This won't be a long one. But, one lesson you definitely need to learn on your journey to happiness is the ability to compartmentalize. I don't know where it came in along the way that people feel that in order to be at peace they must first completely process and heal from one thing to be able to experience and appreciate the next, but that has not been my reality.
At any time in my life, I could switch channels in my emotions to reflections on my time with my kids.. the good and the bad, romantic pasts, hopeful futures, career goals, personal goals, personal interests, or simply pausing to enjoy the absolute beauty of a sunset... a music theme... a dessert.
The path to happiness does not mean that you must first overcome the pain in order to live the happiness. That has NEVER been the case in my life. What you need to be able to do is to compartmentalize things, so that one does not have to do with the other. You can say... this is nice and this makes me happy, even as you are dealing with loss or struggle or stress. If you are waiting till everything is perfect, you.. will.. never .. be .. happy. And, I am going to end this abruptly on that note, because I think YOU need to process it. Life does not happen in a vacuum. The good and the bad are all important, but you can at any point in the story find something to make you smile, and life is much better if you do.
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