For several posts in a row and the prior weeks, focus has been upon how you should love others without expecting anything back from them and how love lasts forever for your kids and family and friends and more. And, all of that remains to be true. The choice to love someone is because you care for them, not what they can do for you. Churches will often speak of the Love of God that loved us when we did not love him.. or ourselves for that matter. Similarly, the Bible instructs people to love their neighbor without seeking anything back in return. Scripture literally says that love is "not self serving" and how someone is treating you has nothing to do with how you can love them. It is also true that receiving love is something that is fixed in time and will always be a part of your story, and I have been loved by many that are no longer in my life. Those moments of love are still wonderful memories to be that built platforms in my heart upon which to stand.
HOWEVER...
You cannot build a future upon the past. While Love is eternal and memories are wonderful to have, the future must be built upon action. To continue to spend your time waiting on love to be present is to indulge in delusion. It is either present, or it is fiction... a lie to be precise. If it was present in the past, then it was true... in the past. However, if someone is not showing you actions to indicate care, concern, desire or support, then those things are not presently active, and you cannot build a future upon what does not exist. If they stopped giving you love, for whatever reason, respect the decision and LEAVE, before you end up losing the respect for them in your past. There is a poem that I shared some months ago that is well known called "Let them." The point of the poem is simply this. If someone wants to be in your life, let them. If someone wants to leave, let them. I do not want to live the life of a puppeteer pretending something is present when it is not. That only gives them credit where it is not presently due and is wasting your time that could be spent among others that actually DO show those things.
This won't be a long blog post. I am going on a vacation in the morning, but before I go I felt it was important to post this counter to recent posts. I DID have a wonderful romance with a great woman in the past year. However, that romance was ended by her many months ago without actions by her to resume it and instead many actions to push me away. So, I will honor the past but move forward .. to happiness in my future days, as well. My hope for you is to find similar opportunities to enjoy your life looking forward, as well as honoring it in the memories of the past. You are worthy of the joy in both directions.
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