One of my favorite things to do in the whole world is to sit and watch the waves or to listen to the wind or both. It's like heaven to me, and all my concerns wash away into bliss.
Do you know one thing that is true of both of those things... wind and waves? They are both so out of my control that I don't even pretend to control them. I just let them be as they are and admire them for how amazing that is. Everyone understands this, in fact. That's how sails work. People don't try to change the wind. They just adapt to it to push them forward. Surfers don't try to control the waves. They learn how to ride them.
Why am I talking about wind and waves? It's one of the recurring themes I have been noting alongside boundaries. It is an essential part of progress, in fact, to use this to move YOU forward, too. It is the appreciation of reality. You will not begin to plan and execute your steps towards happiness, if you keep expecting it to come from places with no evidence of the potential. A recent quote from an online counselor that I watch was ...
"Procrastination is the choice to endure the discomfort of inaction rather than the discomfort of progress.... choose your hard." Quinlan Walther
Unwarranted hope without evident potential only keeps us paralyzed from making the choices and setting the boundaries that are planned to take us from a place of inaction to a place of potential. So, the first step in finding happiness is seeing the lack of it without illusion and then becoming discontent with the absence. Then, you will do something about it.
So, today, take the moments you need to acknowledge the things that are not working for you, so you can get on a better path. Then, at least you are not just standing still.
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