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The Dark Chronicles Act 12: Columbus Day

I am going to expand upon one of my anthology notes from earlier, today.  It is something that has been developing in me for a while, lately, and is actually where I almost was back to weeks ago, before I got side tracked by attempts to distract me from this point that is VERY important for society and is very NOT an area of discussion out there for others to hear... thus it is perfect for the Dark Chronicles post series. For how best to begin this post, I am choosing to return to a social media post that I did, before the distraction, because I think that was the point of the distraction.. to get me off that topic.  I had done a post where I  was talking about how I do not regret my past relationships, even those that did not end well.  They had things to teach me and that there were good in them, as well.  This is a theme you can see in other Dark Chronicles posts, such as And, as well as many posts of mine that go back literally YEARS but that gained much in ...
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Anthology of a Few Notes

I wanted to post a sort of anthology of thoughts that I'd had in recent weeks and haven't posted in a blog or just touched on them.  Some are not really long enough for a blog post and others are not necessarily where I am, entirely.  But, I believe they are all useful. - To thine own self be true .  People and jobs will enter and exit your life, but you will remain.  Never forget that.  You can and should help others, but make sure that is never at expense of being yourself. - Focus on what makes you happy, and if you are like me that may include making others happy. Do not limit that happiness to please others that do not add to your happiness or desire you to be happy without them.  Their interest is only in what you can provide to them. - Time alone can be used to heal and find peace, or it can be used to stew and blame.  Time, by itself, is not healing.  Indeed, MUCH healing can also come by interaction with others, even if only a conversatio...
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What's it Worth to You?

I had this whole other post prepared to write, but instead I want to write a single paragraph to hit on its main points in a very generic way as context for this positive post, as it lays the foundation FOR this post. We live in a society that likes to focus on the negative.  They want you to focus on the negative, too.  People are always looking for flaws, risks, problems, and they dedicate much time to that, believing that focus on the negative is key to overcoming it for a positive and happy life.  Yet, my experience has been the reverse is true.. focus on it leads to.... FOCUS ON IT and eventually division.  There was a marriage counseling book that I read one time by a very right wing religious counselor.  Most of what he had to say I didn't believe was good, but one thing has stuck out in my mind that he said... before getting together, you should have your eyes wide open, but afterwards they should be half closed.  In my opinion, focus on the positi...
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It's Good to Be Happy

It you are of an older generation, you might remember a show from which we got many actors and directors that we have in movies and tv, today.  It's theme began with...  "Sunday, Monday, Happy Days. Tuesday, Wednesday, Happy Days. Thursday, Friday, Happy Days. The weekend comes, My cycle hums, Ready to race to you. "These days are ours, Happy and Free. (Those Happy Days) These days are ours, Share them with me. (Oh baby) Goodbye grey sky, hello blue. There's nothing can hold me when I hold you. Feels so right, it can't be wrong. Rockin' and rollin' all week long." You see.. it was a GOOD thing to be happy.  People wanted a peaceful and happy existence.  And, they worked hard to make it come about.  When those days came, they took the time to enjoy them, not sabotage them or undercut the value of the good that they had. Nowadays, it is trendy to be a victim.  I took a course one time in Victimology that spoke of it. Does it mean that there are no real ...
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The Dark Chronicles Act 11: It Is That It Is So Enjoy It

I thought I was done with the Dark Chronicles series, but this one definitely applies. I've noted in blogs past how when I took a job in Boston I kept hearing a phrase that I hated but learned to like it, later.  It is the phrase "It is that it is."  I hated it, because it sounded to me like surrender.  However, it would change as I gained more life experiences. The Serenity Prayer asks us to change the things we can but to accept the things we cannot.  That is a part of it, but that's only the negative side of the phrase.  There is a much more positive way to look at it. It is that it is means more than accepting things that didn't go according to plan in a disappointing way.  It also means accepting the positive things in your life that are not by plan, as well.  The movie Serendipity calls them "happy accidents."  I find that most of the good that came to my life came AFTER other struggles or disappointments that pushed me in the direction I ne...
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Passionately Excelsior - Enjoy the Ride

There was a saying in my old college Fraternity... Excelsior.  It meant Onward and Upward.  It is focusing on forward and what lies ahead, while building on where you are.  In recent weeks, I have realized just how much I let others make me small or doubt myself.  And, I am focusing on rebuilding and standing on that foundation and enjoying life, rather than spending any more time focused on those that could not see it and has not acted to maintain or earn it. I'm Worthy. I've taken time to look at myself, objectively, in recent days and realized that I am pretty awesome.  I have a good degree and job.  I have been praised by almost every past employer, because I am a good worker.  I have a caring heart that gives to others.  I have a creative and intelligent mind.  I don't think I am bad looking.  I take good pictures.  I am pretty good at writing.  I have a past that has humbled me and made me able to really hear and support ...
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The Dark Chronicles Act 10: Grace is Good

This should not be a Dark Chronicles post.  It should not be a controversial post.  The fact that it is reflects just how messed up our society happens to be.  It should not be a DARK thing to say that you should not expect perfection from others but should give them grace for their failures.  However, we are living in such a culture of division and condemnation that it is the NORM to point out the failures of others.   On the dating side, people are told to look for all the bad "flags" of someone.  We are told to keep our eyes open and looking for the flaws of someone as they date.   Girls will talk to their girl friends about the failure of their men or receive criticism from their friends about their partners.  Men will do the same, often as well.  Then, if things fall apart because they just naturally did not work out for their personalities or wants, there will be an audience feeding both sides about the flaws of the person the...
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