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Tuesday, June 19, 2018
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Friday, June 15, 2018
Today, there is the story out there of a cosplay woman giving her #metoo moment, online, about being abused ... EVEN AT the Fan CONVENTION.
It shouldn't have to be said. We are adults...so... WHY do we keep having to have the conversation that a woman being in the proximity of a man is not permission for him to control and use her, simply because of what she is wearing or how she acts. However, the first time that any woman speaks up about abuse, the male republican response is...well, just look at how she was dressed. She was ASKING for it.
NO. She wasn't.
And, for fcks sake, this is something I recall being discussed when I was still in school...DECADES ago. Why is it that it is not something that we have learned by now, that a woman deserves the right to pick and choose who she does or doesn't want to sleep with or how she should be treated.
But, no...from the President of the United States to like... God..what...like half the Republican men in office, we have to hear a new scandal each week where one of them or another are being sued for sexual harrassment and abuse and GOP party leaders paying the women to be silent, after. When it is brought out to attention, what do they or their Fox News abusive male reporters say? Well..did you SEE them?
But, welcome to the POLITICALLY CORRECT ... MALE society, where MEN demand that women wear sexy outfits for them and NFL CHEERLEADERS wear less than underwear in freezing cold temps, all for the satisfaction of male LUST, under the endorsement of the Evangelical Religious Right.
I don't care if they were wearing a clear body suit. I don't care if they DID come on to you or to their mental detriment go OUT with you or heaven forbid MARRY you. That doesn't mean you can abuse them or dominate over their will, even if Trump's buddy Putin's country promotes the view that a man's wife "cannot be abused"... as the lower Russian legislature bill said.
No means no..and, if you can't get that, get ready for a country of lesbians, because who would want to be with you.
Friday, June 8, 2018
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Sunday, June 3, 2018
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
Recently, my wife and I watched Mamma Mia, and I fell in love with the culture. It isn't the first time I have seen it, but it made an impact on me, this time. I used to not only believe but propagate the capitalist money and things lifestyle. Like my father did to me, I hammered on my oldest daughter that she needed an EMPLOYABLE degree and PAYING career, even though I was much more supportive of her interest exploration than my father was to mine. To some degree, this is true. You need to make enough money to pay your bills, so you will need a plan to do that. However, it is up to YOU how high those bills should be. My daughter would have failed at that, as well, with her high spending. However, when you start to get older, you start to realize that spending is what you choose to have around you, when you live your life. It is not LIVING.
My back is having a lot of issues, lately. It is just one of several ways that my body is telling me that it is time to slow down. It only makes sense, as I have dealt with more stress in my life to date than most people do in a lifetime. In the last year, I have lifted many boxes in two separate moves (one to a higher paying job and the other coming back when the wife's ex sued to bring us back 3 hours). I have driven maybe a 50 thousand miles in the last year from Uber and Lift or more. I sat at a tense accounting desk at a few jobs.....all within a year's time.
But, going back, you have the stress of my 6 years in the National Guard and 2 years Army; 8 years homeschooling an unmedicated ADHD child that overlapped with 2 years raising an infant, finishing my B.S. and MBA degree, and doing all the house work; 2 years as the furniture manager at Dillards (moving the furniture); 4 years accounting at both the IRS and a fortune 20 company. By this age and will this number of years invested, Armed Forces, Teachers, Police, and more would be able to retire. Indeed, my brother is military retired on much LESS stress than what I had to endure from not only the above but a controlling ex that always broke our budget, a daughter that treated me like her personal valet, legal issues from a divorce, and more.
So, I am retiring. That doesn't mean I am done writing...in fact plan to do it weekly. What it means is that I am done fulfilling corporate managers dreams for their happiness to spend the years that I have left thinking about my own.
In AMERICA, that is called "retirement," even if in the rest of the world, it is called ... normal life. I remember someone scolding Europe as lazy, because they took 2 hour lunches and mandated companies give their workers 2 months off paid a year. Lazy? Sound like choosing LIVING over working, to me...and that is what I plan to do the rest of my life. Live.
Friday, May 25, 2018
I read an article one time about how to deal with a narcissist by some psychology magazine, and the first solution is...don't...don't deal with them. Get away, because the narcissist will never see themselves wrong and will always see themselves the victim, no matter what you say or do. In general, I have always agreed with and blogged about this as the solution...just get away from them.
Then, last year, I "got away" from some bad companies in a self obsessed religious cult city and my wife's controlling ex, when luck had me get a job offer for a higher income area a few hours away, and life was sweet for those months. THEN, however, my wife's ex filed a lawsuit to demand we move back to Tulsa, even though he had failed to object in the allotted time. Yet, because Oklahoma custody law is based on what the MAN wants over what the woman does...even if she follows the law...we found ourselves dragged back to live here, again. So, I found myself in this location, again, and I had to deal with it.
Yet, isn't this what ALL of the normal people of America have been feeling for a year and a half? The majority of Americans voted for the first female President in the nation's history, but...instead...we have had the losing ahole MAN in power, because...like Oklahoma...what HE wanted overruled the vote count or will of the people.
So, what do you do, when you have to be where you don't want to be and still be able to stay sane?
The answer is...fight. For a while, I tried to flee...I cut down on my posts and started trying to focus on other things, but I kept feeling stress from my prison and depression of feeling powerless. Then, I started to speak out...post about it. It allowed me to find RELEASE and each post helped me feel power to change things, even just a little. At the VERY least, it made me such a stink in the nostrils of conservatives that they RUN from wanting to spend time with me, giving me exactly the space I want from them.
So, if you can't flee your job, location, or a person, make yourself the biggest stink in your prison and give yourself the satisfaction of bringing light to a dark situation.
Wednesday, May 23, 2018
Monday, May 21, 2018
Right after I left the military in 2001, I started homeschooling my oldest daughter, who had ADHD to the degree that the school she was in didn't know how to deal with her and were isolating her. During that time, I began following a career interest of mine that I had since I won the county essay competition in high school and was in the school newspaper class, there....writing. I began submitting freelance writing articles for publication and reading Writer's Digest, Writer's Market, and all the books about following the writing career. I began small, as you would need to do, and I got published in several small publications for fillers, poems, and etc. That is where I got the "writing" part of my Yahoo username writingken in that time. However, writing takes dedication and more importantly...TIME. I was in the middle of both being the stay at home dad, homeschooling dad, and finishing up my degree...so I couldn't really dedicate the time to make it a full time income...considering that the NORMAL rejection rate for submissions is 10 percent.
