hours a day and recover the rest of the day with a little of the housework.  However, due to low income in Tulsa and other restrictions, that is not a viable option, either.

SO....I am selling the car, like I had thought of doing weeks ago.  I will take that money to cover necessary bills for the rest of the year to give myself time to give writing a go, again. 

I am very happy with this career choice, and I look forward to spending every day writing and submitting poems, fillers, cards, articles, and maybe even book proposals.  Regardless of whether I make it big, I KNOW I can do this and will enjoy the life it provides.

Do Not Drive for Uber - Testimony

I am moving all political posts to free2b.forwardtohappiness.com so as to make this blog focused on making personal and relationship choices toward happiness (will promote my Forward to Happiness book soon on here).  Some of those choices is to leave those that take advantage of you.

Today...that focus is on Uber.

I chose Uber, because I like the idea of helping people.  Plus, between my health issues and my wife's back issues, I need something that gives me the flexibility to take care of housework (which I enjoy doing as well being feminine).  So...the flexibility of driving drew me to Uber.

HOWEVER, aside from the negative of making little from very ungrateful people in Tulsa through hell's traffic, I find myself having to protest Uber, itself, often.  

Here is the most recent example.  Yesterday, I was given a multiple delivery from one location...two orders from one IHOP with 2 deliveries.  However, the total payout for 45 minutes of my time on this order was just over 5 dollars.  When I looked at the details, it was abt 1 trips worth pickup and dropoff fees.  Here is snapshots of the conversation that followed with Uber..


So... They took a "batch discount" from what they paid me that resulted in my making less for 2 trips than if I had a single trip.  

I am not sure what the discount would be based on, anyway.  I still had to pickup both orders and drop them off, and it is not like they gave a discount to the customer... So, both customers paid a fee but only one went to the driver.

This is not the first conflict I have had with Uber, including not getting paid for trips at all that disappeared from the list and was only added back, after I protested.


Further, last month, I got an email from Uber explaining that they were increasing a fee on the customer but that it would not reduce what we get as drivers....except, if the customer pays more but we get none of that fee our percentage of the total fee goes DOWN.

Uber doesn't care for it's drivers.  Avoid driving or using this company, if at all possible.

Friday, May 18, 2018

Wealth is Not Money



Good morning. 

I am sitting here in my pajamas, this morning.  It is nice.  I plan to do it for a few more hours with my love.  Then, I will get up, do a few leg lifts, some yoga, shower and saunder out the door to drive around town delivering food to people and people to places with Ubereats and Lyft.  Then, mid afternoon, I will cut it off and come home to cook dinner for my family and relax for the evening.  This is the life I choose, and I like it.

Does it pay well?  God, no.  The Tulsa economy is almost dead, unless you are a church or a gun dealer.  We make just enough to pay our bills and a little more to save for a cheap ass house in like 5-7 years.  We won't have money for a nice place, fancy furniture, vacations, and we will make great use of cheap or free date options around town.

But...that has never been important to me or my wife.  It isn't about things or vacations.  Sure, they are nice, when we can do them. However, we have DONE that, and we HAD to take them to spend a little time together from work schedules, and we had to spend the first half of time off just physically recovering from the stress damage we had inflicted in those lives. 
Between finding job stress, moving, the stress at work, and etc from the last few years, I now have back tendon injuries and higher blood pressure, both of which does and will limit me for the rest of my life...even life at a slower pace.  Are those jobs or the kids thankful or sorry for the injury upon me for them? NO...they didn't even notice and those jobs are now injuring others.

Now, compare that to the image, above....sitting in bed on a weekday, morning.  And, I feel guilty, knowing I am being judged for this lifestyle by others that work long hours for lots of money for things...for a life I do not wish to have.

But, here's the thing.  There is a REASON they judge me, and that reason validates my choice.  They see me resting and not stressing and feel JEALOUS...they say how can HE relax, when I have to work so hard? 

Of course, it is because I choose to spend less than they do.  I work for life, while they work for things.  HOWEVER, the FACT that they deem my life enviable and something I should not have means it is a GOOD life, since they wish they had it.

Wealth is not money, and often money leads you further from your happiness than take you to it.  I just figured it out, before my life ended.

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Lucky Charm for Car


Got my #car #lucky charm (or #talisman ) in the mail, today.  Has a #horseshoe #clover and more and only 6 bucks.  Mine was paid by affiliate sales, so thank you.  Get yours, here.

Monday, May 14, 2018

The ONLY Enemy to Happiness .. Self Doubt

As I drove around this morning (after resuming Uber/Lyft driving), I reflected on the experiences and lessons I learned from the last month, and I realized a few concepts that needed to be blogged about so others would benefit in regards to work, relationships, gender identity, personal style, sexuality and happiness.

Who is the Enemy?

The first realization is that WE are our own obstacle to our happiness....not others, even though we SEE that we are the obstacle when we react to the objections of others. 

Think about it.  If someone for which you have no respect objects to you, does it bother you?  I mean....if an EVANGELICAL were to tell me I was not religious enough, I would probably feel pretty good about that assessment, since the LAST thing I would want is to be acceptable to their view of religious.  No...the problem is not that others object to us.  The problem exists when WE accept their argument as legitimate.  The problem is not that we are not good enough or that our lives are a violation of their standards...or even that they feel qualified to put their standards on us, as deranged as that thinking is.  The PROBLEM is when we start feeling guilty or inadequate or insecure OURSELVES from their criticism.

Like...when I have The Devil tarot card addiction referred to in the last blog, where I start feeling I need to make more money and sacrifice my own happiness for others.  It is not something that I want for myself, and I feel that those that do it will wake up old and full of the regret of having not lived for themselves, long after all those for which they sacrificed have moved on from them.  I don't have ANY respect for the HARD WORKING PROFESSIONAL with a dysfunctional family and bitter self-anger, as they brought it upon themselves.  So....why does their criticism matter to me?  It ONLY matters when I begin to VALIDATE their criticism or SHARE it.  The problem is not them...it is me.

To Thine Own Self Be True

Because, at the end of everything, you only have yourself....and, NOW, you only have yourself.  That doesn't mean that others cannot SHARE in your happiness, but, if you are giving up that happiness for them, you are emptying the very cup you use to GIVE to them.  You have to be true to YOU, only.  Anyone that loves you will LIKE that you are true to you, since that was what drew them to you at the start.  Anyone that doesn't like it was never really into YOU.

Stop Looking for FLAWS in Something That Works

Finally, I realized that my criticism of Uber/Lyft limits was based NOT in the reality of the job but my own doubt of the CAREER, itself.  Does it in Tulsa make less than McKinney, Tx Uber and Lyft.  Hell yes.  I made 15 dollars net, there, while here it is somewhere from 4-7 per hour...half the pay.  Do drivers, here, drive like drugged up demons at times.  Absolutely.  However, here is the thing.  I can't DO anything ABOUT that.  It is not a temporary problem but a regional reality.  SO...when you run into one of those realities, you can either LEAVE the situation, or you can ACCEPT it.

