Forward to Happiness

 I had two blog post thoughts, but I think I can tie them together in one post, effectively.  However, I'll subtitle each, below... Where You End Up My dad taught me about pool one time, and one thing that he said stayed with me and is something that I still use in my Ubereats when I pick which ones to accept or let go of the deliveries that are offered.  He said that it is important to pay attention to where your cue ball will end up when you take each shot.. can you make another shot from there or not. As I am doing my deliveries, of course I am paying attention to how much each delivery pays per the amount of time that it takes to make the delivery.  However, sometimes, I have been caught by surprise of a large number that flashes on the screen, so I click accept.  And, it IS a large amount for that amount of time.  However, it takes you way out away from civilization to make the delivery, so you then have to drive all the way back before you can get ano...

 I don't know why, but I feel led to list several different things that I have learned over the past several months about relationships, post relationships, the search for happiness and more.. maybe they will help, someone.  I'll link to past posts and reference social media posts in chronological order over the months... Life Happens - Stuff happens to everyone in varying degrees.  You can't let that define you, nor can you let it stop you from moving forward, waiting for the perfect time and perfect you to do it.  That time will never come. Don't Worry Be Happy - If you focus your attention on trying to control your situation and trying to make things perfect, you will miss joys that you can have around you, every day. Self Esteem - Take care of yourself, first.  If you base your decision of your self worth based on the opinion of your critics, you will miss your own worth to someone else and yourself.  You can't fill out of an empty cup, so if you jus...

 People speak of mid-life crisis as a bad thing, and if you are just doing it to be following the grass is greener mentality, it definitely can be a bad thing.  There's something to be said for maturing a relationship or growing your foundation, if it can be trusted to bring you happiness.  In my case, I lost that foundation because of the choices of others over the last several years.  So... what happens when that foundation is taken away from you?  Do you cling to a past that has left you or was stolen by those that didn't care for you, or do you look for new avenues of adventure to follow?  I decided to stop wallowing in dead avenues and to start looking for new ways of framing your life to find happiness where you are.  For example, I still enjoyed a great Thanksgiving by myself in the way that... eventually... all parents will face as their kids go on to have lives and families of their own. However, one thing of which I am proud for NOT doing for...

 Isn’t it terrible how our expectations have dropped?  If someone could actually fix the roads.. or fix anything, I’d elect them President.  And, when you date someone that’s not horrible to you, you’re like.. oh this might be the one.. forget whether you have things in common or they do good to you or compliment you or whatever.  Job treats you bad?  Well, you could be fired.  A string of bad things happened to you?  Well thank God, because He could have allowed you to be murdered or maimed. Years ago, I wrote a book called First Edition about being original and putting forward a greater effort than the lowest common denominator most base their actions on.. what others do.  We can be better than that. But, science teaches us that entropy happens… things fall apart of effort is not put into them to repair or increase.  It’s nature for things to get worse and worse, unless for example, you get off your butt and exercise to get fit.. you work e...

 I was thinking on that old saying, today.  It also occurred to me that a lot of the younger generation probably doesn't know all the old saying rattling around in my head from my years growing up.. ha.  But, that was one of them, and it means that when it's working for you, you should focus your energy in that time.  I apply that to my deliveries in that deliveries tend to ebb and flow.  When it is a particularly good time, I will stay out there longer, and when it is dead I will take a longer break. However.. to think about the origin of the phrase, consider how they used to make armor or swords or whatever. They would heat up the metal till it was glowing hot. Then, they would strike it with a hammer over and over and form it into the shape it needed to be.  Many have noted at times that this is kinda like how we change in our most difficult and painful periods of trials.  But, it also means to just wait till you have overcome the resistance to chan...

 I haven’t blogged for a few weeks.  Generally, I want to feel that I have a good grasp on something before I write about it.  The last few weeks have been processing weeks.. not in a bad way and not always sad.  It just means my life is changing with new realities and potential, and in order to gain my footing I need to have a better understanding of what I want.. the only way to do that is to get out there, chew things over, think, feel, etc. It took a little to begin.. at first, I felt paralyzed by all the changes.  It was the crisis stages.  I was angry at my situation more than the individuals that brought it about.. tho I didn’t eat their blame by inventing reasons why they should have done what they did.  I’ve done that too many times over the years to pacify narcissists.  But, I learned what I told myself as I prepared to leave a narcissistic boss at that job… of course he will be angry and blame me and present himself as the victim in my ...