Well, now, I find myself unable to do a full time job, due to health issues and the desire and need to do grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, and more with my wife's back issues restricting her, as well. The Uber option was straining but possible IF it paid well enough for me to do it a few hours a day and recover the rest of the day with a little of the housework. However, due to low income in Tulsa and other restrictions, that is not a viable option, either.
SO....I am selling the car, like I had thought of doing weeks ago. I will take that money to cover necessary bills for the rest of the year to give myself time to give writing a go, again.
I am very happy with this career choice, and I look forward to spending every day writing and submitting poems, fillers, cards, articles, and maybe even book proposals. Regardless of whether I make it big, I KNOW I can do this and will enjoy the life it provides.
Today...that focus is on Uber.
I chose Uber, because I like the idea of helping people. Plus, between my health issues and my wife's back issues, I need something that gives me the flexibility to take care of housework (which I enjoy doing as well being feminine). So...the flexibility of driving drew me to Uber.
HOWEVER, aside from the negative of making little from very ungrateful people in Tulsa through hell's traffic, I find myself having to protest Uber, itself, often.
Here is the most recent example. Yesterday, I was given a multiple delivery from one location...two orders from one IHOP with 2 deliveries. However, the total payout for 45 minutes of my time on this order was just over 5 dollars. When I looked at the details, it was abt 1 trips worth pickup and dropoff fees. Here is snapshots of the conversation that followed with Uber..
So... They took a "batch discount" from what they paid me that resulted in my making less for 2 trips than if I had a single trip.
I am not sure what the discount would be based on, anyway. I still had to pickup both orders and drop them off, and it is not like they gave a discount to the customer... So, both customers paid a fee but only one went to the driver.
This is not the first conflict I have had with Uber, including not getting paid for trips at all that disappeared from the list and was only added back, after I protested.
Further, last month, I got an email from Uber explaining that they were increasing a fee on the customer but that it would not reduce what we get as drivers....except, if the customer pays more but we get none of that fee our percentage of the total fee goes DOWN.
Uber doesn't care for it's drivers. Avoid driving or using this company, if at all possible.
Friday, May 18, 2018
I am sitting here in my pajamas, this morning. It is nice. I plan to do it for a few more hours with my love. Then, I will get up, do a few leg lifts, some yoga, shower and saunder out the door to drive around town delivering food to people and people to places with Ubereats and Lyft. Then, mid afternoon, I will cut it off and come home to cook dinner for my family and relax for the evening. This is the life I choose, and I like it.
Does it pay well? God, no. The Tulsa economy is almost dead, unless you are a church or a gun dealer. We make just enough to pay our bills and a little more to save for a cheap ass house in like 5-7 years. We won't have money for a nice place, fancy furniture, vacations, and we will make great use of cheap or free date options around town.
But...that has never been important to me or my wife. It isn't about things or vacations. Sure, they are nice, when we can do them. However, we have DONE that, and we HAD to take them to spend a little time together from work schedules, and we had to spend the first half of time off just physically recovering from the stress damage we had inflicted in those lives.
Between finding job stress, moving, the stress at work, and etc from the last few years, I now have back tendon injuries and higher blood pressure, both of which does and will limit me for the rest of my life...even life at a slower pace. Are those jobs or the kids thankful or sorry for the injury upon me for them? NO...they didn't even notice and those jobs are now injuring others.
Now, compare that to the image, above....sitting in bed on a weekday, morning. And, I feel guilty, knowing I am being judged for this lifestyle by others that work long hours for lots of money for things...for a life I do not wish to have.
But, here's the thing. There is a REASON they judge me, and that reason validates my choice. They see me resting and not stressing and feel JEALOUS...they say how can HE relax, when I have to work so hard?
Of course, it is because I choose to spend less than they do. I work for life, while they work for things. HOWEVER, the FACT that they deem my life enviable and something I should not have means it is a GOOD life, since they wish they had it.
Wealth is not money, and often money leads you further from your happiness than take you to it. I just figured it out, before my life ended.
Thursday, May 17, 2018
Monday, May 14, 2018
Who is the Enemy?
The first realization is that WE are our own obstacle to our happiness....not others, even though we SEE that we are the obstacle when we react to the objections of others.
Think about it. If someone for which you have no respect objects to you, does it bother you? I mean....if an EVANGELICAL were to tell me I was not religious enough, I would probably feel pretty good about that assessment, since the LAST thing I would want is to be acceptable to their view of religious. No...the problem is not that others object to us. The problem exists when WE accept their argument as legitimate. The problem is not that we are not good enough or that our lives are a violation of their standards...or even that they feel qualified to put their standards on us, as deranged as that thinking is. The PROBLEM is when we start feeling guilty or inadequate or insecure OURSELVES from their criticism.
Like...when I have The Devil tarot card addiction referred to in the last blog, where I start feeling I need to make more money and sacrifice my own happiness for others. It is not something that I want for myself, and I feel that those that do it will wake up old and full of the regret of having not lived for themselves, long after all those for which they sacrificed have moved on from them. I don't have ANY respect for the HARD WORKING PROFESSIONAL with a dysfunctional family and bitter self-anger, as they brought it upon themselves. So....why does their criticism matter to me? It ONLY matters when I begin to VALIDATE their criticism or SHARE it. The problem is not them...it is me.
To Thine Own Self Be True
Because, at the end of everything, you only have yourself....and, NOW, you only have yourself. That doesn't mean that others cannot SHARE in your happiness, but, if you are giving up that happiness for them, you are emptying the very cup you use to GIVE to them. You have to be true to YOU, only. Anyone that loves you will LIKE that you are true to you, since that was what drew them to you at the start. Anyone that doesn't like it was never really into YOU.