I have pointed out many times that relationship and work share the same principles, and this is another one.  Sometimes, you cannot be happy in a situation...someone violates the very principles you NEED to be happy, and in those situations you have to LEAVE.  Get a divorce.  Trust me...I spent over a decade trying to be happy with something that didn't even NOTICE nor CARE I was not.  In that kind of situation, whether it be a relationship, job, or location, you have to leave....if you can.  However, if you are in a situation that may not be ideal but CAN or DOES still make you happy, stop shopping around.  Accept the limitations and be happy.  Often, people don't even start noticing how bad a job is, until they have already internally considered leaving.  If you are in that state of instability, you will poison your own well.

So, IF you are not in a personally abusing situation that CAN work for your own limitations and still...pay the bills and let you be you....then, repeat after me what I learned to say in Boston...It is that it is.  Then, whenever someone cuts you off or doesn't tip you...or fails to recognize you as a parent (ha), you can let it roll off you to focus on the things that will redeem the day and your life with joy.

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Not Teaching ... Avoiding Addiction




I am a witch...a Christian one.  I have a magic blog godwitch.blogspot.com and have written an entire book about the crossover, between faith and magic.  It is out there for a dollar at Amazon (click below)..

 


Magic has not failed me.  When I use it, it has led me successfully.  The PROBLEM is that, like many with their faith, I often don't like what it has to tell me and try to re-interpret it to fit the outcome I desire.  Like...Tarot.  In all my time flipping cards under the leading, I can only think of maybe one card that didn't match with the realities that were happening or would happen....even if it was the truth I didn't like.

Self Respect is Not Agression



Two episodes we caught up on this weekend was a great reminder for myself and to everyone that gathers the courage to stand up for their own happiness, and I would recommend them both to all my readers.

First, there is The Handmaid's Tale new episode for the week, Other Women.  It took me several days to watch this episode, and the reason was the reviews coming out, before the episode had even been on Hulu for a single day.  They said things like it was a horror movie or worst yet or etc.  It's kinda like my not wanting to watch This Is Us, BECAUSE everyone says it will make you cry.  Why would I want to cry.  So, when they panned this episode, I wasn't sure I wanted to see it. 

In the end, I did see it and recommend it.  NOT because it will make you happy, but watch it because it is REAL about what it is like to feel trapped and powerless....when you start to hope and see that hope crushed and those around you worse off.  It is enough to be tempted (as June was literally by the organization and from her own head) to feel that it is YOUR FAULT what happens to other people, simply because you decided that you would rather be free...and the temptation to feel it is the right and holy thing to do to shut up and take it.

I think most that have had the courage to speak up for themselves and faced this temptation, as those that back the status quo forcefully try to shut you up, so that THEY can FEEL BETTER about taking advantage of you.  I faced this opposition, when I spoke out against Lifechurch, when after a year of being on staff as greeter they ignored the fact that my daughter was in the hospital and didn't pray for her and wanted me to not make a big deal about it...easier to SAY you are loving and holy, when you don't actually have to give up time or money....the same reason it is so easy for them to cut poverty aid funding in the name of God.  I, likewise, faced the opposition for speaking out against corporate corruption at my previous workplaces, where the dollar was the bottom line and caring for customers or employees was a distraction from that profit.  I faced that opposition for speaking out against the GOP or masculinity or greed or such.  Then, when I got tired of being in the lion's mouth for attack, I withdrew to just be happy in jobs that I liked...no matter the income they made....including Uber, which I liked doing but paid very very little in Tulsa, Ok.  And, each time I would choose to follow my own interests, I found myself echoing June's words, above....my fault, my fault, my fault.  Even though I have ALWAYS resented and opposed seing myself as a masculine person, I would keep falling into the guilt I could HEAR in the minds of all those around me for choosing to make LESS.  I hear my dad's voice telling me that there is "no money in reporting," when I wanted to be a reporter....or teacher.  I could hear my former co workers, when they would in the past tell me about the MONEY they spent on family vacations, or the money they dangled in front of me to keep my mouth shut and stay in line.  Yes...I had the convictions to walk away, but was it MY FAULT that my family was poor?

This follows in perfect line with the episode of Girlboss, above, that we saw.  Sophia was starting to doubt herself.  Her products were suddenly not selling as they used to be, and the fear that she would fail and let everyone down was literally sickening her health.  She felt she needed to choose a safer and more steady source of income and work at the job she had found, instead of following her dreams.  However, as she did that, she found she was losing the spark that made her...her.  In the end, she said, f*** it and quit the job to follow her dreams...dreams that obviously became very successful, but that is not the point.  As she even told her dad that was worrying about her poverty, I could say the same thing to others, "I like it this way.  I'm ok."

So, no.  It is not an attack on anyone else to say, "I choose freedom over servitude and myself over others."  It is also not OUR FAULT, when that results in negative attacks by those that try so hard to shut us up.  It is the fault of the way things are, and, if those things are cruel, it only serves to prove the need for things to change...and the only way things change is if WE change them by BEING the change.  THAT STAND will remain, no matter the income, long after in the mind of our audience and children, so the NEXT generation can be more free....and to me that make it all worth it.

Sunday, April 29, 2018

Full Moon in Scorpio .. Rebirth


Today...in a little over an hour, the moon will be full, and this pink moon is Full Moon in Scorpio.  The significance of this full moon is that it represents a turning point of change.  Rebirth.

I don't think there could be a more perfect astrological sign to accompany my getting selected to be in the Tulsa Teacher Corps and likely a teacher, come this Fall.

As you look to the skies as the wise men of the Bible story, what changes will you claim for a better, tomorrow.

"old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." - 2 Cor 5:17

Friday, April 27, 2018

We're Better Than This

Reflecting this morning on our current state of society...or lack thereof.  It is our fault for how things de-evolved, but we can also fix it with a few ways, also.

When I was in my Development of Political Philosophy - Ancient and Modern course in college, it focused on the great philosophers that shaped and guided societies for millennia...and most people don't even know.  They love to talk about the founding fathers, the french renaissance, the English enlightenment, socialism, etc.  However, all of those movements had as THEIR scholars people like Plato, Hobbes, Machiavelli, etc.  They are the primary sources behind the society structures and asked the question...how do we create and maintain society...all people being able to function together.

The problem is not that we are following a bad guide, right now.  It is that there are NO guides.  We have, like rebellious teens, said, "we don't need no education," and went off to satisfy ourselves at the EXPENSE of all others.  So, we do not have Plato calling us to enlighten the world with paths to peace and happiness, nor do we have Hobbes caution that all men, if left unchecked, will dominate and control each other to their own ends.  Instead, we are on our way to a post apocalyptic wasteland (perhaps literally from nuclear war) of scavengers with guns taking the scraps from one another.

