I know it’s very off trend, especially in this time before holidays. But, you can be happy as a single person. Am I suggesting that forever? No. But, bowing to pressure to be a couple is the story in part of how I ended up with two bad matches for my emotional needs.. my 2nd ex was literally proposed to at Christmas.
I am very slowly building up this blog into a vision I have in my head without the time to focus on it, so it will take some time. But, while I will include some elements that the romantic will like, I plan to also include a roadmap to happiness if you remain single. I may be in that camp, for all I know.
You can be single and be happy. You can buy yourself flowers as Miley says. You can sexually satisfy your self as Inna and Hailee Steinfeld sing and of which Emma Watson calls being “self partnered” in Vogue.
It has taken me years to get to the point of being confident that I can be happy single to wait til it feels right and be able to walk away if not. Funny, isn’t it? You have all this feeling of need to find someone after something ends, but once you discover self love you lose that need and only then are you ready to find someone.
But, make connections to friends. They are more important than a mate to have in your life. And, if you need a friend, reach out to me. I’ll be your friend. Just don’t let the holidays make you feel incomplete and convince you that you are unhappy. A few suggestions …one.. listen to “My Future” by Billie Eilish in my current playlist. Second, watch How to Be Single and He’s Just Not Into You. And make a list of things you love about yourself.
And, then believe in yourself enough to enjoy yourself and be happy with what you find. Fill your cup, before you start pouring out to anyone else… and save some of that cup to toast yourself, along the way.