Stop Looking for FLAWS in Something That Works
Finally, I realized that my criticism of Uber/Lyft limits was based NOT in the reality of the job but my own doubt of the CAREER, itself. Does it in Tulsa make less than McKinney, Tx Uber and Lyft. Hell yes. I made 15 dollars net, there, while here it is somewhere from 4-7 per hour...half the pay. Do drivers, here, drive like drugged up demons at times. Absolutely. However, here is the thing. I can't DO anything ABOUT that. It is not a temporary problem but a regional reality. SO...when you run into one of those realities, you can either LEAVE the situation, or you can ACCEPT it.
I have pointed out many times that relationship and work share the same principles, and this is another one. Sometimes, you cannot be happy in a situation...someone violates the very principles you NEED to be happy, and in those situations you have to LEAVE. Get a divorce. Trust me...I spent over a decade trying to be happy with something that didn't even NOTICE nor CARE I was not. In that kind of situation, whether it be a relationship, job, or location, you have to leave....if you can. However, if you are in a situation that may not be ideal but CAN or DOES still make you happy, stop shopping around. Accept the limitations and be happy. Often, people don't even start noticing how bad a job is, until they have already internally considered leaving. If you are in that state of instability, you will poison your own well.
So, IF you are not in a personally abusing situation that CAN work for your own limitations and still...pay the bills and let you be you....then, repeat after me what I learned to say in Boston...It is that it is. Then, whenever someone cuts you off or doesn't tip you...or fails to recognize you as a parent (ha), you can let it roll off you to focus on the things that will redeem the day and your life with joy.
Sunday, May 13, 2018
I am a witch...a Christian one. I have a magic blog godwitch.blogspot.com and have written an entire book about the crossover, between faith and magic. It is out there for a dollar at Amazon (click below)..
Magic has not failed me. When I use it, it has led me successfully. The PROBLEM is that, like many with their faith, I often don't like what it has to tell me and try to re-interpret it to fit the outcome I desire. Like...Tarot. In all my time flipping cards under the leading, I can only think of maybe one card that didn't match with the realities that were happening or would happen....even if it was the truth I didn't like.
Two episodes we caught up on this weekend was a great reminder for myself and to everyone that gathers the courage to stand up for their own happiness, and I would recommend them both to all my readers.
First, there is The Handmaid's Tale new episode for the week, Other Women. It took me several days to watch this episode, and the reason was the reviews coming out, before the episode had even been on Hulu for a single day. They said things like it was a horror movie or worst yet or etc. It's kinda like my not wanting to watch This Is Us, BECAUSE everyone says it will make you cry. Why would I want to cry. So, when they panned this episode, I wasn't sure I wanted to see it.
In the end, I did see it and recommend it. NOT because it will make you happy, but watch it because it is REAL about what it is like to feel trapped and powerless....when you start to hope and see that hope crushed and those around you worse off. It is enough to be tempted (as June was literally by the organization and from her own head) to feel that it is YOUR FAULT what happens to other people, simply because you decided that you would rather be free...and the temptation to feel it is the right and holy thing to do to shut up and take it.
I think most that have had the courage to speak up for themselves and faced this temptation, as those that back the status quo forcefully try to shut you up, so that THEY can FEEL BETTER about taking advantage of you. I faced this opposition, when I spoke out against Lifechurch, when after a year of being on staff as greeter they ignored the fact that my daughter was in the hospital and didn't pray for her and wanted me to not make a big deal about it...easier to SAY you are loving and holy, when you don't actually have to give up time or money....the same reason it is so easy for them to cut poverty aid funding in the name of God. I, likewise, faced the opposition for speaking out against corporate corruption at my previous workplaces, where the dollar was the bottom line and caring for customers or employees was a distraction from that profit. I faced that opposition for speaking out against the GOP or masculinity or greed or such. Then, when I got tired of being in the lion's mouth for attack, I withdrew to just be happy in jobs that I liked...no matter the income they made....including Uber, which I liked doing but paid very very little in Tulsa, Ok. And, each time I would choose to follow my own interests, I found myself echoing June's words, above....my fault, my fault, my fault. Even though I have ALWAYS resented and opposed seing myself as a masculine person, I would keep falling into the guilt I could HEAR in the minds of all those around me for choosing to make LESS. I hear my dad's voice telling me that there is "no money in reporting," when I wanted to be a reporter....or teacher. I could hear my former co workers, when they would in the past tell me about the MONEY they spent on family vacations, or the money they dangled in front of me to keep my mouth shut and stay in line. Yes...I had the convictions to walk away, but was it MY FAULT that my family was poor?
This follows in perfect line with the episode of Girlboss, above, that we saw. Sophia was starting to doubt herself. Her products were suddenly not selling as they used to be, and the fear that she would fail and let everyone down was literally sickening her health. She felt she needed to choose a safer and more steady source of income and work at the job she had found, instead of following her dreams. However, as she did that, she found she was losing the spark that made her...her. In the end, she said, f*** it and quit the job to follow her dreams...dreams that obviously became very successful, but that is not the point. As she even told her dad that was worrying about her poverty, I could say the same thing to others, "I like it this way. I'm ok."
So, no. It is not an attack on anyone else to say, "I choose freedom over servitude and myself over others." It is also not OUR FAULT, when that results in negative attacks by those that try so hard to shut us up. It is the fault of the way things are, and, if those things are cruel, it only serves to prove the need for things to change...and the only way things change is if WE change them by BEING the change. THAT STAND will remain, no matter the income, long after in the mind of our audience and children, so the NEXT generation can be more free....and to me that make it all worth it.
Sunday, April 29, 2018
Today...in a little over an hour, the moon will be full, and this pink moon is Full Moon in Scorpio. The significance of this full moon is that it represents a turning point of change. Rebirth.
I don't think there could be a more perfect astrological sign to accompany my getting selected to be in the Tulsa Teacher Corps and likely a teacher, come this Fall.
As you look to the skies as the wise men of the Bible story, what changes will you claim for a better, tomorrow.
