1 John 4:8
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment."
There are so many things I love about my relationship with my fiancée and her specifically.. so many ways this has been a stark contrast to past toxic relationships. One aspect that I've mentioned over and over has been safety and security. And, it has many parts to why it is amazing in application.
I do not fear that my love is on the chopping block if I make a mistake, for example. That has not always been the case in my life. I've lived decades of my life in one situation or another in which I was feeling like I was walking on eggshells.. like one misstep would send everything crashing down .. causing the person who should be my safe space to target me or abandon me. But, here... I find understand, patience, and care for me in my struggles.. and she knows my heart is the same with her in hers.
I quoted that verse, above, because it highlights this difference. Those other people that were leading with trying to find fault with me or punish me were not acting out of love. I have a lot of experience of giving and giving and living in fear of the one I was trying to love finding fault with me. That wasn't a relationship of love but toxic fandom. Love... real love.. wants to liberate and not condem.. elevate and not reduce. And, the partnership of two people that live that way are not dependent on satisfying checklists of each other or others but lives in peace, instead.
So, I am so grateful to find such an amazing person to love who loves me, and I wish you the same treasure in your own lives.
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