The Dark Chronicles Act 5: Uncontrollable

Time for the next irreverent but true installment in my blog series, where I talk about things that most people know but don't speak out loud.  Often, it is because they either don't want to offend others or they are not sure that others believe it.  However, my experience over my life has been that there is a LOT of truths that are VERY important for life that people do not know, because they are not acceptable conversation in polite society.  Well, lucky for them, I happen to be of the personality type and life stage that I don't have to worry about that.

Are you passionate for life?  If you are, I would wager a life sum upon the bet that you feel both nervous about following your path and uncomfortable speaking about it or acting on it at times.  Why?  Well, it is because society doesn't want you to be passionate about anything that is different than the status quo norm.  If you are different, you are wrong.  That is the lesson that is taught over and over in our lives.  And, how can you be passionate about being... the same as everyone else?

Society loves control.  Society loves a script. Society loves pre-approval and validation in others.  In fact, validation in others is the STANDARD of what is.. in fact... acceptable.  If you have an independent mind, you are a threat to society, because you dare to make them feel bad about selling out.  There is something to be said for being able to integrate in society and impress others, and I feel that a personal journey to improve yourself will automatically accomplish that.  However, if your only standard of personal growth is impressing others, you will be a copy of a copy of a copy.... weaker and less important at every stage of change.

But, if you decide to be different... well, now there is something different.  It's like the main character in Brave New World being an individual, and the rest of the brain hive is astonished at anything .... different.  However, like as is seen in Plato's Republic, people don't like to be shown something different, and they tend to attack it, simply because it makes them feel wrong for following the crowd. 

Personally, I like to be me.  It has taken a lifetime to forge the convictions and lifestyle that I have found to be valuable for me.  It is often not popular, but it is often more functional and lasting than the society that elevates a system of impossible expectations and recycled broken systems.

Society wants you to fail.  They may cheer you in moments of your joy, but my experience is that social media and society would rather you mourn with them and fail, and they will encourage you to fail to join them.  But, I would add thing... "failure" may be success.  If you CHOOSE to fail and to be original... well, I am discovering every day that that could just be the most liberating thing you can do for your life, as you then are free to do... whatever you like.  And, doing what you like is what defines your freedom and happiness in the first place.

It should not be a statement of rebellion to say that you simply want to be happy.  Others should want that for you, as well.  However, society has changed in their boredom to feel that happiness for them is to control your happiness as well.

But... as this is a blog about YOUR happiness, I will simply say this.  Don't be afraid to offend people.  Don't be limited in YOUR happiness to please those that are not concerned about it for you.  Be uncontrollable, and MAYBE you might actually discover a path to  happy days in your life, as well.