However, through education, we might find hope..whatever form that education may take.  This generation is lost, but we might survive as a society if we learn the lessons of the past, so our kids can create the world they deserve on our ashes.

Therefore, I am going to write a book that pulls out historical and literary quotes for this purpose to promote and make it sourced and high quality.  It may takeva year to put together, but it will be needed, even if it may not sell well, and will sell it till the day I die.


Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Still Figuring It All Out

So...last week's online products was a bust.  I was pretty sure those would take off, but it looks like I would have to drop the price to cost just to unload them.  It doesn't mean I won't sell online...I still like that idea.  It just means I haven't figured our the things that work....yet.

Watching Girlboss on Netflix, last night, there was one line that applies, here.  The series is the loose retelling of the life of Sophia Amoruso, as she built her business.  As she was wandering the town in pursuit of her business name, the guy she was with asked her a question, and she said..."I don't know...I'm still figuring it all out, man."

That's kinda where I am in my career transition, right now.  I don't know.  I DO know I HATE where I was, before....sacrificing my health and happiness for the corporate profits of those that couldn't care less about that or me.  And, I DO know I LIKE the things I am trying, which is an improvement.  As to what the outcome will be, that is up in the air.  It may be teaching full or part time (if in conjunction to other things). It may be Uber full or part time.  Hell, I may even get a movie theater job ..still feeling it out.  

However...and this is important...as the banner ad said that I added after my last blog, "Not all those thar wander are lost."  I have, personally, never been more found.  So" thanks for the patience to see where that leads.

Friday, April 20, 2018

Finding Hope

The last few weeks on the blog and in life has been exploration in finding my happy, where I have to be.  Last year, I had made it to the Dallas metro...a few hours away from Tulsa.  While it was not New York, Boston, or L.A. ...or other places I would like to live domestically or foreign, it DID have a working economy.  There was no shortage of jobs or options, and you could do whatever you wanted to do.  However, my wife's ex sued to DRAG US BACK to Tulsa, which in recent posts I have likened to Handmaid's Tale or such.  I thought of another example, when we started watching Once Upon a Time season 7, tonight, and they made reference to "the curse" that kept them from leaving town, such as was the case in other seasons of the show.  How fitting to being FORCED to live in a town of very little industry or civility for that matter.  We are cursed to be here...so, what now?

Well, I could either sit and stew and nothing will change, or I can find the best way to live the most happiness I can in this location.  This has been my exploration task for the past few months, and I have discovered that Uber just does not work (or Lyft) as a long term solution.  I love the job, and, if I still lived in Dallas, I would still be doing it.  However, a few times this week, I found myself driving, literally, ALL over Tulsa for over an hour on just a 3 dollar income for that time.  That didn't even pay for the GAS to do that driving.  The problem is that people here just don't have money, so who has money to have food (or themselves) delivered...few out of a whole city.  This is ASIDE from the ahole drivers I face, literally putting my life at risk every day in this town.  So, enough is enough.

What that DOESN'T mean is getting ANY job, even if I don't like it, as was the mistake when I returned to criminal IBM in this town.  What it DOES mean is finding what WOULD make me happy, and I have a few ideas.

The current idea is an idea that I have had, before...teaching.  I, actually, have completed 20 hours of a graduate level Elementary Education training program, and I have an ABCTE Elementary Education certificate.  While that doesn't work for an Oklahoma certificate, I have in the process already passed the first exam teachers have to pass in this state to teach.

So...I applied to a local teaching certification program and will find out if I get it in a few weeks or less.  In the meantime, I also applied to be a substitute teacher, and I will start building up my experience as I find a way into the profession...or..honestly...if I only ended up being a lifelong sub teacher, along with my online stores, it would be a pretty great life, also...so, that is my current goal.  That said, I am keeping my options open to other jobs I would like in the arts or social services areas, also.  We'll see.

The point is...if I HAVE to be here among the super-conservative ego-centric, I DON'T have to be LIKE them, and maybe I can bring a little New England or West Coast culture to them, along the way.  Happiness isn't others to take away from me.  It is mine to take, wherever that happens to be.


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Saturday, April 14, 2018

Ken Clifton Creative Products Site Up

I have taken another site I had created, deleted out several non product related posts and have decided to make it a site for products I will be creating and selling as a business.

Ken Clifton Creative

Will be a site for products that I create myself to sell...necklaces, art, fashion, decor, and etc.  I plan to build this into a full time business with many products.  Tomorrow, I will be uploading the first two products for sale.  It will NOT be an affiliate site for sales of other people's goods or through amazon, as you will see from time to time on here.  It will be MY products that I will mail to you, payable through bank or credit cards through Paypal.

To thine own self be true. To the rest...be shallow.



A lot of changes in the last week and a half.  I do not regret the things I said as being true, but a lot of what I realized can be summed up by the old saying... "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy."  And, while I applaud those that are standing for right, I just want to be happy....thus the name I chose for this blog.

Those that will criticize you are never going to change.  I think a recent Tweet of mine on my new Twitter page puts it well...


This applies to politics, gender, religion, and more.  People think they are being attacked for who they are, when their attackers are not that deep.  Really, it is just for how they appear.  And, while it is still wrong, if you find yourself in enemy territory as I do often and you want to ENJOY living... It's a lot easier to give them superficial things to check off in their mental box and live life your way, than fight the world.

So, this blog will focus from now on on what makes me happy, in such a way that will be received by others... Like having a BEARD while going to the ballet, art shows, and romantic dates... A Tulsa liberal undercover in conservative America...and maybe bringing a little culture to them in the process.

Saturday, March 31, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Ballet



In the midst of the wasteland that is called conservative America, you can find glimpses of beauty and style.  One of those would be ballet, although ...if you are having lunch with a conservative couple (as we did), you may hear from the man, "Oh, she made you go see that...i had to endure one, too."

Which was the point at which I knew I would have nothing in common with this guy...like almost all guys, since I for my whole life have fit more in the category of girl with my attitudes and personality, always having women friends that liked me for being more like them than their husbands.  

However being openly feminine means I can ENJOY artistic things like ballet with my wife, so on this Trans Day of Visibility, I would recommend you become more public, if you are trans.  The reaction you will get is exactly the one you need to establish the right crowd to be in.

But, back to ballet.  This is a art of MOVING beauty...as if a painting or sculpture came to life.  Plus, it is a great workout to do their moves and works all the right parts.  The combination of movement, lighting, and music is hard to beat for a date night...and not that expensive if you do the team b group performances or if you can stand the balcony (I can't for fear of heights).  Try it, and you'll be hooked.

