I was going to take a full month off the blog and social media posts. However, I am allowing myself to take steps back out into it with careful (attepting to be) posts and shares that apply what I am learning, since I don't expect to be fully healed or changed upon the end of a month's time, anyway. Life is a process... a messy and divergent process, and I hope that I never lose the ability to learn and grow within it. So, I wanted to cover a few concepts and thoughts that I have had in this time of silence, without giving any personal applications. I will be keeping my personal life (beyond things like what I am watching, reading, seeing, and so on), not because of things happening that I want to keep quiet but because I don't need to HAVE things to share or need to seek approval. I hope to carve out more and more of my personal joys that will never reach social media posts but to stay special, even if just a moment I have with myself. But, there are some things that I can share in a general way that I feel may benefit others.
1. Live in the present. It is easy to find yourself reflecting on the past, and I find myself doing that daily. However, I am trying more and more to live in the present... to BE present in the present. In recent times, I have started taking pictures of sunsets and taking walks and doing things that I used to do but have been too distracted to look around and notice things that brings me joy or to do things that I know I will enjoy... or try things that I may enjoy.
2. Take your time. Life is not a race. You don't have to be "ready" or force your life to be at any stage or appear like anyone else may expect. They don't know your story, and likely they really don't care about your pains or your life growth successes. Many just want mutual validation, which is why so many will give you advice that so often sounds like it applies to their own life. You can have good friends, and I hope that you do. But, I would guess that those friends would say what I am telling you now. Slow down. Take your time. Learn and grow. Have fun. It will all unfold and happen as it should in the right time.
3. Be critical of yourself... and praise yourself. One benefit of taking time away from the public is to realize that you can be honest to yourself. You can tell yourself... oh, you messed up there. Learn from that.. and know you do not lose self respect by acknowledging it but gain confidence in your future when you are real. But, while you are taking time looking at yourself, do not forget to notice how good you were and are, as well. Reconnect with the good parts of yourself that got lost along the way and learn new things that you like about yourself. In the end, how you feel about yourself may be the most important audience that you will have, and being proud of your potential is a great way to regain the swagger that you need to adventure into the days that lay ahead.
Ok. That's enough for tonight. I hope you are all finding peace in your lives and smile, today. Good night.
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