Dark Side of Destiny

I've been reflecting of late on the dark side of destiny.  There has been so many times in my life that something happened that I did not like (but sometimes deserved).  And, I felt like.. God.. or the universe.. must hate me.  Then, as time progressed, the results of that event led me to either a situation that was good for me or good for someone else... or both.  I feel like I'm in a situation like that, right now, though I will not be going into details of that for a little while.  But, I will refer to other examples and speak generally about it.

For example, a few years ago, I was undergoing retina eye surgeries, which wrecked havok on my finances, my friendships, and more.  I was half a country away from my family and relatives in that time.  Then, my first ex decided to display her paranoia in her diagnosed Mania and deny , my custody times of my youngest child in violation of our custody agreement, b,ecause she didn't feel I was a good influence on her.  Then, she took that year to turn my child against me in her desire to win control over her.  Well, since I was fresh off the eye surgeries issues and facing that, I decided to move back to Oklahoma to be near my family.  That move... while driven by very painful situations.. led me to good money, family connections growth, and more.  Indeed, then I was forced out of the IRS as a new hire in this administration.  However, under the deferred resignation program, it meant double income between it and another job to fund myself and the needs of others, and making others happy also makes me happy.  I would say that making others happy is the chief way of making me happy, myself.

That is just one dark thread of a great weave of tapestry that has happened in my life.  There has been so many times that I felt like I was being cursed, only to find it was leading me to a better situation with better people and better days ahead.  Most of the good in my life came as a result of difficulty, in fact.  But, there is another side of it, as well.

Facing those difficult times has done a lot of work of refining me.  I am caring, because I have experienced what it is like to be harmed.  I am giving, because I have experienced the struggle of need.  I am humble and patient, because I have been proud and impatient and learned how to better myself in that and other areas of my past personal failure... lessons which would not have happened WITHOUT that failure.

So, that is all I want to say with this post.   Don't be so quick to curse the universe or doubt your destiny, just because things did not happen as you liked them to along the way.  Your story is still being written, and there may be lessons to be learned and good to be had as a result of those dark days.  Pick yourself up, learn what you can, and keep moving forward into what days lie ahead.  Then, you will be more prepared for the happiness that you may find in them for yourself and for those around you.