Thursday, March 29, 2018

Oklahoma ...IM..morality by statistics

As I am finding myself FORCED by the state to live in Oklahoma, because my wife's ex was unwilling to drive to the AIRPORT in town to get his kid for weekends (at my expense) and filed lawsuit to drag us back here (still amazes me that a STATE can dictate where an adult that has broken no law can live... very Handmaid's Tale), I figured I would enlighten the rest of the world about the wonderful morals I have to experience, living in this religious mecca of Tulsa, commonly known in this town as the "holy city" due to having Oral Roberts University pressent, as well as many...many.. megachurches.  So...on with statistics...

Divorce

Now...being divorced from a HORRIBLE person, myself, I do not see divorce as an evil act, but it is a symptom of evil present in the marriage that ONE or both had to escape.

So, when I read that Oklahoma has the THIRD highest divorce rate in the country, I am not surprised...only 2 places above Arkansas.  Honestly, I don't know why ANYONE would be married to a good ole boy out here that was probably drunk, when he got married, and spends more time away from his wife hunting, fishing, watching football, or at a BAR than with his wife.  Indeed, it is very much like The Man in High Castle depiction of a Nazi America, where the women gather together and send men off to do men things.  That LITERALLY is how most church groups happen in this area...men's group...women's group.  No MARRIED groups.

And...what men says...goes.  So, when a woman wants to get divorced, both Oklahoma and Arkansas put a waiting period, before they can get it done, and YET they STILL have the highest rates.  That shows you how DESPERATE women are to get away from good old GOP state men.

Rape

And for good reason.  CNN reports that Oklahoma has the SIXTH highest rate of reported sexual assault in the nation, Arkansas falling one ahead at 5th, which does not surprise me.  Whether driving in traffic or anywhere else, the men in this state seem ONLY interested in themselves.  Women...after all in the church services are told that they should be obedient to their husband and are told by their same churches that they are not ALLOWED to leave an abusive relationship or go to HELL for it.  There is NO CHURCH TEACHING, however, in ANY EVANGELICAL church about the evils of neglecting or abusing your wife.

Violence

But, then, violence is a part of what it means to be Republican in Oklahoma, and they do it so well.  Oklahoma is the 10th most violent state by FBI statistics in 2014.  But, what do you expect, when one of the two state schools symbol is a man standing with two handguns in his hands pointed outward...OSU.

Poverty

In 2016, the poverty rate INCREASED, even though the rest of the country got better, with 1 in 6 families living in poverty.  Showing the racism of the state, the poverty rate for black or hispanic families in Oklahoma was nearly 3 times that of white families.

However, despite the increase in number of those living in poverty, the number of those being approved for food stamp state assistance DECREASED. So, surely churches are picking up the slack?  Wrong.  In all my time in several churches in this area, I have not seen ONE local churches with a food bank or soup line or ANY poverty aid provided, at all.  Instead, I hear "christians" saying their poverty is evidence that they are not right with God and, therefore, deserves the poverty.

Gotta love OKLAHOMA MORALITY...ha.

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Alcohol


And, now to make sh*t really get serious for conservatives...ha.  The next liberal contribution to society is alcohol.

Right now, conservatives are angrily tapping their beer bottles and bourbon glasses on the tables in protest...what do you mean, whey would say...we DRINK ... a LOT.

Indeed.  Despite the founders of your religious order saying that drinking alcohol is a SIN (so says all Baptists, Falwell, and other evangelical leaders), conservative states sure do drink a lot of it...but what else is new.  Conservatives are USED to breaking their own commandments.

However, let's take a moment to consider where alcohol COMES from...

Wine

The biggest USA region that is known for alcohol is Napa Valley, California.  How did they vote in the most recent presidential elections....

Trump - 17,411
Clinton - 39,199

Hmm.. well, what beer...surely, beer will not let the conservatives, down.

Beer

Well...first of all, Budweiser is not an AMERICAN owned beer, which has to be a shock to all the America Only crowd.  So, they can start dumping their FOREIGN owned beer down the drain in protest, now.  But, then, if they are going to go for BETTER beer, they are going to be out of luck, as almost ALL the best beers in the world are foreign owned....foreign from countries that DESPISE Trump.  Most hard liquor is foreign based from these lands, too.

However, if we are going to talk about where Budweiser was founded in the 1800s and has a connection to the beer, here, it is St Louis, Missouri, which is only one of 3 counties in ALL of MISSOURI to defy the rest and vote for CLINTON.  Indeed, the company shocked the nation with it's courage to run IMMIGRANT founded beer commercials in a stunning rebuke of Trump, himself.

Alcohol has always been a friend of the liberals, and it was the CONSERVATIVES and more specifically EVANGELICAL base of the GOP that make drinking ILLEGAL in the past, and they would gladly do it, again, given the chance.

Why do I mention this?  Because, conservatives spend every day complaining about how LIBERALS are the source of all their problems....then, go home, and drink LIBERAL created ALCOHOL till they feel better...and enriching Democrats in the process...so, drink up GOP.  CHEERS!

For the conservatives out there, if your evangelical and fascist GOP only leaders are successful in excluding our "evil" society from you, just keep in mind that you will be finding yourself walled into a conservative compound making your own moonshine and being judged by the very leaders for which you now cheer.  Good luck with that.


Monday, March 26, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Theatre



It was a humorous display of conservative fascism's bravado to think they can tell everyone what do like and do. The news ... MIKE PENCE was angry that the HAMILTON cast criticized him, when he attended their showing, saying they were concerned he would not defend them in their diversity.

This caused Trump to tweet angrily...

"Our wonderful future V.P. Mike Pence was harassed last night at the theater by the cast of Hamilton, cameras blazing.This should not happen" - The Guardian

But...seriously... This was THEATRE. As even the article notes, it is filled with people of color and sexual orientation and ALWAYS has been. Until the last few hundred years, it was common for ALL roles on stage to be played by men...even women roles in full Crossdressing, trans glory on stage for kings.

So...the humorous bravado is that the most recognized racist homophobe going into the liberal theater IN NEW YORK expected anything else. It wasn't like this was a show in a state that actually VOTED for him, and neither Trump or Pence can ORDER people to love the very ones attacking them or pledge to them)...at least not yet.

Theatre is a place of self expression and free speech, and as such it is a place where people can say what they feel and be applauded by those with open minds that appreciate the freedom. May it always remain FREE of GOP fascist control.

Sunday, March 25, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Freedom of (or from) Religion


Imagine you lived in the 1600s and 1700s.  You fled your country, because they demanded you worship THEIR way.  Now, after a perilous journey, you reach the shores of the America colony.

Then, they tell you you must worship our Christian god and believe OUR way, and we are gonna put signs everywhere telling you what to believe.

Now...that didn't happen.  If it had, no one would have come.  The Republicans can claim they are trying to return this country back to colonialism, but even that is a lie.  The colonists wouldn't sign the Constitution, unless it provided for protection they could believe whatever they wanted without the government trying to establish a national faith.

