Perspective

This post is gonna wander a bit like a drunk puppy, but there is a consistent theme.... perspective.

Lately, I have been doing a lot of reframing of things that have held me paralyzed.  I don't mean that to say that I have been seeing them in a delusional way that they are not.  I simply mean that I am looking at them differently and often more simply and using them as guideposts in my decision making.  It began with my change in perspective to start applying my own personal boundaries to my choices of how and where I give my time and money and in making my future plans.  That is a healthy way of seeing things, but it is a DIFFERENT way of seeing things than I usually have done, though there have been pockets of my life where I did apply that perspective.

As an offshoot of that perspective, I have also been applying a reality based perspective that tries to see things for how they are, instead of how I wish they were.  If there is no evidence of something, I have stopped believing it is so but instead believe the evidence or lack thereof.  There is peace in that, even if it is an outcome other than I would like; because it means you can channel your energy and thoughts to other things. 

Lately, I have been reading a lot of FB posts of Jodie Foster, who is doing a lot of posts with advice and .. well... change in perspective.  She has been focusing a lot on not trying to make things happen in any certain way but to instead let things happen, as they happen.  There has been echos of this in my social media and blog posts for months, but I am taking a deeper dive into it.  If things happened a certain way or with a certain outcome, that is not something to fight but to accept and learn and grow from it... the good, the bad, or the painful.  I have other people I follow on social media that have been saying similar things.. like letting people do whatever they want to do.  Then, you know what is real. 

These led to (maybe the puppy isn't so drunk after all) me thinking, lately, that I have been looking at things in my life in an incorrect manner.  I have been trying to make my LIFE be one way or another and have often faced resistance or found myself excluded or overlooked or had plans disappear from which I had been a part.  This made me feel like I was being limited, when in fact the absolute opposite was true.  If you find yourself isolated, it means you are liberated.  If you feel you are unconnected, you have little strings.  If you stop focus on the one path that did not work, you will realize that you literally can pick from thousands of others, and the question you SHOULD be spending your time considering if which one of those would make you the most happy, rather than spending your time considering what is no more.

So, I hope this blog helps you find a new perspective if you are feeling stuck.  You might just need to shake things up a bit.  Never forget that YOU have the ultimate power and responsibility to run your life, so run it in a way that will make you happy.