It's Your Journey

I love the support of my friends and family, as I receive it.  Though I also remember the days, weeks, months, and years that I made moves without it.  I don't say that to discount how nice it is to have it, but a lesson that I learned a long time ago and a code that I live by is the understanding that your journey is your journey.

What do I mean by that?  There is literally no person in the world that has your set of experience in their past to inform you, and no one else will live with the consequence of advice that they might give to you.  I cannot count the number of times in my life where I received advice from someome about what I should do in my life from someone that had a very incomplete picture of events and an even less clear vision of what was important to me.  Then, I do their advice and things go sideways or a deep desire is lost.  In the midst of my lamenting over it or conversations, I would find those same people saying, basically.... well, it sounds like you should have done something else.  So, when I would challenge them over it, they would be accurately defensive to say that they didn't know all the facts and it was MY life and my responsibililty and thus not fair to pin it on them.  In short... disagree with me, if I am wrong.

In guiding your life, you need to gain an understanding of yourself, so you can make an accurate decision, and then YOU must make it.  Whatever becomes of your life will be no one' responsibility but your own.  If you need to take drastic and life changing changes in your life, you need to do it... not seek validation of whether you should do it.

No one is a puppet.  No one can blame others for their choices of actions of lack of them.  If your life is not going as you want or need it to be going, it is NO ONE's blame or responsibility but your own.

Your life is your life.  Your journey is your journey.  It reminds me of how I unfortunately feel about the youth of our society relying upon calculators, excel spread sheets and the worst... AI.. to live their lives.  All they are doing is deferring responsibility.  If I were an AI in this age, I think I would probably conclude like the robot in Irobot... geez, these humans are like babies and the logical conclusion is they cannot run their own lives, so we must run it for them.

Yet, I have hope for humanity... IF we remember what we have learned as humans.  So, I will continue posing the difficult question and challenges in hope that someone will take on the responsibilty of actually living a LIFE and not just a be a well manipulated character in someone else's game.

The Path to Happiness is Not as Complicated as We Make It

I've come to this realization many different times in my blog and life.  That's usually a sign you should pay attention,  as the universe seems to like to make you repeat the same lesson over and over til you get it.  I am happy that I've been taking the time to learn and apply, lately.  The realization is this.  Our path to happiness is not as complicated as we make it.  In the end, it comes down to a lesson Joseph Campbell taught for many decades.  It is easily summarized as this.. follow your bliss.

Sometimes, we may not know all the pieces that that includes, but we don't need more light than the next step.  And, truly, we don't even need to know what that step is. All we need to know is that we're not happy with our situation or amt piece of it.  So, bliss is not being there.

Then, maybe you don't know where to go, but that can be easily ascertained, too.  What do you like to do?  Where do you like to be?  As you look back over your life, what were the moments that made you feel peace, safety, confidence in your ability for the future or connectedness to universal threads that resonated with your core being?  Now, move towards that.

As you do, it may feel unfamiliar at first, as it ia a new adventure.  But, the more time you spend there, the more you feel that area of existence as home, wherever you are, and you can carry that sense of belonging and being wherever you go.

So, my challenge to you tonight is to ask if you feel you can follow your bliss where you are, or are there obstacles to that bliss or others that don't want you to reach it.  Then, realize that anyone not supporting your bliss is not supporting YOU, and adjust accordingly.  

In this life,  you are primarily responsible for one life... yours.  If you ever were to fail at that, others would not feel they let you down,  because that's not their responsibility.  They'd say... why didn't you take care of yourself?  So, go do that.  Those that want you unhappy or to change may be disappointed, but in the long run you wouldn't be... couldn't be.. happy to sacrifice yourself for them and when you reach that ahhh moment of being on your own path,  you can thank me.  I've been at that point many times and am on my way towards that point, again.  I'll toast you, when I get there.  

One final note... even though that was a good ending.  My reaching my ahh moment or following my bliss should have no bearing on others reaching theirs, unless their ahh moment was controlling mine.  I don't think anyone wants that.  So, we should all follow our bliss, and leave others the freedom to follow their own.