Enter modern day GOP that establishes legal organizations like Pat Robertson and Jay Sekulow (also a Trump attorney) created ACLJ for the EXPRESS purpose of putting THEIR beliefs in every government institution and school.  They claim they want "freedom of religion" but, then, try to ban Muslims, attack witches, and require atheists to use money saying "in God we trust" and demand they pledge "under god."  

And the ONLY thing holding these back from their agenda to convert everyone, impose the old GOP no Sunday work laws, ban alcohol, proscribe one accepted version of sex and type of clothing and accepted reading material is liberals standing for your RIGHT to believe something else.

Saturday, March 24, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Civil Protests


Had a great time with the family at the #marchforourlives local event in the midst of Republican majority Tulsa, Ok.  The location that held the event did not mention it was happening in advance, during, or after.  However, it was filled with students and families protesting gun violence and calling for gun control.  Nationwide, the event gained over 2 million hash tag tweets and early estimates say over a million attended events in New York and D.C. with over 800 crowd locations holding events, elsewhere.

But, this is what liberals do.. We CARE enough to protest, whether it be for LGBTQ rights, environmental protection, minority and gender rights to vote, workplace protection, or protecting animals from abuse.  And...I don't have to prove it to conservatives, because they call us "bleeding heart liberals" BECAUSE we care, as if that is a bad thing.  

If your heart bleeds with the rest of us, vote Democrat.

Evangelical Worship Songs.. Army of God

From a former insider that has a B.S. in Religion at Evangelical Jerry Falwell school Liberty University and was both a security guard at one megachurch and dood greater at another, I figured it time in light of this day protesting gun violence and hearing the Austin bomber was part of a bible study that taught how to shoot guns ..the kind of songs being sung in conservative churches (and has for a decade)...

Revival - "We reach out and claim Your place We won't rest, we won't fade away 'Till You reign forevermore..We will die leaving a revival behind behind"

Awesome God - "Judgement and wrath He poured out on the Sodom"

Onward Christian Soldiers - "Onward, Christian soldiers! marching as to war"

I'm in the Lord's Army (KIDS worship) "I may never march in the infantry Ride in the cavalry Shoot the artillery Imay never fly o'er the enemy But I'm in the Lord's army!"

We Will Worship Him "It is time for battle It is time for war As we sing hosanna As we praise the Lord He will still the accuser Crush the enemy As we celebrate God's victory"

Lion and the Lamb "And every knee will bow before the Lion and the Lamb Every knee will bow before Him"

These are just a few of hundreds of references in "christian" worship referring to being in the military of the "lord," asking him to destroy the enemy, saying God is more powerful than the spirit of the world (unbelievers) and these SAME church leaders are the ones identifying to their members who the "enemy" is in society and training them how to shoot guns (in the bible study or on the side).

Still think it's all just fun and games and a loving religion?  Evangelicals have become a straight up religious terror organization in the name of God, no different than any ither around the world.  Just...to them... God is on THEIR side (as all others say, also).

Friday, March 23, 2018

It's CULTURE... Don't Expect Immediate Change

With the last post and this one, I feel it is important to make it clear that we will not convince Republicans they are wrong, as many on the left imply.  It is not because we are failing to make it clear.  We don't need a new strategy to show them.  They know.  

They knew who Trump was when they chose him.  They had JUST heard his comments about women when they voted for him for President.  They knew he was a rich ahole, and they liked that about him...because that is how they are, too.

I think that people in liberal states can't believe people can't be that way, but anyone that has lived out here in the new Gilead (Handmaids Tale) knows that is how it is.  

I remember unbering someone, here, and using the guest say, "The mayor promised to do something about these homeless."  She didn't mean feed them but get them out of sight, and that is a great way to describe GOP morality, here.  They CLAIM to be Christian loving, and they will remove out of sight anything that proves them wrong...or attack.  But, they are not about to listen to criticism.  Nothing pisses off a bully  or selfish person more than someone calling them a bully or selfish...just look at Trump's Twitter, daily.

Foxnews will always spin every story.  GOP politicians will always defend themselves, and GOP voters are gonna hold to grandpa's racism and hatred, since it is "southern heritage" values that they prize.  Can there be change?  Maybe, but not for a generation.  Till then, the best we can hope is to limit their influence.

Who is to Blame for cuts, wars, guns, and Trump? GOP VOTERS!

Ok...gonna go off page and vent about the REAL threat to our country.  It is not Trump.  He is just the current dckhd leader they put there.  It is the GOP VOTERS.  It is not deemed proper or acceptable to say, but consider the past...

Trump and GOP Congress - cutting healthcare, cutting poverty aid, making rich richer, making alliances with foreign dictators using ends justify the means reasoning, closing foreign trade crashing the market and economy, amping up for multiple wars, making it a PRIORITY to cut funding for the arts and tell people what bathroom to use, forcing Christianity upon the entire population, restricting freedom of speech, etc. 

BUSH 2 - Started a war with Iraq based on false premise of alliance with Al Queda and WMD (evidence of neither found), launched multiple wars around the world, did away with due cause for privacy violations in OUR country, set up torture prisons, crashed the economy in 2008, cut funding for the arts, etc.

BUSH 1 - Started a war with Iraq based on the false premise of WMD (also never found to be used), had to bail out housing and banks from crashing, etc.

Notice that in both of the Bush administrations, simply POSSESSING a WMD (or the suspicion of it) was reason to fight a multiple year war with the country.  Then....RUSSIA USES THEM IN A NATO COUNTRY TO ASSASSINATE SOMEONE...and Trump has not even spoke against them or called them out on it.  Indeed, he ignored his OWN STAFF's NOTES that told him not to congratulate them and did THAT in the phone call, instead...and STILL didn't mention the nerve agent attack.

And, so...this brings me to this post.  I don't want to focus this on Trump or the GOP leaders...they are aholes..and have been the WHOLE TIME.  I want to focus this condemnation on the GOP voters that put them there...

...the GOP voters that said a one time affair by Clinton was reason to impeach him but doesn't care about 19 women and Trump.
...the GOP that screamed about the deficit under Clinton and Obama, but in the FIRST YEAR of having power added over a TRILLION to our national debt.
...the GOP that condemned Obama for failing to release a birth certificate (until he did) but has NO PROBLEM with Trump refusing to release tax returns.
...the GOP that demanded any involvement in the investigations in the 90s by Clinton would be met with charges, but they don't care at ALL when Trump FIRES his own Attorney Generals multiple times for the explicit reason of stopping the investigation and fires his own Secretary of State and NSA director for saying Russia was a security threat.

Trump is evil.  He is an immoral man that rules by sin and subversion to a foreign power.  At this point, we all know this.  We also know the GOP Congress is bought and sold by rich people to make them richer at the expense of the poor.

HOWEVER, the PEOPLE that put them there...the EVANGELICAL Right that is SUPPOSED to follow their own commandments to love and at the very least NOT LIE are the BASE that allows all of this to happen.

