I Don't Know

This will be the most anticlimatic blog post that I have ever done, but I feel that it is among the most important.  We... ESPECIALLY bloggers and those in positions of influence.. feel the need to make conclusions about things and therefore to know what we need to know in order to do so.  However, how often in your life have you been fully confident of where you are, the choices you made to get there, or where you are going?  It has been my experience that by the time I reach five years in my life.. at any time.. I am so far beyond where I thought I would be 5 years ago that it is unrecognizable.  Moreso, I and how I am viewing things, is often very unrecognizable from the person that I used to be.

There is a favorite Doctor Who scene that I have often noted in my blog where the doctor is saying that we all change and are all different people than we used to be and that is good, as long as we remember who we used to be.  I like that, and it is very true.  I was who I was in those time in the past, and I am who I am in this time, as well.  People around us change.  Situations change.  Our convictions change.  Our situations change.  It doesn't make it less who we were at the time to have been those people, and we are no less ourselves in our current lives that we are living, either.

The fact of the matter is that we don't know what the future holds.  We can guess.  We can make plans off what we like and what we want.  But, my last years in particular have taught me over and over that what you expect to be true, even if everything around you seems to confirm it, may not necessarily be true in the future.  And, if it is not, it is not someone's fault.  It is just how things unfolded.  It may not be worse, either.  It is just that it is.

I have been watching a show called Buccaneers, recently, though what I am going to say about it can be echoed in many different other shows.  In this show, the romantic coupling keeps changing.  This episode, this woman was meant to be with this man, who was meant to be with this girl.  But, the next episode may have it that no... she was supposed to be with this other man, and he was supposed to be with this other girl.  In one episode this is the bad guy or girl for something, but the next episode changes the storyline on its head.  Some are of course toxic and objectively bad, but many are just.. well.. the kind of changes that happen as people feel out their emotions and determine which storyline is best for them all.  That... as messy as it is.. happens to be very true to who life tends to work out.

I don't want to make this purely about relationships, as this concept applies to many parts of our lives.  All I want to say with it and is important for you to know is that you WON'T know everything, and you WILL make changes in your life... and sometimes change back.  All you need to know is this.  The only constant is change, and it will all work out just fine.  You don't need to know how the story unfolds to read and enjoy it.  So, turn the chapter and keep learning where your story will go.