"old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." - 2 Cor 5:17
Friday, April 27, 2018
When I was in my Development of Political Philosophy - Ancient and Modern course in college, it focused on the great philosophers that shaped and guided societies for millennia...and most people don't even know. They love to talk about the founding fathers, the french renaissance, the English enlightenment, socialism, etc. However, all of those movements had as THEIR scholars people like Plato, Hobbes, Machiavelli, etc. They are the primary sources behind the society structures and asked the question...how do we create and maintain society...all people being able to function together.
The problem is not that we are following a bad guide, right now. It is that there are NO guides. We have, like rebellious teens, said, "we don't need no education," and went off to satisfy ourselves at the EXPENSE of all others. So, we do not have Plato calling us to enlighten the world with paths to peace and happiness, nor do we have Hobbes caution that all men, if left unchecked, will dominate and control each other to their own ends. Instead, we are on our way to a post apocalyptic wasteland (perhaps literally from nuclear war) of scavengers with guns taking the scraps from one another.
However, through education, we might find hope..whatever form that education may take. This generation is lost, but we might survive as a society if we learn the lessons of the past, so our kids can create the world they deserve on our ashes.
Therefore, I am going to write a book that pulls out historical and literary quotes for this purpose to promote and make it sourced and high quality. It may takeva year to put together, but it will be needed, even if it may not sell well, and will sell it till the day I die.
Tuesday, April 24, 2018
Watching Girlboss on Netflix, last night, there was one line that applies, here. The series is the loose retelling of the life of Sophia Amoruso, as she built her business. As she was wandering the town in pursuit of her business name, the guy she was with asked her a question, and she said..."I don't know...I'm still figuring it all out, man."
That's kinda where I am in my career transition, right now. I don't know. I DO know I HATE where I was, before....sacrificing my health and happiness for the corporate profits of those that couldn't care less about that or me. And, I DO know I LIKE the things I am trying, which is an improvement. As to what the outcome will be, that is up in the air. It may be teaching full or part time (if in conjunction to other things). It may be Uber full or part time. Hell, I may even get a movie theater job ..still feeling it out.
However...and this is important...as the banner ad said that I added after my last blog, "Not all those thar wander are lost." I have, personally, never been more found. So" thanks for the patience to see where that leads.
Friday, April 20, 2018
Well, I could either sit and stew and nothing will change, or I can find the best way to live the most happiness I can in this location. This has been my exploration task for the past few months, and I have discovered that Uber just does not work (or Lyft) as a long term solution. I love the job, and, if I still lived in Dallas, I would still be doing it. However, a few times this week, I found myself driving, literally, ALL over Tulsa for over an hour on just a 3 dollar income for that time. That didn't even pay for the GAS to do that driving. The problem is that people here just don't have money, so who has money to have food (or themselves) delivered...few out of a whole city. This is ASIDE from the ahole drivers I face, literally putting my life at risk every day in this town. So, enough is enough.
What that DOESN'T mean is getting ANY job, even if I don't like it, as was the mistake when I returned to criminal IBM in this town. What it DOES mean is finding what WOULD make me happy, and I have a few ideas.
The current idea is an idea that I have had, before...teaching. I, actually, have completed 20 hours of a graduate level Elementary Education training program, and I have an ABCTE Elementary Education certificate. While that doesn't work for an Oklahoma certificate, I have in the process already passed the first exam teachers have to pass in this state to teach.
So...I applied to a local teaching certification program and will find out if I get it in a few weeks or less. In the meantime, I also applied to be a substitute teacher, and I will start building up my experience as I find a way into the profession...or..honestly...if I only ended up being a lifelong sub teacher, along with my online stores, it would be a pretty great life, also...so, that is my current goal. That said, I am keeping my options open to other jobs I would like in the arts or social services areas, also. We'll see.
The point is...if I HAVE to be here among the super-conservative ego-centric, I DON'T have to be LIKE them, and maybe I can bring a little New England or West Coast culture to them, along the way. Happiness isn't others to take away from me. It is mine to take, wherever that happens to be.
Sunday, April 15, 2018
Saturday, April 14, 2018
Ken Clifton Creative
Will be a site for products that I create myself to sell...necklaces, art, fashion, decor, and etc. I plan to build this into a full time business with many products. Tomorrow, I will be uploading the first two products for sale. It will NOT be an affiliate site for sales of other people's goods or through amazon, as you will see from time to time on here. It will be MY products that I will mail to you, payable through bank or credit cards through Paypal.
A lot of changes in the last week and a half. I do not regret the things I said as being true, but a lot of what I realized can be summed up by the old saying... "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy." And, while I applaud those that are standing for right, I just want to be happy....thus the name I chose for this blog.
Those that will criticize you are never going to change. I think a recent Tweet of mine on my new Twitter page puts it well...
Saturday, March 31, 2018
In the midst of the wasteland that is called conservative America, you can find glimpses of beauty and style. One of those would be ballet, although ...if you are having lunch with a conservative couple (as we did), you may hear from the man, "Oh, she made you go see that...i had to endure one, too."
Which was the point at which I knew I would have nothing in common with this guy...like almost all guys, since I for my whole life have fit more in the category of girl with my attitudes and personality, always having women friends that liked me for being more like them than their husbands.
However being openly feminine means I can ENJOY artistic things like ballet with my wife, so on this Trans Day of Visibility, I would recommend you become more public, if you are trans. The reaction you will get is exactly the one you need to establish the right crowd to be in.
But, back to ballet. This is a art of MOVING beauty...as if a painting or sculpture came to life. Plus, it is a great workout to do their moves and works all the right parts. The combination of movement, lighting, and music is hard to beat for a date night...and not that expensive if you do the team b group performances or if you can stand the balcony (I can't for fear of heights). Try it, and you'll be hooked.
Thursday, March 29, 2018
Now...being divorced from a HORRIBLE person, myself, I do not see divorce as an evil act, but it is a symptom of evil present in the marriage that ONE or both had to escape.
So, when I read that Oklahoma has the THIRD highest divorce rate in the country, I am not surprised...only 2 places above Arkansas. Honestly, I don't know why ANYONE would be married to a good ole boy out here that was probably drunk, when he got married, and spends more time away from his wife hunting, fishing, watching football, or at a BAR than with his wife. Indeed, it is very much like The Man in High Castle depiction of a Nazi America, where the women gather together and send men off to do men things. That LITERALLY is how most church groups happen in this area...men's group...women's group. No MARRIED groups.
