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You Do You

 I shouldn't have to do this blog, but we are where we are in society because so many don't understand this concept... so I'll be basic.

People often say they should have freedom to be themselves but then feel obligated to tell others what they should or should not do.  I'm always on the side of personal freedom and against restrictions on others.  If I don't like what their freedom looks like, I can always choose not to be in their sphere of influence.  That's how freedom works.  

However, this also applies to personality choices.  In the last several months, I've had many tell me I shouldn't question things politically .. saying peace is more important.  While that is good advice for some in their roles in society, it would be a horrible thing for me to do in my job or many others in roles of justice, journalism, defense and more.  Many people serve a great purpose in questioning things and even causing conflicts to further free thought.

I just use that as one example, but the overall theme would simply be no one should use their own preferences to decide what is best for others or what would make them happy. Someone with a trans child or gay friends would not prosper from being told to be rigid to religious tennant.  More basic.. advice for men and women should be different in some cases.  As a sensitive guy with female friends, I was often counseled that to find love i should just wait for it to find me... which is fine advice if you're a woman as men are expected to make the first move but horrible for a man.  Further, we don't know what the skills, interests, and past of those we are counseling would be.

So, to just conclude this, life goes much better if we stop focusing on what others are doing differently and let them do them, and you just do you.

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