One day, they will meet their makers and hopefully burn in their own fire, but until then, I will make it a mission in my life to not only see no republicans in power but that they are exposed for the EVIL, SELFISH, POWER driven, warmongers and Christofascists that they are.  THEY...not Trump...bear the PERSONAL responsibility for EVERY evil their elected leaders have done.

Liberal Contributions - Art Museums


(My pictures of the Philbrook Art Museum in Tulsa and Dallas Museum of Art exhibits)


Another contribution from the left is art museums, which provides a place for fun, free (on certain days), family time and education in the history and culture of not only ourselves but other people.  And this is only one of many arts funded in part by the same endowments the President and GOP wants to cut.

If you have not gone to your local museum, lately, go.  I have never been disappointed or felt the time was wasted, and I came out not only inspired but with the appreciation of all humanity.

Thursday, March 22, 2018

Liberal Contributions - Coffee Shops

(My photo at Tulsa's Utica Square Starbucks)

I am starting a new post series to be posted every day (or every other day).  Trump and the GOP have kept us and the world focused on what is WRONG about the political right, and I feel it is important ro focus on what liberals bring to the table.

Every few months, we hear from the evangelicals how Starbucks is evil...how it's symbol is a derivative of a goddess symbol (falsely).  However, how many of them stop for their cup of joe weekly...or daily.  Coffee shops are much more than caffeine tho.  Many of them also have hanging art, calming music, and provide a place for social centering or study.

God bless liberalism.

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

The GREED of MAGA in a World of Humans in Need

I wanted to address something that I think goes overlooked in the discussion of Trump's Make America Great Again campaign.  The Democrat leaders like to point to the fact that America has already BEEN great, under Obama.  Under his admif pnistration, unemployment was cut in half, debt was cut, GDP rose, and we didn't have to decrease healthcare...increased it in fact.

However, what I want to focus on is the idea that America being GREAT in the midst of the WORLD in NEED would BE a great thing at all. 

It makes perfect sense that RICH people in this country that build great mansions and large churches in the midst of poor communities without helping them (Republicans) would be on board with the idea of building a BIG COUNTRY, as well. 

But...I'm coming back to that poor community around their mansions and church buildings.  Can it REALLY be seen that we are in any sense of humanity GREAT when our brothers and sisters around us are living in poverty and dying from lack of FOOD?

I mean, seriously...isn't that the POINT of why churches used to run mission trips to poor countries to bring them food or help them with water?  Has Evangelicals MATURED beyond the compassion to help the least of these? 

There was a time that I was working at one of my jobs, and I had JUST told the group that I was struggling to make it to the next payday, and one of the other men in the group (later in a conversation with someone else about something else) says, "Yeah...I always carry a few hundred dollars in cash in my wallet, just in case."  He was LITERALLY standing 2 feet behind me holding out hundred dollar bills as evidence.  How do you think that made me feel?

Well, THAT is how the rest of the world feels when Trump touts how RICH he is and how GREAT the country would be, while saying that his mission is to close our border and make sure that NO ONE else gets ANY of our money.

This is the attitude of the rich land owners in Ireland (and other lands), before the poor rose up and burned their houses down, and I expect that is EXACTLY what the rest of the world would do, if we tell them to eat dust, while Trump and his crowd eat caviar...and maybe, that is EXACTLY what we deserve.

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Pay Attention: Cambridge Analytica story is BIGGER THAN TRUMP

Having an insane President with his hand on the nuclear button and able to destroy people's lives and finances is definitely an important story.  Him firing his Secretary of State and NSA Chief for questioning Russia, confirming the President is under the influence of a foreign power is even more important.

HOWEVER, as I started digging into this Cambridge Analytica - Facebook story, it has taken precedence as the MOST IMPORTANT STORY IN THE NEWS NOW.  When I go through it, you will see.

Channel 4 News did an undercover expose (complete with hidden cameras and microphones) with Cambridge Analytica, acing like they were a potential client and wanted to hear about the company.  Click here for their news story...

What they discovered...

...Cambridge analytica claimed victory for the election of Trump, citing the popular vote loss as evidence that they did their job.
...Their system analyzed the personal data of private voters in swing states, and created crafted feeds just for them (more on this in a bit).
...They coordinated with campaigns, such as Trump's campaign, so that all the positive news went through official news, while the negative stories they wanted aired were fed into the internet feeds of group members they knew would run with the story (which in the story CA officials says it doesn't matter if they are true).  This allowed CA to state on the hidden camera that their work, then, would be "untrackable"...implying they KNOW they needed to hide it.
...CA employed both Steve Bannon and Kellyanne Conway....ever wonder what they had on the President to get those jobs...ding ding ding.. they helped him get HIS JOB as President.
...Steve Bannon is currently under investigation for receiving almost a million dollars from coordinating Superpac activities with the Trump campaign, violating election laws.

Now, two follow up notes.  One....other than Bannon, the other GOP figure that has intimately involved in the Cambridge Analytica is Ted Cruz.  HERE is an article about Ted behind legislation, last year, to make it legal for companies to take your browser history without telling you and selling it to others.  Now, I wonder why a CA funded politician would want to do that...hmmm...

Now, to get back to why it is important that FACEBOOK gave this data to CA, who used it in the election cycle and why it is illegal. 

Imagine that I was going to meet you and wanted to say just the right things to get you to buy my product.  So...I BREAK INTO YOUR HOUSE and rifle through your photos and papers, so I would know what you watch, what you read, what you owe, and who you like.  THEN, I take that info and "meet" you for the first time, saying what I know will sway you to accept my offer. 

Now...THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT THEY DID IN THE ELECTION.  FACEBOOK is your house of interests, and they gave that to this analytic firm that, under the direction of the campaigns, created ads that they knew would influence you.  Then, they used Russian hackers to put those stories in your feel...crafted JUST FOR YOU by your interests...to manipulate you to vote just how they wanted you to vote.

No wonder they claim they gave Trump the election.  They did.  If we keep just focusing on the putz in the White House, we will have missed the machine that PUT HIM THERE and can do it, again...over and over.




Monday, March 19, 2018

Exposing Corporate Insurance GREED (not all insurance)

For today's expose on corruption in the marketplace, I want to talk about Corporate Insurance...or to put it another way....Benefits, are they really?

I thank God every day that I left the corporate world to follow my own happiness.  I only made a few ventures into the world of corporate accounting, and I have definitely learned enough to keep me from ever doing it, again.  I discuss some of those stories in Shh ... Lessons Learned in My Fall From Grace. (free download)  I didn't talk about EVERYTHING I learned, there, so expect a sequel at some point in the future (maybe next year).

Benefits...are they really?

The scam is pretty well laid out.  You finished COLLEGE for a degree that financial magazines told you would make you money (funny how that works...a mag written by a business).  Then, as you took those classes (often at a for profit college by a high paid professor paid to tell you good things) using your student loans (via corporate money to get paid back with interest), you dreamed of the things you would do with your higher income.