And...what men says...goes. So, when a woman wants to get divorced, both Oklahoma and Arkansas put a waiting period, before they can get it done, and YET they STILL have the highest rates. That shows you how DESPERATE women are to get away from good old GOP state men.
And for good reason. CNN reports that Oklahoma has the SIXTH highest rate of reported sexual assault in the nation, Arkansas falling one ahead at 5th, which does not surprise me. Whether driving in traffic or anywhere else, the men in this state seem ONLY interested in themselves. Women...after all in the church services are told that they should be obedient to their husband and are told by their same churches that they are not ALLOWED to leave an abusive relationship or go to HELL for it. There is NO CHURCH TEACHING, however, in ANY EVANGELICAL church about the evils of neglecting or abusing your wife.
But, then, violence is a part of what it means to be Republican in Oklahoma, and they do it so well. Oklahoma is the 10th most violent state by FBI statistics in 2014. But, what do you expect, when one of the two state schools symbol is a man standing with two handguns in his hands pointed outward...OSU.
In 2016, the poverty rate INCREASED, even though the rest of the country got better, with 1 in 6 families living in poverty. Showing the racism of the state, the poverty rate for black or hispanic families in Oklahoma was nearly 3 times that of white families.
However, despite the increase in number of those living in poverty, the number of those being approved for food stamp state assistance DECREASED. So, surely churches are picking up the slack? Wrong. In all my time in several churches in this area, I have not seen ONE local churches with a food bank or soup line or ANY poverty aid provided, at all. Instead, I hear "christians" saying their poverty is evidence that they are not right with God and, therefore, deserves the poverty.
Gotta love OKLAHOMA MORALITY...ha.
Wednesday, March 28, 2018
And, now to make sh*t really get serious for conservatives...ha. The next liberal contribution to society is alcohol.
Right now, conservatives are angrily tapping their beer bottles and bourbon glasses on the tables in protest...what do you mean, whey would say...we DRINK ... a LOT.
Indeed. Despite the founders of your religious order saying that drinking alcohol is a SIN (so says all Baptists, Falwell, and other evangelical leaders), conservative states sure do drink a lot of it...but what else is new. Conservatives are USED to breaking their own commandments.
However, let's take a moment to consider where alcohol COMES from...
The biggest USA region that is known for alcohol is Napa Valley, California. How did they vote in the most recent presidential elections....
Trump - 17,411
Clinton - 39,199
Hmm.. well, what beer...surely, beer will not let the conservatives, down.
Well...first of all, Budweiser is not an AMERICAN owned beer, which has to be a shock to all the America Only crowd. So, they can start dumping their FOREIGN owned beer down the drain in protest, now. But, then, if they are going to go for BETTER beer, they are going to be out of luck, as almost ALL the best beers in the world are foreign owned....foreign from countries that DESPISE Trump. Most hard liquor is foreign based from these lands, too.
However, if we are going to talk about where Budweiser was founded in the 1800s and has a connection to the beer, here, it is St Louis, Missouri, which is only one of 3 counties in ALL of MISSOURI to defy the rest and vote for CLINTON. Indeed, the company shocked the nation with it's courage to run IMMIGRANT founded beer commercials in a stunning rebuke of Trump, himself.
Alcohol has always been a friend of the liberals, and it was the CONSERVATIVES and more specifically EVANGELICAL base of the GOP that make drinking ILLEGAL in the past, and they would gladly do it, again, given the chance.
Why do I mention this? Because, conservatives spend every day complaining about how LIBERALS are the source of all their problems....then, go home, and drink LIBERAL created ALCOHOL till they feel better...and enriching Democrats in the process...so, drink up GOP. CHEERS!
For the conservatives out there, if your evangelical and fascist GOP only leaders are successful in excluding our "evil" society from you, just keep in mind that you will be finding yourself walled into a conservative compound making your own moonshine and being judged by the very leaders for which you now cheer. Good luck with that.
Monday, March 26, 2018
It was a humorous display of conservative fascism's bravado to think they can tell everyone what do like and do. The news ... MIKE PENCE was angry that the HAMILTON cast criticized him, when he attended their showing, saying they were concerned he would not defend them in their diversity.
This caused Trump to tweet angrily...
"Our wonderful future V.P. Mike Pence was harassed last night at the theater by the cast of Hamilton, cameras blazing.This should not happen" - The Guardian
But...seriously... This was THEATRE. As even the article notes, it is filled with people of color and sexual orientation and ALWAYS has been. Until the last few hundred years, it was common for ALL roles on stage to be played by men...even women roles in full Crossdressing, trans glory on stage for kings.
So...the humorous bravado is that the most recognized racist homophobe going into the liberal theater IN NEW YORK expected anything else. It wasn't like this was a show in a state that actually VOTED for him, and neither Trump or Pence can ORDER people to love the very ones attacking them or pledge to them)...at least not yet.
Theatre is a place of self expression and free speech, and as such it is a place where people can say what they feel and be applauded by those with open minds that appreciate the freedom. May it always remain FREE of GOP fascist control.
Sunday, March 25, 2018
Imagine you lived in the 1600s and 1700s. You fled your country, because they demanded you worship THEIR way. Now, after a perilous journey, you reach the shores of the America colony.
Then, they tell you you must worship our Christian god and believe OUR way, and we are gonna put signs everywhere telling you what to believe.
Now...that didn't happen. If it had, no one would have come. The Republicans can claim they are trying to return this country back to colonialism, but even that is a lie. The colonists wouldn't sign the Constitution, unless it provided for protection they could believe whatever they wanted without the government trying to establish a national faith.
Enter modern day GOP that establishes legal organizations like Pat Robertson and Jay Sekulow (also a Trump attorney) created ACLJ for the EXPRESS purpose of putting THEIR beliefs in every government institution and school. They claim they want "freedom of religion" but, then, try to ban Muslims, attack witches, and require atheists to use money saying "in God we trust" and demand they pledge "under god."
