This will be short, but i wanted to explain and give examples of boundaries in your life and why it is important to have them.
It took until this year for me to understand that boundaries are not things we put on the actions of other people but on ourselves. Many still don't get that. A boundaries isn't saying that someone else should do or don't do this or that to please me. A boundary literally says I will go this far and no more. It is our BOUNDARY of effort, giving, doing, etc. That will impact how and whether we choose to do things with or for others. It is not an either or. It can be yes, but. It can be I'll help to this extent, but I will be faithful to my own needs, first. It can be... that's a you activity or show to do without me,because I do not have an interest in it, without making conclusions about the value of the other person as a whole. And, it can be.. you are a good person but not what I need for a close connection.
Those are just a few examples, but but the point is that you are looking our for your own needs and clearly communicating your limits, while making choices to support your own peace and happiness. Because, in the end, that is our responsibility to ourselves to do.
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