Then, you graduate.  

Now, you face TWO realities.  First, IF you are poor, you have student loans to repay (the rich had daddy pay for school so they stay rich and you stay poor).  I will do another post on that in the near future.  However, the second thing you face, even sooner is....benefits.

Now, two important things need to be noted.  ONE...it is not all insurance companies.  There are legitimate low cost, term life policies that can cover emergency accidents or life that are worthy.  Second, it has not always been this way.  Even a few years ago it was not this bad.  However, my own testimony (witness) of what I faced, this year.

When I was forced to move back to Tulsa for my wife's lazy ex, I had an immediate need to pay for moving costs and to get setup, here.  So, I worked at my old job at IBM (a mistake) via contract doing the same job I was paid 60K to do a few years ago at 40K without IBM having to pay benefits (is happening a lot, btw...they fire someone, hire them back at lower pay without paying benefits, and the unemployment rate is unaffected).

My benefits for this job was included in my contract company's benefits package (though an IBM employee confirmed to me that is how much it costs them, too).  For a family policy, I would be paying 1300 dollars a month as my insurance payment.  Kinda high, right?  Surely, then, I am definitely covered, in case something happens.  Except...I'm not.  Before the insurance company would pay out a single dime, I would have to pay the 7000 dollar per person deductible.

So....to recap, in the event that anything happened to me that DIDN'T cost over 7,000 in one year (I have never had over that in expenses in a single year), I would STILL be paying ALL of the cost of the expense, and for this ...benefit... I get to pay them 15 thousand dollars a year.

So...I refused the insurance.  OH NO..people would say...you don't have insurance?  You are right, there is the risk that something would happen that costs more than 7,000 (since if it is less I am paying, anyway).  However, IF it were to happen, and I DID have to pay that cost, it would be tax deductible at least partially, if it exceeded the standard deduction, and that amount would be comparable to what the insurance company would have paid.

Now, I will be taking out emergency care, this month.  There are some great emergency care policies at places like Aetna that cost less than a hundred and provide thousands in the event of an emergency...they not only don't TELL  you these exist at IBM or Manpower, but they don't OFFER them to you, either.  The corporations only provide you the alternatives that are the most PROFITABLE...again, funny how that works.

I am not sure I like Bernie Sanders as a President, but I do like him as a social economist, and his plans work.  For all the heat he takes on his single payer health insurance plan, the alternative is WHAT I JUST TOLD YOU....corporate greed, while the workers get nothing, and HIS plan specifies no high deductibles.  It is the health care plan we need.

Vote democrat.


Saturday, March 17, 2018

Trump Got Matching Orders from Putin


My recap of the news of the last few days, including the firing of the NSA Director, Secretary of State, FBI Deputy Director and the foundation laid for firing FBI Investigator Mueller ... All because they questioned Putin, who owns our President.

Friday, March 16, 2018

Notice Repubs Don't Check With You Before Deciding For You?

One of the most infuriating things about dealing with conservatives is their elitist twist to portray everything they do as being FOR YOU, even though they never CHECK with you, first.  Then, if you disagree with them, you just don't understand yourself.

The duplicity of this party is absolutely astounding.  Remember this is the party that CLAIMED they were for state rights for decades.  Then, they get to national power and impose their values on EVERY state, even those that didn't VOTE for TRUMP and condemn those in those states that happen to be lesbian or gay or trans or liberal or socialist or pacifists or of another face color or faith choice...or female.

But, this is what they do.  That is why like half of Tulsa is blocked off with road construction, under Republican leadership.   They didn't care if the drivers had a hard time getting to work and are not really interested in HEARING about it, either.  They figured they knew what was BEST for ALL Tulsa, so they just did it.

This is like my recent chat I had with my ex-wife that I referenced in another post.  I don't talk to her, because I can't go ONE chat without her telling me how is best for me to live in my life in my house SIX YEARS after we were no longer married.  And, we are, now, living back in Tulsa, because of my wife's ex and a court that decided whether it was BEST for the kids to move 3 hours away for a 40 percent pay increase, even if we paid for flights for the kids to see the ex (they decided no...and so back we came).  No one even ASKED us...or the KIDS ... what WE wanted...only the man.

This FASCIST PRIDE needs to end that says someone not in my family can decide how best that family is run or if I can leave an abusive ex or whether someone can choose their own personality traits, clothing styles, or sexual preference.  The ONLY person who knows those things is the only one Republicans are not asking...the person themselves.

No Mercy to Republicans (They Knowingly Chose Evil)

We just had a congressional race for a district in Pennsylvania for a district Trump won by 20 percent.  It appears, barring any changes, that the Democrat will be the next Representative.  And, that is the Democrat narrative.  It was the narrative DURING the campaign, as they ran on Democrat platforms.  Then, after the victory, it was the narrative after the race.  They say...it was a good race, but the Democrat won, because they love Democrats.

Except.  It's NOT.  He WON, because the last GOP person to hold that seat had sex with someone and then PAID for them to get an abortion, while preaching that abortion was wrong.  So, why wasn't THAT what the race was about?  Because, the Democrats wanted to be fair and polite to the Republicans.  It wouldn't be NICE to talk about a man when he was down.

BULLSH*T.  This is the kind of response that KEEPS us having to DEAL with Republicans.  I don't want to be nice to Republicans...the ones preaching law.  The ones literally telling all others that they are going to burn in hell fire for their "sins," while feeling perfectly content with their own.

And, it is common.  No...not every Republican is banging somebody on the side and paying for abortions.  However, ALL of them voted .... KNOWINGLY ... for someone that has had MANY affairs and who is angry (which Jesus called murder) and who loves money (which Jesus said is the root of all evil).  They CONTINUE to support (as a party, not just congressmen) a man that is not a peacemaker but war lover.  They continue to support him, as he takes away the healthcare and food of the poor and aged.  They continue to support him, even though EVEN HE BRAGGED ABOUT HOW WELL HE LIES this week, when he talked about his meeting with a foreign power.

But, that is not the reason I think that they deserve no mercy...that they have as much or more sins in their belt than those they condemn.  It is BECAUSE this all STARTED when they condemned everyone else.  They may not like having the light of biblical condemnation put on them, but they have built an entire PARTY on using GOD to HATE and CONDEMN all others...others that GOD MADE.  The only reason we are TALKING about sin, is that THEY brought it up.  Before they did, we were and are ok with everyone doing whatever they want with their own body and lives.  However, THEY changed the tone by saying that we must live by a higher law and started pushing all others down with it.

So, no....I don't feel sorry for them that they look foolish and mean...it is an accurate depiction.  I don't feel bad pointing out how they morally failed by breaking their Scripture, INCLUDING how the President's son followed his dad's example to get a divorce and how that doesn't bother the evangelicals showing them to be hypocrites, because I went through a half DECADE of church condemnation for doing the same thing, and no one in the church came to MY defense.