And the ONLY thing holding these back from their agenda to convert everyone, impose the old GOP no Sunday work laws, ban alcohol, proscribe one accepted version of sex and type of clothing and accepted reading material is liberals standing for your RIGHT to believe something else.
Saturday, March 24, 2018
Had a great time with the family at the #marchforourlives local event in the midst of Republican majority Tulsa, Ok. The location that held the event did not mention it was happening in advance, during, or after. However, it was filled with students and families protesting gun violence and calling for gun control. Nationwide, the event gained over 2 million hash tag tweets and early estimates say over a million attended events in New York and D.C. with over 800 crowd locations holding events, elsewhere.
But, this is what liberals do.. We CARE enough to protest, whether it be for LGBTQ rights, environmental protection, minority and gender rights to vote, workplace protection, or protecting animals from abuse. And...I don't have to prove it to conservatives, because they call us "bleeding heart liberals" BECAUSE we care, as if that is a bad thing.
If your heart bleeds with the rest of us, vote Democrat.
Revival - "We reach out and claim Your place We won't rest, we won't fade away 'Till You reign forevermore..We will die leaving a revival behind behind"
Awesome God - "Judgement and wrath He poured out on the Sodom"
Onward Christian Soldiers - "Onward, Christian soldiers! marching as to war"
I'm in the Lord's Army (KIDS worship) "I may never march in the infantry Ride in the cavalry Shoot the artillery Imay never fly o'er the enemy But I'm in the Lord's army!"
We Will Worship Him "It is time for battle It is time for war As we sing hosanna As we praise the Lord He will still the accuser Crush the enemy As we celebrate God's victory"
Lion and the Lamb "And every knee will bow before the Lion and the Lamb Every knee will bow before Him"
These are just a few of hundreds of references in "christian" worship referring to being in the military of the "lord," asking him to destroy the enemy, saying God is more powerful than the spirit of the world (unbelievers) and these SAME church leaders are the ones identifying to their members who the "enemy" is in society and training them how to shoot guns (in the bible study or on the side).
Friday, March 23, 2018
They knew who Trump was when they chose him. They had JUST heard his comments about women when they voted for him for President. They knew he was a rich ahole, and they liked that about him...because that is how they are, too.
I think that people in liberal states can't believe people can't be that way, but anyone that has lived out here in the new Gilead (Handmaids Tale) knows that is how it is.
I remember unbering someone, here, and using the guest say, "The mayor promised to do something about these homeless." She didn't mean feed them but get them out of sight, and that is a great way to describe GOP morality, here. They CLAIM to be Christian loving, and they will remove out of sight anything that proves them wrong...or attack. But, they are not about to listen to criticism. Nothing pisses off a bully or selfish person more than someone calling them a bully or selfish...just look at Trump's Twitter, daily.
Foxnews will always spin every story. GOP politicians will always defend themselves, and GOP voters are gonna hold to grandpa's racism and hatred, since it is "southern heritage" values that they prize. Can there be change? Maybe, but not for a generation. Till then, the best we can hope is to limit their influence.
Trump and GOP Congress - cutting healthcare, cutting poverty aid, making rich richer, making alliances with foreign dictators using ends justify the means reasoning, closing foreign trade crashing the market and economy, amping up for multiple wars, making it a PRIORITY to cut funding for the arts and tell people what bathroom to use, forcing Christianity upon the entire population, restricting freedom of speech, etc.
BUSH 2 - Started a war with Iraq based on false premise of alliance with Al Queda and WMD (evidence of neither found), launched multiple wars around the world, did away with due cause for privacy violations in OUR country, set up torture prisons, crashed the economy in 2008, cut funding for the arts, etc.
BUSH 1 - Started a war with Iraq based on the false premise of WMD (also never found to be used), had to bail out housing and banks from crashing, etc.
Notice that in both of the Bush administrations, simply POSSESSING a WMD (or the suspicion of it) was reason to fight a multiple year war with the country. Then....RUSSIA USES THEM IN A NATO COUNTRY TO ASSASSINATE SOMEONE...and Trump has not even spoke against them or called them out on it. Indeed, he ignored his OWN STAFF's NOTES that told him not to congratulate them and did THAT in the phone call, instead...and STILL didn't mention the nerve agent attack.
And, so...this brings me to this post. I don't want to focus this on Trump or the GOP leaders...they are aholes..and have been the WHOLE TIME. I want to focus this condemnation on the GOP voters that put them there...
...the GOP voters that said a one time affair by Clinton was reason to impeach him but doesn't care about 19 women and Trump.
...the GOP that screamed about the deficit under Clinton and Obama, but in the FIRST YEAR of having power added over a TRILLION to our national debt.
...the GOP that condemned Obama for failing to release a birth certificate (until he did) but has NO PROBLEM with Trump refusing to release tax returns.
...the GOP that demanded any involvement in the investigations in the 90s by Clinton would be met with charges, but they don't care at ALL when Trump FIRES his own Attorney Generals multiple times for the explicit reason of stopping the investigation and fires his own Secretary of State and NSA director for saying Russia was a security threat.
Trump is evil. He is an immoral man that rules by sin and subversion to a foreign power. At this point, we all know this. We also know the GOP Congress is bought and sold by rich people to make them richer at the expense of the poor.
HOWEVER, the PEOPLE that put them there...the EVANGELICAL Right that is SUPPOSED to follow their own commandments to love and at the very least NOT LIE are the BASE that allows all of this to happen.
One day, they will meet their makers and hopefully burn in their own fire, but until then, I will make it a mission in my life to not only see no republicans in power but that they are exposed for the EVIL, SELFISH, POWER driven, warmongers and Christofascists that they are. THEY...not Trump...bear the PERSONAL responsibility for EVERY evil their elected leaders have done.
(My pictures of the Philbrook Art Museum in Tulsa and Dallas Museum of Art exhibits)
Another contribution from the left is art museums, which provides a place for fun, free (on certain days), family time and education in the history and culture of not only ourselves but other people. And this is only one of many arts funded in part by the same endowments the President and GOP wants to cut.
