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Tell Me Not To.. I Dare You

 I remember having a conversation with a German student attending a college I attended, once, where he said sneaking out and drinking wasn't popular in Germany, because it was normal.  Yet, we were sneaking out to do it in my early teens.. among others things.  My first orgasm to be honest was standing around a bunch of other teens on the side of a dirt road looking at playboy and hustler magazines. 

It's well known in movie plots that the woman goes for the "bad boy" and boys love the "bad girl".. both are plots in Grease for example.  Being forbidden makes us more interested in getting it.  And, that got me into two marriages that would be very bad for me, because someone objected to both.

However, that can be a good thing, too.  When I was doubted and expected to fail, it lit a fire to overcome and succeed, even when... especially when.. the odds were against me.

So, there's something to be said for having your hopes dashed.  It can be exactly what you ultimately need to reach your highest goals.

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