These are false disciples of Jesus, even though they do it in his name...the name of the man that is famous for saying, let him without sin throw the first stone, but these evangelicals have not cared one whit what Jesus EVER said, and now they are being exposed on the world stage as frauds.

I not only hope they lose majority power, but I hope (and will help to bring about) their elimination AS A PARTY, completely...not because they did wrong but because they KNOWINGLY did wrong, defended it, and praised it.  We have had many parties disappear over the course of our nation's history, and it is time this party died, this decade, as the party of fascist, ahole, men who (as will be recorded in history) tried to impose their cult lifestyle on everyone in a country they intended to surround with walls, cut off from the rest of the world, and that woke up the country how far we have come from the land of the FREE and inspired us to become the home of the brave, once again.

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Ongoing Coup' at Trump White House (About Time)

I believe what we are seeing at the Trump White House is an attempted Coup D-Etat.  It's about time that it happened, but I am not praising any involved (who also need to be jailed).  They are just distancing themselves from a ticking time bomb coming from Mueller, and they knew what Trump was when they joined him.

Here's why I think this is happening.

First, Secretary of State Tillerson says Russia was behind the attack on the UK, and he learns from a Trump tweet on the way to work the next day that he is fired.  This would have triggered a "suicide pact" formed by Tillerson, Mattis, and Mnuchin that should one of them be fired the others would quit.  Just the fact that they FORMED such a pact not only shows how instable Trump is seen in the White House, but it shows all involved as being COMPLICIT in what they KNEW was happening, there.

The other two have not quit, but the fact that Trump fired his National Security Advisor McMasters for saying the same thing about Russia distracted the press from the 2nd action from the suicide pact.  The TREASURY department, on the same day, issued sanctions on 19 Russian entities involved in the Russian hacking of the election....which Trump has denied happening and a sanction order that does not mention Trump as issuing them.  And....who runs Treasury?  Mnuchin.

Meanwhile, so far, Sessions has refused to fire either Mueller, the special counsel or Rosenstein, the Deputy Attorney General that appointed Mueller.  However, this week Trump started floating plans to fire Sessions and replace him with someone who WILL fire the Russia-Trump investigator.  Seeing this coming down the pike, what is the Justice Department response?  Yesterday, they issued a subpoena for Trump Organization records related to Russia.  

Then, we have this by the Department of Homeland Security, saying that Russia hacked the power grid of the USA (another government document without Trump authorization or carrying his name.  DHS is formerly headed by John Kelly, the current Chief of Staff of Trump.  The Independent wrote an article, last year, that said Kelly and Mattis (the 3rd in the pact) have been so concerned about Trump that they made a personal agreement that one of them should always be in the USA to keep an eye on Trump.

There are two ways of looking at this, and both are true.  So far, the press has only jumped on the first of them, which is to say that Trump is paranoid and mentally instable and firing all his top staff to clear house in the manner of a North Korea dictator.  However, the OTHER side is what I am talking about here.  These previously loyal Trump officials that ate from his Lord's Table private retreats, where they have him his demanded divine adoration, are this week...in almost a coordinated fashion, defying their own President to scream RUSSIA IS A THREAT, at risk of losing their own jobs (and potentially prison for complicity).

And, if even they are doing it at personal risk, you KNOW this ship has run its course for these greedy rich appointees, who are acting against their divine leader (and money bag), before Mueller starts knocking at their doors, too.

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Be You... For You


I am doing alot more of this, lately....smiling.  I am very happy with my life choices, and that is the point.  I used to feel it was my "place" in the family to be the designated "male" asshole, since I had the penis...and I hated it.  I vowed never to be that person, again.  There have been a few periods of failing myself that I took on the "ugh, I just have to work THIS job that pays more, even if I hate it" or "I just have to raise my voice to get the kids to mind." 

Except... It was all b.s.  I usually ended up being barely any better off financially (if at all after paying benefits that wouldn't be used until I paid 7000 out of pocket in deductible), while working hard hours away from family for a boss that could care less for me.  And, all you teach kids by raising your voice is to fear you.  If you were a male wanting status and control, both of the above would be fine.  I have met many men that are only happy when they are the angry "profeasional" guy, but that is not me.

For me... The stay at home dad of 7 years in the past, romantic driven, experience person that I am, MEMORIES are my treasure, and my memories as "the man" was a curse.  The last few years of saying... I am gonna be me, for me, and find ways to enjoy my days may have drawn the ire of those wanting me masculine for their own ends, but, at the end of the day, I am smiling...and that's all I will remember.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

A Veteran Challenging Veterans Preference

Ok...time for my controversial post of the week (only one?).  I think it is time we challenged a little thing called Veterans Preference.

Before the conservatives start tar and feathering me, a little about MY military background.  I have veterans preference.  Oh?  I must have fought in a war, right?  NOPE.  How did I get it, then?  Because about 20 years ago, Republicans changed the law, and a "veteran" is someone that SERVED during a time of war, and they declared Iraq an open war, since the 1990's....then Kosovo...then..Iraq...then Afghanistan...then Iraq...then ...and so on and so forth.  Or, BASICALLY ANYONE THAT SERVED THE LAST 20 YEARS qualifies as a veteran, whether they fought in a war or not.

Well, is that really bad, you may ask?  Now, while I was and am a moral person from BEFORE my time in the military, I served in units with many that were not...ex cons, people that talked about using and abusing women, people that spoke joyfully about shooting people, etc.  EVERY ONE of these people (over half of my units) would NOW qualify for veterans preference....for jobs they are not qualified to do.

Get that?  THINK about it.  If they were really "the best trained" for the jobs in the military, they wouldn't need preference, and veterans preference is not limited in the slightest to what they did in the military.  So, for example, I got my first IRS Auditor job with veterans preference, which allowed me to get an accounting job, before I had even finished my degree and with NO experience.  In fact, for that job, my category of veterans preference put me ahead of ALL other candidates.  They LITERALLY COULD NOT select someone more qualified and follow the GOP passed law.

SO...that means that throughout government branches and, afterwards, in industry as a result of government work gained by veterans preference, our industries are filled with people with NO experience or training that, because they were trained to kill people, have authority over all other candidates.

This is also a SEX DISCRIMINATION, as the military is selective of men for battle positions, and it is a field that men would choose to do more than women (by majority).  Therefore, by penalty of law, there is a benefit to MEN who served over women that apply.  Why is it that only SOLDIERS get this preference.  I think NURSES or TEACHERS also provide a great service to the country, so why are they not getting hiring preference?

It is time for this boy's club GOP preference is ended, so we have fairer hiring and qualified candidates.  Maybe THEN people won't have to talk about the lazy and inefficient government workers that messed up their case...AGAIN, and we can actually move FORWARD to a better society.

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