If you have not gone to your local museum, lately, go. I have never been disappointed or felt the time was wasted, and I came out not only inspired but with the appreciation of all humanity.
Thursday, March 22, 2018
(My photo at Tulsa's Utica Square Starbucks)
I am starting a new post series to be posted every day (or every other day). Trump and the GOP have kept us and the world focused on what is WRONG about the political right, and I feel it is important ro focus on what liberals bring to the table.
Every few months, we hear from the evangelicals how Starbucks is evil...how it's symbol is a derivative of a goddess symbol (falsely). However, how many of them stop for their cup of joe weekly...or daily. Coffee shops are much more than caffeine tho. Many of them also have hanging art, calming music, and provide a place for social centering or study.
God bless liberalism.
Wednesday, March 21, 2018
However, what I want to focus on is the idea that America being GREAT in the midst of the WORLD in NEED would BE a great thing at all.
It makes perfect sense that RICH people in this country that build great mansions and large churches in the midst of poor communities without helping them (Republicans) would be on board with the idea of building a BIG COUNTRY, as well.
But...I'm coming back to that poor community around their mansions and church buildings. Can it REALLY be seen that we are in any sense of humanity GREAT when our brothers and sisters around us are living in poverty and dying from lack of FOOD?
I mean, seriously...isn't that the POINT of why churches used to run mission trips to poor countries to bring them food or help them with water? Has Evangelicals MATURED beyond the compassion to help the least of these?
There was a time that I was working at one of my jobs, and I had JUST told the group that I was struggling to make it to the next payday, and one of the other men in the group (later in a conversation with someone else about something else) says, "Yeah...I always carry a few hundred dollars in cash in my wallet, just in case." He was LITERALLY standing 2 feet behind me holding out hundred dollar bills as evidence. How do you think that made me feel?
Well, THAT is how the rest of the world feels when Trump touts how RICH he is and how GREAT the country would be, while saying that his mission is to close our border and make sure that NO ONE else gets ANY of our money.
This is the attitude of the rich land owners in Ireland (and other lands), before the poor rose up and burned their houses down, and I expect that is EXACTLY what the rest of the world would do, if we tell them to eat dust, while Trump and his crowd eat caviar...and maybe, that is EXACTLY what we deserve.
Tuesday, March 20, 2018
HOWEVER, as I started digging into this Cambridge Analytica - Facebook story, it has taken precedence as the MOST IMPORTANT STORY IN THE NEWS NOW. When I go through it, you will see.
Channel 4 News did an undercover expose (complete with hidden cameras and microphones) with Cambridge Analytica, acing like they were a potential client and wanted to hear about the company. Click here for their news story...
What they discovered...
...Cambridge analytica claimed victory for the election of Trump, citing the popular vote loss as evidence that they did their job.
...Their system analyzed the personal data of private voters in swing states, and created crafted feeds just for them (more on this in a bit).
...They coordinated with campaigns, such as Trump's campaign, so that all the positive news went through official news, while the negative stories they wanted aired were fed into the internet feeds of group members they knew would run with the story (which in the story CA officials says it doesn't matter if they are true). This allowed CA to state on the hidden camera that their work, then, would be "untrackable"...implying they KNOW they needed to hide it.
...CA employed both Steve Bannon and Kellyanne Conway....ever wonder what they had on the President to get those jobs...ding ding ding.. they helped him get HIS JOB as President.
...Steve Bannon is currently under investigation for receiving almost a million dollars from coordinating Superpac activities with the Trump campaign, violating election laws.
Now, two follow up notes. One....other than Bannon, the other GOP figure that has intimately involved in the Cambridge Analytica is Ted Cruz. HERE is an article about Ted behind legislation, last year, to make it legal for companies to take your browser history without telling you and selling it to others. Now, I wonder why a CA funded politician would want to do that...hmmm...
Now, to get back to why it is important that FACEBOOK gave this data to CA, who used it in the election cycle and why it is illegal.
Imagine that I was going to meet you and wanted to say just the right things to get you to buy my product. So...I BREAK INTO YOUR HOUSE and rifle through your photos and papers, so I would know what you watch, what you read, what you owe, and who you like. THEN, I take that info and "meet" you for the first time, saying what I know will sway you to accept my offer.
Now...THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT THEY DID IN THE ELECTION. FACEBOOK is your house of interests, and they gave that to this analytic firm that, under the direction of the campaigns, created ads that they knew would influence you. Then, they used Russian hackers to put those stories in your feel...crafted JUST FOR YOU by your interests...to manipulate you to vote just how they wanted you to vote.
No wonder they claim they gave Trump the election. They did. If we keep just focusing on the putz in the White House, we will have missed the machine that PUT HIM THERE and can do it, again...over and over.
Monday, March 19, 2018
Sunday, March 18, 2018
Saturday, March 17, 2018
My recap of the news of the last few days, including the firing of the NSA Director, Secretary of State, FBI Deputy Director and the foundation laid for firing FBI Investigator Mueller ... All because they questioned Putin, who owns our President.
Friday, March 16, 2018
The duplicity of this party is absolutely astounding. Remember this is the party that CLAIMED they were for state rights for decades. Then, they get to national power and impose their values on EVERY state, even those that didn't VOTE for TRUMP and condemn those in those states that happen to be lesbian or gay or trans or liberal or socialist or pacifists or of another face color or faith choice...or female.
But, this is what they do. That is why like half of Tulsa is blocked off with road construction, under Republican leadership. They didn't care if the drivers had a hard time getting to work and are not really interested in HEARING about it, either. They figured they knew what was BEST for ALL Tulsa, so they just did it.
This is like my recent chat I had with my ex-wife that I referenced in another post. I don't talk to her, because I can't go ONE chat without her telling me how is best for me to live in my life in my house SIX YEARS after we were no longer married. And, we are, now, living back in Tulsa, because of my wife's ex and a court that decided whether it was BEST for the kids to move 3 hours away for a 40 percent pay increase, even if we paid for flights for the kids to see the ex (they decided no...and so back we came). No one even ASKED us...or the KIDS ... what WE wanted...only the man.
