Signs and Wonders

"A wicked and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign..." Matt 16:4

You have heard me at various time talk about the benefits of darkness or trials.  One of those benefits is in the area of revelation of truth.  I have had many bad and toxic relationships over time that I thought were good at the beginning.  However, it was in times when conflict or obstacles happened that the true nature was revealed.  I'm seeing that in much fashion on the positive side in my current relationship, and it is very healing.  However, it wasn't meant to be healing.  It is just truth being revealed in those moments.. truth that it is more than my fears and a wonderful good in my life that I didn't have to create.. worthy of honor and attention.

I titled this blog with that name, because I think that it is in those moments that the truth is revealed to be one or the other.  Disagreements and differences are revealed, over time.  That is just the nature of being among other humans.  Either someone will see those that say.... "AHA, I KNEW it was not going to work, and this is a sign."  Or, they will look at the differences to say... "Huh.. this person is an interesting wonder to me, and I want to learn more about them and how best to love them in a way that they need and will appreciate."  Being yourself is not a bad thing, ever.  I only wish that in those prior toxic relationships that I would have known, early, that being myself was something that they wished to change and could not love as myself.  

It doesn't mean that the person that is with you will be like you.  You may have many differences, and some of those differences may seem to be very different than what you expected.  It may require you to change how you naturally interact, if they cannot receive it in that way.  THAT doesn't mean that you are incompatible.  What makes people incompatible is when you cannot find a way to love them in a way they can receive or them love you in a way that you can receive.  If you can learn their language of love and communicate in it, LOVE can still be shared.. and isn't that the point?

People are either looking for a sign something is going to fall apart, or they are looking for the wonder to love in another.  Real love is revealed in conflicts, as is love that is only there for themselves.  Don't use fear of the outcome to change who you are, or you will be changing who you are forever.  Rather, be yourself, and love their self.  Then, nothing can shake that foundation.