Anthology of a Few Notes

I wanted to post a sort of anthology of thoughts that I'd had in recent weeks and haven't posted in a blog or just touched on them.  Some are not really long enough for a blog post and others are not necessarily where I am, entirely.  But, I believe they are all useful.

- To thine own self be true.  People and jobs will enter and exit your life, but you will remain.  Never forget that.  You can and should help others, but make sure that is never at expense of being yourself.

- Focus on what makes you happy, and if you are like me that may include making others happy. Do not limit that happiness to please others that do not add to your happiness or desire you to be happy without them.  Their interest is only in what you can provide to them.

- Time alone can be used to heal and find peace, or it can be used to stew and blame.  Time, by itself, is not healing.  Indeed, MUCH healing can also come by interaction with others, even if only a conversation or even a passionate exchange.

- Focus on problems and blame leads to problems and blame.  Focus on connection and happiness leads to that.  Choose what you want.

- Take responsibility for your life.  I have not and do not say that I do things FOR GOD, and the Devil didn't make me do anything.  Even if both exist as influences, WE live our lives and choose our paths.  Even when the path changes, I take ownership of my attempts, and there is much good to be found, even in things that fail including things to learn and ways to love.

- Finally, I am realizing how poisonous it is to try to control or own and connection to anyone.  No one likes to be controlled.  Nor do I believe any relationship should be held to contracts or "but you said" moments.  Life changes, and I think we must change in life, too, as we grow.  So, I'd say, instead  .. do good to others and enjoy them because you want to and be grateful when they want to, as well.  Hold no expectations that it will ever last more than this day and be happy when it does.  Life is never about control but gratitude and courage, and that's how I'll live, going forward.