Forward to Happiness

It's been quite a bit since my last blog post, so I thought I would do another.  I've made some real personal progress in the last few weeks in terms of healing and growth and happiness.  I won't be going into all the details, but maybe a few in context with some general themes that I think are important to remember and realize. 1.  Your life is your own.   It took me many years to learn this lesson, and I forget it at times.  Your life is your own.  It is yours to gift to some at times to those that are worthy, and it is yours to withdraw, if it is not a good fit or if the gift is refused.  You do not owe anyone, anything.  And, no one owes you anything.  This is true of friendships and more.  The last thing that I want in my life is anyone feeling they have to like me or return any favors to me out of guilt or obligation or even for repentance.  Anyone that has wronged me is forgiven, because I don't think that way.  I d...

I've been reflecting of late on the dark side of destiny.  There has been so many times in my life that something happened that I did not like (but sometimes deserved).  And, I felt like.. God.. or the universe.. must hate me.  Then, as time progressed, the results of that event led me to either a situation that was good for me or good for someone else... or both.  I feel like I'm in a situation like that, right now, though I will not be going into details of that for a little while.  But, I will refer to other examples and speak generally about it. For example, a few years ago, I was undergoing retina eye surgeries, which wrecked havok on my finances, my friendships, and more.  I was half a country away from my family and relatives in that time.  Then, my first ex decided to display her paranoia in her diagnosed Mania and deny , my custody times of my youngest child in violation of our custody agreement, b,ecause she didn't feel I was a good influence...

When we mail things, there are different types of service levels that we can choose.  If someone pays for "priority" level, it gets there faster.  Why?  Because, the post office knows that this one is important and therefore it gets more time and attention than other items.  The same can be said for anything else in our lives. New Year's resolutions don't tend to last, very long.  People begin them, but other things pop up that they need to do and time slips away.  Soon, those who made the resolutions surrender the goal.  It wasn't that it wasn't something they desired or wanted to have.  It just fell to the end of the list to do. I like to read.  But, my day gets busy and stressful.  So, after things get done, I consider reading but find myself too exhausted to take the time to read.  Again.  It isn't that it is something that I don't want to do.  It's just that the place it is put in my list determines how much time I pu...