Pay Attention

We spend so much of our lives feeling unsure about people pr situations, but the thing I've come to see is that we are given all the information we need to guide us, often.  We just either do not pay attention or choose to ignore it and expect otherwise than can be seen.  

In the movie He's Just Not That Into You, a man tells his woman friend that if a guy is not calling, he doesn't want to call.  It reminds me of the song I have referenced in the past, Gloria by Laura Branigan where she asks a woman why the guys are not calling if they really want her.

This is an important concept to guide your life, and I've been echoing it, because I have spent too long in my life ignoring it to my detriment.  No, I'm too often the woman character in that movie saying I'll be the exception and believing people are feeling things they are not showing.  But, the reality is...unsurprisingly... reality.

Someone that wants you will be acting on it.  Someone that cares will express care.  Someone that wants your company will come close.  If that isn't happening, you are best to stop expecting it.  This is not just limited to relationships, either.  It can be local social ties or friendships, financial planning in situations, or simply whether there are things outside of yourself that are impacting or influencing your peace or joy.  It is also only based on the present.  There might be joy in the past or pain, but the reality that guides us best is whatever happens in the present without sentiment or blame.

So, this blog post is simply me saying that I am and will guide my life by what I receive and learn to flow with the waves, rather than fight them.  Wherever that leads is my next adventure to discover.