This FASCIST PRIDE needs to end that says someone not in my family can decide how best that family is run or if I can leave an abusive ex or whether someone can choose their own personality traits, clothing styles, or sexual preference. The ONLY person who knows those things is the only one Republicans are not asking...the person themselves.
Except. It's NOT. He WON, because the last GOP person to hold that seat had sex with someone and then PAID for them to get an abortion, while preaching that abortion was wrong. So, why wasn't THAT what the race was about? Because, the Democrats wanted to be fair and polite to the Republicans. It wouldn't be NICE to talk about a man when he was down.
BULLSH*T. This is the kind of response that KEEPS us having to DEAL with Republicans. I don't want to be nice to Republicans...the ones preaching law. The ones literally telling all others that they are going to burn in hell fire for their "sins," while feeling perfectly content with their own.
And, it is common. No...not every Republican is banging somebody on the side and paying for abortions. However, ALL of them voted .... KNOWINGLY ... for someone that has had MANY affairs and who is angry (which Jesus called murder) and who loves money (which Jesus said is the root of all evil). They CONTINUE to support (as a party, not just congressmen) a man that is not a peacemaker but war lover. They continue to support him, as he takes away the healthcare and food of the poor and aged. They continue to support him, even though EVEN HE BRAGGED ABOUT HOW WELL HE LIES this week, when he talked about his meeting with a foreign power.
But, that is not the reason I think that they deserve no mercy...that they have as much or more sins in their belt than those they condemn. It is BECAUSE this all STARTED when they condemned everyone else. They may not like having the light of biblical condemnation put on them, but they have built an entire PARTY on using GOD to HATE and CONDEMN all others...others that GOD MADE. The only reason we are TALKING about sin, is that THEY brought it up. Before they did, we were and are ok with everyone doing whatever they want with their own body and lives. However, THEY changed the tone by saying that we must live by a higher law and started pushing all others down with it.
So, no....I don't feel sorry for them that they look foolish and mean...it is an accurate depiction. I don't feel bad pointing out how they morally failed by breaking their Scripture, INCLUDING how the President's son followed his dad's example to get a divorce and how that doesn't bother the evangelicals showing them to be hypocrites, because I went through a half DECADE of church condemnation for doing the same thing, and no one in the church came to MY defense.
These are false disciples of Jesus, even though they do it in his name...the name of the man that is famous for saying, let him without sin throw the first stone, but these evangelicals have not cared one whit what Jesus EVER said, and now they are being exposed on the world stage as frauds.
I not only hope they lose majority power, but I hope (and will help to bring about) their elimination AS A PARTY, completely...not because they did wrong but because they KNOWINGLY did wrong, defended it, and praised it. We have had many parties disappear over the course of our nation's history, and it is time this party died, this decade, as the party of fascist, ahole, men who (as will be recorded in history) tried to impose their cult lifestyle on everyone in a country they intended to surround with walls, cut off from the rest of the world, and that woke up the country how far we have come from the land of the FREE and inspired us to become the home of the brave, once again.
Thursday, March 15, 2018
I am doing alot more of this, lately....smiling. I am very happy with my life choices, and that is the point. I used to feel it was my "place" in the family to be the designated "male" asshole, since I had the penis...and I hated it. I vowed never to be that person, again. There have been a few periods of failing myself that I took on the "ugh, I just have to work THIS job that pays more, even if I hate it" or "I just have to raise my voice to get the kids to mind."
Except... It was all b.s. I usually ended up being barely any better off financially (if at all after paying benefits that wouldn't be used until I paid 7000 out of pocket in deductible), while working hard hours away from family for a boss that could care less for me. And, all you teach kids by raising your voice is to fear you. If you were a male wanting status and control, both of the above would be fine. I have met many men that are only happy when they are the angry "profeasional" guy, but that is not me.
For me... The stay at home dad of 7 years in the past, romantic driven, experience person that I am, MEMORIES are my treasure, and my memories as "the man" was a curse. The last few years of saying... I am gonna be me, for me, and find ways to enjoy my days may have drawn the ire of those wanting me masculine for their own ends, but, at the end of the day, I am smiling...and that's all I will remember.
Wednesday, March 14, 2018
Before the conservatives start tar and feathering me, a little about MY military background. I have veterans preference. Oh? I must have fought in a war, right? NOPE. How did I get it, then? Because about 20 years ago, Republicans changed the law, and a "veteran" is someone that SERVED during a time of war, and they declared Iraq an open war, since the 1990's....then Kosovo...then..Iraq...then Afghanistan...then Iraq...then ...and so on and so forth. Or, BASICALLY ANYONE THAT SERVED THE LAST 20 YEARS qualifies as a veteran, whether they fought in a war or not.
Well, is that really bad, you may ask? Now, while I was and am a moral person from BEFORE my time in the military, I served in units with many that were not...ex cons, people that talked about using and abusing women, people that spoke joyfully about shooting people, etc. EVERY ONE of these people (over half of my units) would NOW qualify for veterans preference....for jobs they are not qualified to do.
Get that? THINK about it. If they were really "the best trained" for the jobs in the military, they wouldn't need preference, and veterans preference is not limited in the slightest to what they did in the military. So, for example, I got my first IRS Auditor job with veterans preference, which allowed me to get an accounting job, before I had even finished my degree and with NO experience. In fact, for that job, my category of veterans preference put me ahead of ALL other candidates. They LITERALLY COULD NOT select someone more qualified and follow the GOP passed law.
SO...that means that throughout government branches and, afterwards, in industry as a result of government work gained by veterans preference, our industries are filled with people with NO experience or training that, because they were trained to kill people, have authority over all other candidates.
This is also a SEX DISCRIMINATION, as the military is selective of men for battle positions, and it is a field that men would choose to do more than women (by majority). Therefore, by penalty of law, there is a benefit to MEN who served over women that apply. Why is it that only SOLDIERS get this preference. I think NURSES or TEACHERS also provide a great service to the country, so why are they not getting hiring preference?
It is time for this boy's club GOP preference is ended, so we have fairer hiring and qualified candidates. Maybe THEN people won't have to talk about the lazy and inefficient government workers that messed up their case...AGAIN, and we can actually move FORWARD to a better society.